You discover your children are attracted to each other...

[geK0]

I find in a lot of situations where I don't know what the hell to do, I just avoid the issue and end up doing nothing.

This would likely be one of those situations.

If they weren't extremely blatant about it (I figure that's something they would try to keep secret) I would pretend I didn't know.

It's probably not the right thing to do, but it's an honest answer.

 

[axillarypuma]

Judging your children on their sexual orientation is one thing. Dictating who they can't bump uglies with is something else entirely. Look, I want to think I'd be fine with whoever my children choose to be with, but you only have so many siblings in your life. That kind of relationship is special and cannot be replaced. Letting them get freaky because they are confused teenagers (teenagers generally don't know what the fuck they actually want) seems like poor parenting in my mind. Sure, if they're in their 30's and their banging, I am going assume I did something wrong and be grossed out, but I wouldn't love them any less.

Fappy's right, teenagers don't know what the fuck they actually wan't to do with their lives, I'm telling this being a teenager myself, still tho I'm just confused on what the fuck to do with my life but that's it, if they where older I suppose it would be a hard thing to deal with at first, but eh why bother going crazy about it, let them do what they wanna do, as weird as incest is, I wouldn't get mad at them, on the other hand if I catch them in the middle of well... business. HEADS WILL ROLL. Maybe i dunno, I don't have to worry about that shit right now.

 

[thewatergamer]

Uhhhh, not against Same-Sex relationships or anything but this is just... wrong

Really Really wrong, my response go to therapy to figure out what's going on,

besides this type of thing wouldn't likely happen anyway we as a species just aren't attracted to siblings...

 

[Fox12]

I'd scream on them for WTF they are thinking. There's a limit to what's accaptable.

pretty much...

I'm open minded, but this is unacceptable. Ignoring the social taboo associated with this, imagine the affect on the family, and the psychological impact on everyone involved. What happens when they break up? They're sixteen, and they're siblings, they will break up. It's a time bomb that will scar the whole family. Imagine the physical, mental and emotional scars it would have on any children. For something like this to happen, the children would have to have some serious psychological issues. To pretend like everything okay would be... unethical. I'd promptly get them counseling, to make sure they didn't suffer any kind of abuse that I was unaware of.

 

[Robert Marrs]

While being attracted to a sibling might not be that abnormal its still just an attraction. Attraction is not love I am attracted to half of the people I see in one day. To actually encourage something like that is pretty terrible. Set aside the social stigma they would face and the fact that it is illegal, if somebody found out you were actually encouraging something like that you could easily have your kids taken away. To be honest I would support you having your kids taken away. Even 14-16 year old kids don't really know what they want and you could be setting them up for something that could ruin their lives or at least do some mental damage. Seriously I hope you are just kidding and if you are not I hope you never have kids because you obviously lack reasoning and judgment skills.

 

[skywolfblue]

Separate them until they're adults. Not teenagers, ADULTS, 19 or 20.

If they're still attracted to each other after the hormones wear off and they're fully aware of the situation, and they still want to do it, it's fine. But they're likely to be making a serious mistake if they're doing it as teens. It's your job as a parent to try the best you can to prevent them from doing something they'll regret later.

 

[michael87cn]

Sure... why not. Let's just start saying everything is okay and be done with it. Let's just throw our arms in the air in regards to... EVERYTHING. Because everything is okay. Nothing can be wrong. Feelings might get HURT!

 

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That would not happen if the children were raised properly.
If they did that, they'd be insane.
If they were insane, they'd need commiting to a mental hospital immedately. Because something would be seriously wrong with them.
Incest is always wrong and is disgusting.

Could you cite some evidence for that? And please don't quote the Westermarck effect. Just because we evolved to find something distasteful doesn't mean it's morally wrong. The inbreeding thing doesn't hold much water either, provided one has access to contraception. Besides, using inbreeding as a justification for opposing incest on moral grounds falls apart in the case of relationships between same-sex siblings. And please don't conflate parental incest with sibling incest. Also keep in mind that I don't think incest can be okay unless the two participants are of roughly the same age and the same mental capacity; I don't want to come across as an apologist for sexual abuse.

By the way, I'm not trying to put words in your mouth or dismiss your argument before you give it, I just want to avoid arguing over the same points that always come up in these threads.

OT: If it were my kids... well, I can't really say how I would react, not being a parent myself, but I can try to guess. I wouldn't have any moral problem with it, even if I found it disgusting. Like other posters have said, I would worry about the effect it could have on their relationship as brother and sister. I would want to talk about it with them, make sure that they knew what they were getting into. I would only allow it to continue if I could be very, very sure that it wouldn't cause any emotional or psychological damage for them down the line. In fact, I would support them 100%.

If they're both adults, though, absolutely no problem whatsoever. I figure they'll have lived long enough to make an informed decision on their own by then.

Also, Kudos @chinangel for addressing this topic. It's one that really needs to be discussed more.

Edit:

Sure... why not. Let's just start saying everything is okay and be done with it. Let's just throw our arms in the air in regards to... EVERYTHING. Because everything is okay. Nothing can be wrong. Feelings might get HURT!

I'm pretty sure more feelings get hurt by suggesting that incest can be okay than the other way around. You don't have to blame political correctness for everything you disagree with.

 

[TheIceQueen]

I don't see the fuss over it, even if they were a heterosexual couple. As long as they're consenting and no pressure or coercion is involved, people should be allowed to love who they want to love. It's not my place to judge what you do in the bedroom and who you are attached to so long as no one is being hurt in the process.

 

[LetalisK]

I did not wish to bother with your whole post. Just that one part caught my eyes and I replied to it only.

That seems odd since my entire post is relevant to what you said and directly addresses the point you brought up. But okay.

 

[Little Woodsman]

Well for what it's worth, I know a lesbian couple, who are sisters and are respected in their community (one is a middle school teacher) and are considered 'normal' by everyone who knows them. (I should probably point out that they are not 'out' but given the way they act with each other in public at least a few other people have to know.)
OT--no clue.

 

[MrHide-Patten]

I would start projectile vomiting and wonder where I went wrong as parent. I'd be cool with them being gay, be gay with others. Incest is just so... gross, don't know why Japan loves it so much in their hentai (xenophobia maybe).

Cannot explain my disgust, it's just involuntary, like watching the Human Centipede, or two men go at it (they can be gay, just in another room guys).

 

[McElroy]

That relationship would probably screw more things than just the two of them. At that age I wouldn't take anyone's "love" very seriously, Attraction? Sure, but I'd try and get to the bottom of it. Letting them have it would most likely be a high-risk low-reward situation.

Or something else... the hell could I know? I don't have kids. I can't really pretend to know the mindset of a teenager's parent.

 

[Parasondox]

"But in the Bible..." - Shut up former Catholic self. No one is asking you anything so pipe down.


On a Serious Note: I seriously did not know that, after reading the many post in this thread, a lot of you would respond;

"Yeah sure I see nothing wrong with it."

Has others who replied similar to that, thought about it in the view point of the parents? If it were my children (still questioning if i even want kids or not), I'd think of myself as a failed parent. I don't mind if they were gay with other people but not their sibling. Even hetro-relationships, have it with others not your younger brother or sister. Hear many points made here and still trying hard to process it and understand it but until then, I'll have to say I wouldn't allow it.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I would have very long discussions with my partner about it, that much can be guaranteed.

If it ultimately gets our blessing or not is questionable. Personally I'm dead-set against incestual relationships so it would disgust me to no end. The homosexuality I would be perfectly fine with but siblings in the house? Ech...

It would take a lot of convincing from everyone in the house, partner and all the children in the house to get me to accept it. I hope I never have to explain to my kids that feelings like that are appropriate outside of the family.

 

[Dragonlayer]

Force them to be the main characters in my disgusting new incest manga.

So, to discourage them from doing anything, write weird fanfiction about your kids. I can get behind this.

It's how I deal with most of life's problems: write fan-fiction with as much filthy erotica as possible. Then cry myself to sleep.

 

[chinangel]

Force them to be the main characters in my disgusting new incest manga.

So, to discourage them from doing anything, write weird fanfiction about your kids. I can get behind this.

It's how I deal with most of life's problems: write fan-fiction with as much filthy erotica as possible. Then cry myself to sleep.

that seems like the problem-solving skill of most writers actually.

 

[Dragonlayer]

Force them to be the main characters in my disgusting new incest manga.

So, to discourage them from doing anything, write weird fanfiction about your kids. I can get behind this.

It's how I deal with most of life's problems: write fan-fiction with as much filthy erotica as possible. Then cry myself to sleep.

that seems like the problem-solving skill of most writers actually.

Why wouldn't it be? After all, it requires absolutely no effort whatsoever: load up a Word document, splurge your abominable fantasies all over the page and then upload it to that bastion of quality control, the internet and watch the praise flow.