Would you stay in a relationship with someone you loved if there was going to be no sex, garuanteed?
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no sex at all is fine, so long as she isn't gonna complain that i "take care of business" myself if you understand the euphemism, now if she was REALLY religious like constantly harping about it id be gone, i cant stand those kinds of people at all
As a married person, hard to believe from the immature shit I have been posting lately, let me tell you my experience.silverleaf81 said:
Its true that humans do get tired of a routine. I think that the positive's of marriage (a good one) outweigh the lack of novelty in the bedroom. There are things you can do to keep the sex interesting, but it will never be as interesting as sex with a bunch of different people.
Yes. The fact that I love the other person is the point.
Compared to sex without love, love without sex is a good choice.
Compared to sex without love, love without sex is a good choice.
yeah I'm referring to you but you never answered my question when I quoted you so I started talking about you with someone else.Everin said:
I'm still waiting for you to define sex. Without it, I find it hard to answer your question of even really care. So I started thinking about pie.
Tough question. Maybe yes because I love the person (and it'll take quite a bit for me to love someone), and maybe no because it adds something special into the mix.
No. First of all, I like sex. Second of all, sex is vital to any good relationship. It makes people feel closer to each other, this is proven. Third, I don't want to marry a guy and then find out we aren't sexually compatible, and then be stuck with that for the rest of my life.
So, basically getting married? *insert laughs here*
No, and I don't care if it makes me shallow.
Part of a relationship(or love, your choice) is expressing your feelings in a physical way. Sex is an important part of a relationship.
I don't place a high value on sex. Been there, done that, and it's not all it's cracked up to be. But it is still important to a relationship. A person that outright says "We'll never have sex" might as well tell me that they want to be with me, but they don't want to be close to me.
No, and I don't care if it makes me shallow.
Part of a relationship(or love, your choice) is expressing your feelings in a physical way. Sex is an important part of a relationship.
I don't place a high value on sex. Been there, done that, and it's not all it's cracked up to be. But it is still important to a relationship. A person that outright says "We'll never have sex" might as well tell me that they want to be with me, but they don't want to be close to me.
If you love her then I would say hell yes that's okie. Pre-marital sex isn't everything. But be careful about those religious people, that funny book they have tells them to do some pretty messed up stuff. (such as killing non-virgin women if they get married)
no sex until marriage? well, it depends. if they are to go so far as to claim it is the devil's work, will guarantee a trip to hell etc., then i think there are bigger issues than no sex.
but i find no problem with it. it is probably better if a relationship is founded on something other than sex anyway, especially since as time goes on it WILL happen less.
but i find no problem with it. it is probably better if a relationship is founded on something other than sex anyway, especially since as time goes on it WILL happen less.
Well, the context of sex in this example is the actual act of having sex. Other things on the side are fine for her, but the actual act of love making is out of bounds. I'mm not sure why she believes that, apart from the bible tells her to, but she thinks thats the only thing off limits. Anything before that is fine.khaimera said:
Nope. I've gone 16 months without it, Im male and 20. (And Athiest)
my feelings are if you want a serious relationship sex must be involved, I have been in TOO many relationships where Im just their labeled boyfriend and the occasional hug. Im 20 for gods sake not 12.
my feelings are if you want a serious relationship sex must be involved, I have been in TOO many relationships where Im just their labeled boyfriend and the occasional hug. Im 20 for gods sake not 12.
Okay, thanks.Everin said:
In that case, if you love her, then you should wait. I can't remember if you were asking for advice or just if we could be in a relationship like that.
I would have no problem waiting for sex until marriage. You might get to have sex as a married person that way.
I'm married and rarely have sex anymore.
I'd be fine to be with someone who believed in God.
I would not be with someone who believed in what I consider the more illogical beliefs of religious groups.
No sex before marriage is one of these. To believe that is to believe that there is some substantial difference in a relatioship which occurs only after marriage. To me, you make a commitment to someone when you start a relationship. The commitment grows stronger over time, but it should be at its peak long before engagement. Once its reached its peak (ie you're both convinced that you love each other and could commit to each other) there is no reason to not have sex.
Some other beliefs that I consider illogical are:
-Homosexuality is sinful
-Non belief is sinful
-Contraception is sinful
-Abortion is always sinful
I would not be with someone who believed in what I consider the more illogical beliefs of religious groups.
No sex before marriage is one of these. To believe that is to believe that there is some substantial difference in a relatioship which occurs only after marriage. To me, you make a commitment to someone when you start a relationship. The commitment grows stronger over time, but it should be at its peak long before engagement. Once its reached its peak (ie you're both convinced that you love each other and could commit to each other) there is no reason to not have sex.
Some other beliefs that I consider illogical are:
-Homosexuality is sinful
-Non belief is sinful
-Contraception is sinful
-Abortion is always sinful