Would you give up your name?

[Nouw]

I'm indifferent about my surname because it's the most common Korean surname:Kim.

 

[Blobpie]

If the girl i marry wants to me to take her name instead, we shall put to practice the age old tradition of..... rock paper scissors

 

[Sooint]

Miles Steele

Words cannot describe how jelly I am of your name, sir. o_o

OT: I am strongly against following a set of values based solely on tradition. The traditional cultural expectation for women to take their husband's surname reeks of sexism. I would not expect my spouse to take my surname, and I would not expect to be pressured into taking hers. Ultimately, I would leave it up to her to either keep her name, take mine, or take a hyphenated surname. Although I don't have any strong feelings about my name, I don't see myself changing it. Unless hers was something really cool sounding.

 

[Freechoice]

It all depends on how awesome the name is. The superior one should win.

 

[Freechoice]

"Hello Mrs. Findley, I see you're here to pick up Wesley Senger

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Edit: Goddammit, I double posted again!

 

[Emilox The Great]

It depends on her name and how long i think the marriage will last.

But i kinda like my name its really scandinavian, though i dont think anyone beyond scandinavia can pronounce "Juul" correctly. But "Petersen" is quite easy to pronounce, i think.

 

[A3sir]

Not sure if it has been brought up yet, but if I ever get married (I'm a guy), I intend to change my name to something we both like BEFORE we get married and then she changes her name to it afterwards, so basically we get to pick our own cool last name.

 

[Psychoninja7]

I probably wouldn't take my spouse's name. I just don't see the point in it.

 

[Supertegwyn]

Depends who has the better name.

I like my last name though, but I won't push.

 

[Kuilui]

Seeing as how I am the only child in the family and so its entirely on me to carry on the family name, I'm going to go with no. It would kill my family if I gave up my last name. If I was a girl they'd probably be cool with it but since I'm not I have no excuse.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I don't feel any attachment to my name. I "changed" my first name between primary school and high school. Everyone including my family used to refer to me by my middle name. I didn't even realise it wasn't my first name until I went to high school and everyone started calling my by the name on the roll, despite my parents having specified that my middle name was my prefered name. Rather than having to correct every single one of my teachers, I decided to just go with it and, hey presto, I suddenly had a new name.

If I can get used to that I don't see why I would care about changing my surname. Surnames are rarely articulated anyway.

 

[Bertylicious]

It depends on her name and how long i think the marriage will last.

But i kinda like my name its really scandinavian, though i dont think anyone beyond scandinavia can pronounce "Juul" correctly. But "Petersen" is quite easy to pronounce, i think.

"How long I think the marriage will last"!? Jesus Christ dude!

 

[mionic]

Same as it seems many here.
I would not give up my name, not that I have much of a family pride or anything, but I'm used to it, and it pleases me. It's also relatively unique, and I like that.
Neither would I expect my special other to take mine.

 

[likalaruku]

I say you just take whomever's last name sounds cooler. A last name has so little value to me, that it baffles me that the Japanese refer to eachother by them. I went to schools with tons of people who had the same first & last names but weren't related. Nicknames were the only ones we gave value to.

 

[Samantha Burt]

AB-SO-LUTELY. I hate my surname. I'm engaged right now, and I cannot stress enough how glad I'll be to get rid of the horrid surname you see to your left.

 

[BathorysGraveland]

Well I think marriage is silly, so this isn't really an issue for me. But to answer the question generally, no I wouldn't give up my name. While there are others I prefer, I do take pride in my name, as I would expect any self-respecting person to.

 

[justnotcricket]

As a woman, I don't think I would, as there is only my sister and I left in the family to carry on our last name. No one else has it anymore, and I would feel terrible letting it die out. It's not too common of a name.

Also, these days, your name is everywhere - it's not easy career-wise to change you name especially when you have a lot of contacts and such. The amount of legwork you have to do to inform everyone just strikes me as way too difficult.

Plus all those extra fees to update everything else with a name-change. Not worth it.

...actually, you pretty much summed up everything I would have had to say here! =D I'm in exactly the same boat, down to the sister thing and everything...

Mind you, your comment about 'dying out' - I've thought about that myself, but the problem you run into is then: OK, so you have kept your name and had some children - whose name do they take? Do you have two and give one to each? Cos that's gonna get confusing... what if your husband is also the last in his family? So many permutations...

I suppose it kind of depends how attached you are to your last name. I have to admit, if I had a difficult/unpleasant surname, I wouldn't necessarily be opposed to changing it when I married, especially if my partner had a much nicer one! I'm not in that situation, however, so I suppose I'm talking through my hat a bit there. ;-)

 

[Rossmallo]

Yeah, even if I was a chick, I would refuse to lose "Mallinson".

I mean cmon, unique surname or what?

 

[Grey Day for Elcia]

If my circumstances were different, I would've, sure. I already had a body of work under my maiden name when I got married, and I would've lost a lot of professional traction if I changed it. I changed my name the first time I got married, and it was hell to get it back when I got divorced. (You'd think it would be the other way around.)

It actually causes a bit of trouble that my husband and I don't share a last name. It just confuses people; I'll call, say, the bank to talk about our account, and they'll be like "um, can you prove you're really his wife?"

You could always just not get married.

OT: I couldn't physically care any less about my name. So, sure.

 

[Creator002]

If I was a female getting married to a male, I'd probably change it, just as it seems to be the norm. If I get married and my wife didn't want to change her last name, then so be it. I don't care.
As for me taking on my wife's name, or adding her name to my last, probably not. My name is already a hyphenation of my grandparents' last names. It'd just be messy to muck around with it a bit more and I like my last name. It's truly unique, seeing that only 10 or so people in the world have it. *smug*