Your current relationship, be honest, Did you "settle"?
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Settle? No. I'm batting waaay out of my league when it comes to my girlfriend. Which is oddly paranoia inducing, it seems.
Not at all! I had an enormous crush on my girlfriend for 3 years (which was how long I'd known her) before we started dating. We've been together for 4 years.
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It's little things like this that are a huge confidence boost. For the longest time, I thought I was inadequate at socializing, making friends, relatinships, ect. But I've made efforts to be more open, expressive and outgoing, and I've figured out that when it comes to basically anything, nobody really knows what they're doing. So I just trust that I'm a good person, stay open to new ideas, and go for things.
I tend to think and talk about relationships (and pretty much everything) a lot.
The girl I'm with at the moment... well, when I first started getting to know her, I wasn't interested. She seemed like the kinda person who'd make a good friend though, so we started talking more. Needless to say, she grew on me. I don't feel like I've settled, but she's not quite the kinda person I thought I'd end up with either. I just hope she doesn't feel like she's settled.
I've had a mix for have and haven't in the past, and I'll admit that neither types of relationships were exceptionally tragic, in fact most of them have been quite good. But I think it kind of depends on your personality (how accommodating you are) and what kind of mindset you have going into the relationship.
If you go into it thinking, "yeah, it's time to find the girl to settle with, and although she's not quite 'the one', I think we can make it work, I'm getting older anyhow" then yeah, 'settling' is probly not the greatest idea. But if you just like the girl and wanna try things out, why not. Also, it takes a bit of introspection. If you know you're the kinda guy who may suddenly turn asshole and decide that you can't handle the aspects of her you 'settled' with, then you are just being a fool. It's better to man up and accept these things before you hurt anyone.
Having said all that, I'm a happily married man, to a girl who is even *better* than my ideal wife (if that's even possible).
If you go into it thinking, "yeah, it's time to find the girl to settle with, and although she's not quite 'the one', I think we can make it work, I'm getting older anyhow" then yeah, 'settling' is probly not the greatest idea. But if you just like the girl and wanna try things out, why not. Also, it takes a bit of introspection. If you know you're the kinda guy who may suddenly turn asshole and decide that you can't handle the aspects of her you 'settled' with, then you are just being a fool. It's better to man up and accept these things before you hurt anyone.
Having said all that, I'm a happily married man, to a girl who is even *better* than my ideal wife (if that's even possible).
No. I won't settle for anything. This is the water mark. You don't pass it, too bad.
Might have something with not wanting a "romantic" relationship to begin with.
Might have something with not wanting a "romantic" relationship to begin with.
The one that just ended, no. No, I did not settle. He was perfect for me. Not holding my breath for him to come back, but hoping pretty hard.
Generally, I've learned not to settle. I did that once.. sort of. I think the situation was that I didn't see myself being able to do better. Or maybe just that I didn't think I'd find anyone else. That three-year train wreck ended after an engagement and a down payment on a reception hall. I swear, I will pay my mother back one day.
Generally, I've learned not to settle. I did that once.. sort of. I think the situation was that I didn't see myself being able to do better. Or maybe just that I didn't think I'd find anyone else. That three-year train wreck ended after an engagement and a down payment on a reception hall. I swear, I will pay my mother back one day.
This is a very complicated question for me and I am still trying to answer it myself from time to time.
I have been with my girlfriend with more than half a year, I got into this relationship with her 2 weeks after I broke up with my shitty ex. Before anyone saying that it was too soon, I agree it was too soon. Sometimes, I am still struggling if I want to have more fun or not, but then I start taking a rational approach to this.
My girlfriend is hands down one of the best, nicest person I have ever met, she is also very pretty and very motivated. She is the best girlfriend ever, it is not worth losing her over some random fun I can have with other girls. We love each other a lot and we both have some sort of directions we are heading to, I would love to settle down with her eventually.
Besides, it so awesome to date a Russian girl. XD
I have been with my girlfriend with more than half a year, I got into this relationship with her 2 weeks after I broke up with my shitty ex. Before anyone saying that it was too soon, I agree it was too soon. Sometimes, I am still struggling if I want to have more fun or not, but then I start taking a rational approach to this.
My girlfriend is hands down one of the best, nicest person I have ever met, she is also very pretty and very motivated. She is the best girlfriend ever, it is not worth losing her over some random fun I can have with other girls. We love each other a lot and we both have some sort of directions we are heading to, I would love to settle down with her eventually.
Besides, it so awesome to date a Russian girl. XD
But its already a social community, I mean, I see your point, but it can already act as one. Personally, I'm not fond of long distance relationships. I actually dislike them so much, I think I may have missed out on a great girl, I still wonder sometimes.BabyRaptor said:
