Would you give up your name?

[Emilox The Great]

It depends on her name and how long i think the marriage will last.

But i kinda like my name its really scandinavian, though i dont think anyone beyond scandinavia can pronounce "Juul" correctly. But "Petersen" is quite easy to pronounce, i think.

"How long I think the marriage will last"!? Jesus Christ dude!

Uh... sorry? did i say something "wrong"?

Does anyone really go into a marriage thinking, "'kay so this gig will last around 4 years I reckon"?

I'm not sure that's a valid factor to base a decision on.

I reckon it'd be fun for both spouses to have a completely new name.

Maybe i phrased it wrong, of course i wont base the decision on just a hunch.
by "how long i think the marriage will last" i mean how much i like her and how much she likes me, and how many hidden mental problems will emerge once i am in a relationship.

i apologize for any grammatical and/or spelling errors as i write this i haz teh migraines.

 

[PlatinumRenegade]

Hell no my name is awesome!

 

[Quaxar]

I assumed this was a "would you change your complete name for a cookie" kinda question. As a man I am fine with keeping my name anyway... that is unless my fictional wife had a name you just couldn't NOT take.
Like Batman. I'd marry anyone to be able to change my last name to Batman.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

Hmm.....

I think we should both keep our default last names.

But considering she has a totally badass last name, I wouldn't mind taking that as my own last name either. XD

What is it? I'm intrigued.

Her last name is Blackwood.

Totally badass, IMO.

 

[Lady Larunai]

Me and my Fiance looked at it this way, I have a brother, she does not, so I'm taking on hers to carry on her name where as my brother can carry on my families

 

[Chalacachaca]

If it sounds nice, then yeah. I mean, I'm not exactly thrilled about my last name by the side of my dad (Vargas) and I have thought about using my mom's last name because it's nicer (Paz, which means "Peace").

 

[templar1138a]

For reference: I'm male.

I wouldn't change my last name. And although I grew up with the idea that the wife generally takes on her husband's last name, I'm not against deviating from that. My fiancée wants to keep her name when we get married, and we've agreed that our kids will have our names hyphenated alphabetically as a surname (her name is German, mine is Danish, they'll work well together).

However, once we are married, I expect I'll refer to her as "Mrs. (my last name)" as an affectionate nickname. She is fine with this.

Hm, I just remembered that one of my parents knew someone who referred to their wife as "My first wife" even though they weren't divorced. It would confuse most people, but I'm going to see if my fiancée would be fine with my using that term in the same way. After all, a big reason she's not going to change her last name is that she's pragmatic.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

If I were to get married, I sure as hell wouldn't make my wife take my last name, hell, I'd even give mine up for her's if she wanted.

 

[Zukabazuka]

I would actually take one that is normal, it helps a lot in school really. Chance of being bullied because weird last name might not be that big but it can happen. But also depend on what she has.

 

[Palademon]

My last name isn't that great. It's a bit distinctive, and people say they like it or at least find it funny, so it'd be nice if my theoretical wife were to take it.

I wouldn't mind her keeping her last name. It may happen that way since I may not even get married. It'd just be a bit confusing if we have children, but I have two last names anyway and it's not very complicated, and I would only force my father's name onto the next generation.

However, if my partner's last name is Smith, I may insist on taking it. Just so I can call myself John Smith.

 

[The Funslinger]

Hmm.....

I think we should both keep our default last names.

But considering she has a totally badass last name, I wouldn't mind taking that as my own last name either. XD

What is it? I'm intrigued.

Her last name is Blackwood.

Totally badass, IMO.

Yeah, but then you'll be sharing a last name with this giant headed fucker:

 

[BrotherRool]

I'm male and I'd happily give up my name. It's not bad (Lines) but I much more love the idea of unity having the same name gives. My children would grow up loving their name, which I think it's a little messier and less like 'your name' if your parents differ

 

[KingsGambit_v1legacy]

From reading the first page alone, I'm quite sure I'm in the vast minority here, but I would want her to take my name. I can't say whether or not it would be a relationship-breaker if it came to such but it would be upsetting if she didn't take my name. My hope is that anyone I fall for is likely to be a woman for whom it wouldn't be an issue. Any kids would take my name as well.

 

[almostgold]

Hell no. And I absolutely expect my future wife to take my last name. Call me Old-Fashioned, but I like old-fashioned. To me, thats the way the whole thing is supposed to work.

I suppose I'd be okay with her getting a hyphenated name ( Maiden-Mine).

Now my question for those of you who are in a marriage with two different last names, or plan to be: What last name do the kids get?

 

[Something Amyss]

Nope, she benefits and so do I.

Interesting. How do you benefit?

I also believe that coming together under one family name is part of what makes you a family, just as much as any piece of paper the government hands you.

Yes, a name is quite important.