Hollywood Knights said:
Too much wall of text... so I didn't read it all.
But to your point of "defensive and embarrassed", it's more like this:
JRPG fans on this site are defensive because we are often trolled and ridiculed for the games we enjoy. It seems to most often come from fans of a certain other brand of RPG (add a W) and specifically from from fans of a certain company that's in the MM final (starts with a B).
Because of our enjoyment of that type of game, we get called "weeabo", "japanophile", "fanboy", etc...
And you're surprised that we might get a little defensive?
If anything it's the attitude on this site toward JRPGs that must change.