You should try internet dating?

[Zorak the Mantis]

I've tried it a bit, with limited success. Unfortunately in my experience the majority of people I met online were either socially awkward or just looking for a one night stand. But there are a few good people out there, you just have to look.

 

[LiraelG]

Sorry im just tired of being judged by others based on relationships with morons who dont care. I care but when im not even trusted enough to be told whats going on and just getting lashed at... Yea im tired of it. Im tired of distant people.

In the least offensive way possible, this attitude is a little immature and doesn't bode well for a relationship. People are going to get emotional, and they aren't always going to want to tell you what's wrong. A partner will need space. If you truly love them, and if you truly want a positive relationship, you can't have it all on your terms. What you have to do is support them, and you do that by being there when they need you. If they don't want to tell you, it doesn't always mean they distrust you.

Also, since this girl has had bad experiences in the past, it's natural for her to want to be careful. You shouldn't take her caution personally. Instead, you should have shown her that you're not the same by respecting her decision to tell you when she was ready.

Note: I know what it's like to have someone else lash out. I know what it's like to want to help, but to feel like you aren't being given the chance. But I have learnt that to be the best partner, you help on THEIR terms. I have learnt that their lashing out isn't necessarily personal and that sometimes they just need space. The girl is human, she has emotions, and what she went through was extremely difficult. Don't criticise her for being distant. It's not easy talking about the illness of someone close to you, especially when others have been idiots in the past. She was protecting herself.

As for online dating, it depends. My uncle met his current wife online, but I think he was lucky. I met several exes on forums, and none of them turned out to be who I thought. They didn't lie to me; I just read things into what they said. Doing so is unavoidable. When you're online, you deal with a different mode of communication - IM, the phone, webcam - which doesn't reflect all aspects of a personality. You end up filling in the blanks, and fabricate a person, using what they have said online as the foundations.

Honestly, meeting someone in person is the best way to go. You could use dating sites to find people who want to date, but don't use the online world to further a relationship. You don't get to know someone properly until you spend a lot of time together, in person and in close contact.

 

[Archangel768]

I used to think it was really stupid and laugh at it. Then, my brother started dating someone. Turned out that they met on a dating sight and they have been married for about a year and a half now. Seems to have turned out alright. So now I don't think so little of internet dating.
They used eharmony btw. just in case you were wondering.

 

[Girl With One Eye]

I'd say you should try it, but with a few notes:

- Take it to RL as soon as possible. Find a girl online, get a first impression online and then take here on a RL date. There's a lot of things you can only find out about someone in RL. Body language, touches, smiles, voices, visible emotions etc. etc. etc. All of them extremely important in relationships and you can only find out about them in RL. Find the girl online, date her in RL.

That's pretty much the advice I would give. I met someone really special online once, so I guess I was lucky to have a good experience. Just try and be a little more careful than you normally would.