Your mom is facing your books

[concrete89]

Meh. There are plenty of other places to go online if I want privacy. Anyone who posts anything of any real importance on facebook kinda has it coming.

 

[Aranialis]

I've flat out told them that I will never add them to facebook, even if they made one and sent an invite. Not because I'm hiding anything, but because it's an invasion of privacy. I told them I would show it to them if they wanted me to, but I won't add them to it. They're ok with that at least, though they never really ask to see it. I have good parents I guess lol.

Let me see if i understand this right, you allow others, friends of friends (perfect strangers) to look at your facebook (its inevitable), but you don't allow your family?

Makes no sense to me, I have a facebook and i hate it, if i want to share my experiences I do it to those I so choose to. I really don't care about how awesome my cousin thought that beer fest was, or if my little teen cousin finds bieber great or not. i don't care much about being bombarded with info I really don't want to know. Its also an invasion of privacy, which in my opinion is all that Facebook and other like it are.

i said it, and I will again, I hate it.

Also On Topic. No I wouldn't change my actions just because my parents can look at it, maybe that's because i share what i share first and foremost with those I deem important. My parents raised me, they have a whole lot more life experience than me... so yes I will open myself more about my life to them then to Facebookness.

 

[SonicKaos]

Let me see if i understand this right, you allow others, friends of friends (perfect strangers) to look at your facebook (its inevitable), but you don't allow your family?

Well, I do have mine set so that people not on my friends list can't see anything. If friends of friends look at my facebook at one of those friends houses then I guess I can't stop that, but they won't see much either since I don't post much. If you don't want anything to be known, then don't tell anyone. Therefore I don't put anything I wouldn't want someone to find out on my facebook anyway. I'd wonder why friends were showing other friends my profile though lol.

 

[Aranialis]

Let me see if i understand this right, you allow others, friends of friends (perfect strangers) to look at your facebook (its inevitable), but you don't allow your family?

Well, I do have mine set so that people not on my friends list can't see anything. If friends of friends look at my facebook at one of those friends houses then I guess I can't stop that, but they won't see much either since I don't post much. If you don't want anything to be known, then don't tell anyone. Therefore I don't put anything I wouldn't want someone to find out on my facebook anyway. I'd wonder why friends were showing other friends my profile though lol.

I Agree with you and, i see where you are going.

About friends showing other friends their friends facebook. Why not if its there its to be seen, if something interesting or amusing was to come around, why not show it, its on the internet after all. But I understand, and its just the same if, as you say, the posts are rare and Widely public.

 

[scorptatious]

I have both my parents on my Facebook. Which means that I have to be careful about what I post on there. As both my parents use their Facebook accounts as ways of contact for potential clients in their business. If I said anything foul or inappropriate I'd catch hell from them.

This one time I commented on one of my friend's posts about how pissed he was that celebrities like Kim Kardashian gained their fortune for nothing, while he has to struggle paying for college. He ended his post with "fuck the world". Foolishly, I commented on how I agreed with him, then later, my mom saw that I commented on his post, thought that I was the one who swore and got angry with me.

Looking back, I thought it was pretty funny. But from now on I hide my friend's posts whenever I comment on them.

 

[zxamike]

lol if its only facebook then i dont care but if its everything then i would have to change a few but not most i would be embarrassed about the anime i watch (NOT LIKE THAT PERV) ok a little like that but its anime

 

[fulano]

I'm so glad I'm an adult.

This is gonna sound condescending, but here goes: if there's something you feel like you should keep your parents from finding out, and they are not crazy people, then you are being a silly, silly child.

Why? B/c social networking sites are the last place in the world for that kind of content. You have to be a dummy if you think even for a second that whatever you are putting up there is not being tracked by some third party or another, be it an advertising film, the government, or Facebook itself.

If you are above thirteen, the minimum age you are allowed to have a Facebok ccount, then you have no excuse to not be aware of this. It's as smart as taking dick pictures and sending them over to someone's cellphone.

 

[tharglet]

I have FB, added my sister, who it turns out is a fucking snitch. My mother then bithced about my swearing. Blocked my sister after that so fucking petty. Apparently swearig reflects bad on her (my mother) she seriosuloy needs to stop being a snob (she wanted me to dust my room just for a man who was going to fix the curtains) and she needs to realise its just a word, get over it ffs.

Yer, I had the same. Was glad when I moved out so I could be my own self, and choose for myself what I do and when. My mum also doesn't approve of my gaming habits (and has a particular downer on MMOs), so at some times it was really irritating.

 

[Cheesus333]

My Mum has me on Facebook. She keeps telling me to stop swearing.

Fuck you, Mum. You shouldn't even have it ¬¬

I don't really mind it that much cause I don't think she uses it for particularly malevolent purposes.

 

[Cowabungaa]

I'm so glad I'm an adult.

This is gonna sound condescending, but here goes: if there's something you feel like you should keep your parents from finding out, and they are not crazy people, then you are being a silly, silly child.

Why? B/c social networking sites are the last place in the world for that kind of content. You have to be a dummy if you think even for a second that whatever you are putting up there is not being tracked by some third party or another, be it an advertising film, the government, or Facebook itself.

If you are above thirteen, the minimum age you are allowed to have a Facebok ccount, then you have no excuse to not be aware of this. It's as smart as taking dick pictures and sending them over to someone's cellphone.

Assuming you know what said people don't want their parents to see. I'm 20 myself, no longer a child either but I still won't add my mother to my Facebook account. Why? Because I know her. I know how she is, I know she'll try to mingle with my friends, keep commenting on 'Oh that girl is cute, you should talk to her!', I know she'll keep whining about me using English on my Facebook page,

I know she'll just be a pain in the ass and I just don't feel like letting that happen. Hence, she ain't going to be added on my Facebook. Same counts for my dad.

 

[seventy two]

My mom is my FB friend, mainly because quite frankly anything you can learn from my FB activity you could learn from talking to me. I have status updates maybe twice a year, almost all conversation with friends is done through more private means. Besides she and I compete against each other in random FB games out of pure competition, and that is part of the reason I even bother with the damn site. And as for swearing, I rarely see the need for it, heck I cuss more talking to her than I ever do online. My dad on the other hand shall remained blocked forever.

 

[Cazza]

I never use it so they got nothing on me. My mother knows me well enough to not worry about my facebook etc.

 

[Kair]

I don't use this face catalogue for many reasons.

 

[whtkid6969]

I actually have my mom added on my facebook. She's not to bright though, so I manly speak through quotes

 

[Twilight_guy]

I'm friends with my mom on my facebook. It doesn't matter much because I don't feel the need to ever use facebook for anything social. Anyone can see what you do on facebook so why would you post something embarrassing?

There isn't much I would change if I knew my parents were watching. Considering how much of my time is the Escapist anyways its more sad then embarrassing.

 

[Manji187]

Wow...yet another problem I've managed to completely avoid.

Seriously, f*ck facebook. Time drain + risk of personal data compromise (you think facebook is unhackable?) + possible negative effects on psyche and promotion of nasty ways of thinking about/ relating to other people (utilitarian calculus...).

I'll simply call the people that are really close to me. You know, use my voice. Can you believe there's a whole generation growing up with text messaging that is actually more or less afraid of engaging in an oral conversation over the phone (Sherry Turkle; Alone Together)?

We've probably already reached the point that someone is silently text messaging the person physically next to him, and the person silently responding back the same way (in a setting that does not in any way prohibit oral conversation). To me, that's just sad.

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

Facebook stalking is renowned for being a very effective method of keeping an eye on someone, sadly this invasion of privacy is something we've also set up. We don't HAVE to have a facebook account, and we don't HAVE to have that account open for public viewing.

Nor do we have to post information with any regularity. My facebook page, for example, is incredibly boring because I find there to be no value in making it better. The sole reason I have one in the first place is that it offered a way to keep up with people I never see and even then it is little more than a stand in for my e-mail address or phone number of yesterday.

 

[Pegghead]

My parents? On Facebook?

Don't get me wrong, I don't hate my folks or anything but the fact of the matter is ma and pa ain't never getting into social media (out of being bad with compters in general and not liking the idea of it respectively...not to mention they're both fairly old). I've had a Facebook account since the beginning of the year and even then me and the only other person in my family I know has facebook (my sister) agreed that we'd both have nothing to do with each other on it.

 

[xXGeckoXx]

Ohh my god what the **** is wrong with you all. I have a lot of people on my facebook that I would not want seeing pics of me or other such stuff. How do I stop them. On facebook you can put your friends int groups then change ythe privacy settings. Some "friends can not see my wall posts or my pictures or interact with my friends. Others can. Hell with the people I am most comfortable with you can use usergroups that no one else has access to.

 

[Gooseling]

Facebook should be an expression of who you are as a person. If you hide that from your parents, then you probably shouldn't add them. Or you should have a long chat with said parents.
Personally, I have my Dad on Facebook, and even though we have a strained relationship at the best of times, I still won't hide things from him