Your Dad Might Not Be Your Dad. Response?

[Kopikatsu]

Nobody in my family knows who my biological father is, because my mother had a really hard time keeping it in her pants. She was also a drug addict, so you know. That probably helped.

So, raised by grandparents. Somewhat relevant, a girl who isn't my cousin (She's not related to me by blood at all) was raised by her grandparents as well, but she was told that her mother was actually her sister (and lived together with her). So that was weird.

 

[Snowbell]

I look nothing like my father or his family and I have scarce stories of my birth and growing up, I wouldn't be surprised if I was adopted, let alone if I wasn't my father's child.

 

[Quazimofo]

So just curious fellow Escapists, if you were aware, or are even in a close situation, would you be curious about who your father actually was? Or are you/would you be happy in the situation you were given?

Both. I would like to know who my biological father actually was(to satiate my curiosity), but I would still consider the man who raised me to be my father, blood or not. Family is what you make it. I have blood relatives I don't consider family and friends I do consider family.

Took the words right out of my mouth. Like, seriously, exactly this.
I do not care if the man who raised me as his son was my biological father or not. He is my father because he took the time and effort to teach me right from wrong, to support me and my interests even as they diverge from his (he was always a sports/car geek. Other "geeky" things are my domain). Choice and action defines people, not circumstance. He chose to raise me, so he is my father, blood or no.

 

[aceman67]

I know who my father is, but i was raised by my step-father from the age of 6. He taught me how to ride a bike, how to fish, how to play baseball and hockey, how to skate. He showed me how to drive and got me my first car when i left for college.

And all the sperm-donor did was buy me a shitty ass bike that my step dad had to spend over a hundred bucks fixing because it fell apart, then not pay his child support for 20 years and not speak to me for all that time. Didn't Show for my high school graduation, didn't offer to help pay for my education, didnt even call when i was almost killed in a car crash.

Last time i spoke to him he had the gall to ask me for money.

What im trying to say is sometimes it doesn't matter if you know who your father is, if the man who raised you loves you and does a good job raising you, then hes your dad.

Anybody can be a father, it takes a special man to be a Dad.

 

[DarkRyter]

Time to start making moves on that sexy, sexy half sister.

 

[Ghonzor]

Short answer: throw a week long party.

 

[General Vagueness]

well, 1: I would always wonder and 2: there are certain genetic disorders and susceptibilities that I would want to know about for myself and for any kids I might have, so I'd want to know for sure... that would be one heck of an awkward conversation, but I'd try to force myself to have it

 

[loc978]

It would explain a thing or two about my health being as good as it is, but that can already be explained away by recessive genes. My dad is the only person in our entire extended family who has any of the health problems he does.

That said, he'd still be my dad, and I'd still look up to him. He's accomplished more with a broken body than I ever will with a whole one...
for which I blame rap music and sex on TV. Also violent videogames.

I do have such a situation in my ancestry, though. No one is sure who my paternal great-grandfather was. My family name is a best guess among three candidates. Frontier sexytimes at the end of the 19th century were apparently kinda crowded. No wonder my granddad joined the army when he was 16. One of the few who didn't get drafted to fight in the pacific. He already had some rank when it kicked off (didn't keep it, though. He was a Staff Sergeant through most of it, but he was discharged as a PFC. My grandfather was a very angry man).