Would you ever let people roast you?

[9tailedflame]

Depends on the context. If it's friends and family, that's one thing, my friends and i talk good-natured smack pretty much constantly, that's not a big deal, but if it's a media event filled with people you don't know very well, i'd feel pretty bad i think.

 

[Guffe]

Me and my mates roast each other all the time anyways.
In front of a big crowd? not sure, I think I know exactly what they'd say. I know myelf pretty well, so I doubt they would be able to completely surprie me.

 

[sageoftruth]

That's because it's her day, and she will murder you if you try to make her look bad. Yeah it's her soon to be husband's day too but the bride is fully in control.

Which sounds a lot like assuming the bride can't hack it. It if were my special day I'd want a funny, memorable speech made about me, not some generic "You sure do look pretty!" bullshit.

Well for one thing, the speeches about the groom are usually made by men from his circle of friends, and likewise for the bride and her friends. I wish I knew why this is, but I've repeatedly heard, mostly in psychology class, and occasionally noticed personally that ribbing seems to happen far more among groups of men than it does among groups of women. I've got female friends who have ended friendships over insults from their peers. I'm not really sure why that's the case. Perhaps if there was a wedding with a bride, who invited friends who were more comfortable with insults, then the two speeches would sound more alike?

 

[manic_depressive13]

Well for one thing, the speeches about the groom are usually made by men from his circle of friends, and likewise for the bride and her friends. I wish I knew why this is, but I've repeatedly heard, mostly in psychology class, and occasionally noticed personally that ribbing seems to happen far more among groups of men than it does among groups of women. I've got female friends who have ended friendships over insults from their peers. I'm not really sure why that's the case. Perhaps if there was a wedding with a bride, who invited friends who were more comfortable with insults, then the two speeches would sound more alike?

I guess when women do it, it's construed as bitchiness. But when men do it they're just having a laugh, so there's a lot of pressure on other men to take it. Based on this thread, it seems like a lot of guys don't actually enjoy it, while what women have replied don't seem to mind. If I had to speculate, I'd say that the women are imagining a good natured roasting, while the men are imagining the passive aggressive bullshit they have to deal with from other guys who think they're funny.

 

[sageoftruth]

Well for one thing, the speeches about the groom are usually made by men from his circle of friends, and likewise for the bride and her friends. I wish I knew why this is, but I've repeatedly heard, mostly in psychology class, and occasionally noticed personally that ribbing seems to happen far more among groups of men than it does among groups of women. I've got female friends who have ended friendships over insults from their peers. I'm not really sure why that's the case. Perhaps if there was a wedding with a bride, who invited friends who were more comfortable with insults, then the two speeches would sound more alike?

I guess when women do it, it's construed as bitchiness. But when men do it they're just having a laugh, so there's a lot of pressure on other men to take it. Based on this thread, it seems like a lot of guys don't actually enjoy it, while what women have replied don't seem to mind. If I had to speculate, I'd say that the women are imagining a good natured roasting, while the men are imagining the passive aggressive bullshit they have to deal with from other guys who think they're funny.

I figured it was probably something involving social pressure. I can sort of see how if I was watching from the sidelines it would sound "catty" for a woman to publicly insult another woman. Shame really, since it makes things less comfortable for everyone regardless of gender.

 

[Gordon_4_v1legacy]

Well chops busting makes up about 95% of how my friends and workmates interact with one another but that knowledge of each other's idiosyncrasies and personality is what makes it friendly banter/roasting/chops busting instead of verbal abuse. If someone who didn't know me spoke to me the way my friends sometimes do, I'd consider it very rude.

 

[RedRockRun]

Of course. I enjoy when people say mean things to me.