You, other people and your room

[MiskWisk]

This thought just popped into my head and I thought "why not?"

Basically, what are you like with other people in your bedroom? Recently, I thought I was pretty okay with it. Mostly because very few people actually go into my bedroom and I spent very little time in there when I wasn't sleeping at my parent's house. However, I have found I am actually really passive-aggressive about people going into my room. I will get really agitated about people being in my room at university even if I am in and will try and hurry people into leaving as quickly as possible. I suppose I just don't like people coming into my little cave of me-space as pathetic as that sounds.

Anyway, what is your reaction to people coming and going from your room?

 

[Scarim Coral]

Hard to say since the only people who entered my room are my family and relative but in saying so it does annoyed me when they moved it around to make it more tidy.

Same apply to my old room when I used to have friends over (now former) althought it annoyed me to no ends when they messed up and by all means they did messed it up!!!! Great I am now reminded how much of an arse they were!

 

[sky14kemea]

"Why are you in my room."

Unless the answer is "I was petting your cats" the next thing they're saying is "ow my crotch, you've kicked me in the crotch".

The only reason for people to be in my bedroom nowadays is if they were following my cats. All my stuff is in a separate room since I moved house. Q,Q

 

[Fractral]

My parents never learned to knock at my door, so while living at home I got used to people just barging in while I was in the middle of something. It led to some... awkward moments, shall we say. Now that I've spent time living at Uni and have my own room with an actual lock(!) and people have to knock if they want to come in, I've grown far less tolerant of people walking into my room. As a result while living at home again this Christmas I've gotten into quite a few arguments with my family over them not knocking before entering, among other things.
While at Uni I don't like people coming into my room unless they absolutely have to. It's always messy and the people I hang around with have a habit of making snarky sarcastic comments about it. At least this year I can lock my room; when I move into a shared house next year I have a feeling it will get worse again.

 

[JoJo]

I don't really mind people coming or going as long as they knock, it's not a place where I hangout much with others but that's mainly because it's rather small and doesn't have any chairs for guests to sit on rather than any personal preference.

 

[Blackhawk661]

I never had much problem with it. Even when they make mess in my room, i don't mind it, because most of the time i make mess as well.

 

[Barbas]

I try not to get agitated if people walk into my room without knocking, even though I consider it a private and comfortable place in the corner of the house to read a nice book or curl up in a warm chair and listen to some music. In most of the cases I can remember, people walked into my room without thinking because it was just something they were used to doing when they lived in dormitories.

Maybe it's an odd personal or cultural quirk, but I like to think that it should be a meaningful gesture when you invite someone to your personal quarters. Having said that, this place currently looks like it was recently ravaged by vengeful poltergeists. People don't come around here any more...

 

[Lieju]

Well, I live in a one-room flat, so if you're in my home you're in my bedroom.
And unless you're my mum (who sleeps on my floor/uses my flat when she has business in the city) I'm not letting you stay there unsupervised.

Or even supervised. You need to be a level 4 friend (unlocked by the quest where you slay an orc to retrieve my precious childhood memory) to enter.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I don't mind when people are in my room when I'm there but I do feel uncomfortable if someone goes into my room when I'm out of the house.

I'm an only-child so I don't like it when people feel at liberty to go into my room without asking when I'm not around.

This is mostly in relation to housemates, obviously people are in and out of my room at my family home all of the time. I haven't lived there for years though so that's to be expected.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Weirdly, had a discussion with my mum about this a few weeks ago. I had been away for the weekend and my niece and neighbours kid went into my room and played on my 360. Neighbours kid had build a load of stuff on Minecraft and left me a sign saying it was him. I was torn between being impressed at what he built and being angry. My niece had been on Netflix and watched a load of kids shows.

What annoys me is that they either a) went into my room thinking they were allowed or b) asked my mum if they could go into my room and she said yes without asking me first. It is nothing to do with her because it's my room and it's me they should be asking for permission to touch my stuff.

Them using my room didn't bother me as such, the fact they did it without my knowledge or permission while I was away annoyed me. I made my thoughts clear to mum and asked her if she could ring me next time instead of assuming I would be okay. It slightly creeps me out thinking people are in my room.

I don't like it when I'm in here trying to relax and people just barge in either.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

I dislike it when my family go into my room but I'm okay with my friends being in my room, even if I'm not home.

But everyone has to knock or I get a bit pissy.
Except my SO, they get to barge in whenever.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

If you're in my room, we're probably about to have sexy times and/or play games.
That came out pretty stupid. My point is I live alone, and only my girlfriend comes into my bedroom.

 

[CrystalViolet]

Nobody comes into my room without knocking. I would get totally pissed otherwise. Even when staying with my parents they know to knock.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

"Shit, its messy. Sorry. Now let's do this thing that brought you here."

I will be cleaning up for a special someone coming over eventually however. <.<

 

[gigastar]

Im fairly neutral as things go, unless i find out that anyone removed anything without asking. That pisses me off.

My sister however, she will fly into hysterics if she finds out that anyone so much as entered her room without permission.

 

[StormShaun]

It depends.
I live with the family still. So I don't mind if they leave/pick-up washing.
Searching through my stuff is a NO go. Though my family respect my privacy, so it's fine.

Now when it comes to friends.
Only my best friend comes in, then he opens drawers, and searches through my stuff.
Which is really annoying to me. Especially since I'm sensitive about my own privacy. I just don't like it when people rummage through my stuff.

Since my room is clean and organized all the time, I get annoyed when they move stuff.
Other than that, no one really enters.

 

[sanquin]

I grew up with a younger brother and 2 parents whom weren't too good at knocking and such. And when I moved out I lived together with someone else for a good year or two. So I guess it's not that big of a problem for me. Heck I kind of like it when people come over, as the only people coming over are friends and possibly my mother, and I'm usually alone at home anyway. Now moving my stuff in MY room...specifically my computer room. I'm very particular about that. Especially the desk I'm sitting at right now. Everything has a specific place, and I want to keep it that way.

 

[Kotaro]

No one ever bothers going into my bedroom. I have a bed and dresser in there and there's no room for anything else. So there's no reason to be in there when I have a perfectly good living room.

 

[Imperioratorex Caprae]

When I lived with my parents, I was fine with friends coming over and hanging out. I'd even once set up a LAN in the room after tipping the bed (two twin mattresses on the floor because fuck frames and boxsprings) on its side and setting up a folding table, a few power strips and the hub.
After graduating high school I moved around a lot, stayed with friends at times as a professional couch surfer, slept in the NOC room at the office at one point on a cot at my old job (I miss that place) and when I moved in with my brothers, we shared a room (not biological brothers, just a couple guys who became family over the years). I never had boundary issues with them, we shared damn near everything.
I had multiple apartments later in life, all of which were populated by shitty roommates I couldn't stand and would ban from my room. Especially after the incident where I went to work one day, came home and every damn thing I owned was stolen from me, furniture, Warhammer 40k armies (somewhere in the vicinity of thousands of dollars worth, not including man-hours painting them), all my tabletop RPG books collected over the years. The only things left were my PC which I would drag to work each day for an after-work LAN party at the office and my guitar.
So aside from when I lived with my brothers, I didn't let anyone else into my room because if you're not family I don't fucking trust you with my shit. Of course if you're a friend, to me you're family and if you fuck me over you're going to pay dearly. I don't like to be vengeful but my personality has a mirror that savors vengeance.
With my wife, we're fairly open with our room but no one goes in there without one of us chaperoning them. Trust only goes so far, unless my remaining brother (the other one passed away) were to come over. He's probably the only person I'd ever leave alone in my room for any length of time, and only because I trust him about as much as I trust myself.
So I'm not super crazy about visitors to my domain, just as long as they respect it (and know they'll be in for a world of shit if they fuck with my stuff).