Your Problems

[Akas]

I got a problem, let's see if anyone can relate. How do you cope with everyone dismissing what you're passionate about? I was raised up in a halfway traditional Asian household (i.e. still Asian values but just a little bit of freedom), but I "betrayed" my family by loving to write vs. being an engineer. I'm eternally grateful to my family (because they supported me through college, after all), but I'm still treated like crap.

Friends of family don't miss the opportunity to sometimes brag about their profession (Doctors and engineers, mainly), other people are adamant about me going to law school (the only "prestigious" career path left to me), and many feel fit to be condescending whenever I voice an opinion (after I made an off-hand comment about Twilight to my sister (a big fan), she said "Well, Sorry I'm not as well-read as you are, I'm too busy BEING A DOCTOR" -_-).

Have any of you taken any flak for your career paths? My friends that usually cheer me on and give me strength are currently scattered around the world, so it's a bit of a tough period right now. Who in your life gives you hope/strength to follow your dreams despite all opposition? I think this has turned into a bit of a rant, so I'll stop now.

 

[cheesemanxl]

My best friend is running his game on a girl that I like ALOT and he knows how much i like her. Is this a big deal? Should i be mad at him?

 

[crimson5pheonix]

I got a problem, let's see if anyone can relate. How do you cope with everyone dismissing what you're passionate about? I was raised up in a halfway traditional Asian household (i.e. still Asian values but just a little bit of freedom), but I "betrayed" my family by loving to write vs. being an engineer. I'm eternally grateful to my family (because they supported me through college, after all), but I'm still treated like crap.

Friends of family don't miss the opportunity to sometimes brag about their profession (Doctors and engineers, mainly), other people are adamant about me going to law school (the only "prestigious" career path left to me), and many feel fit to be condescending whenever I voice an opinion (after I made an off-hand comment about Twilight to my sister (a big fan), she said "Well, Sorry I'm not as well-read as you are, I'm too busy BEING A DOCTOR" -_-).

Have any of you taken any flak for your career paths? My friends that usually cheer me on and give me strength are currently scattered around the world, so it's a bit of a tough period right now. Who in your life gives you hope/strength to follow your dreams despite all opposition? I think this has turned into a bit of a rant, so I'll stop now.

Yeah, my parents are completely tech illiterate so they don't like the fact I want to be a video game programmer. My Dad borderline disowned me after I didn't want to be a musician like him and my Mom still tries to steer me towards being an engineer as well. But they calmed down a bit after they questioned me and I stuck to video game programmer for a while. Can't say if that will work for you, but if you stick with your story long enough, they may not be so scathing.

 

[xitel]

My best friend is running his game on a girl that I like ALOT and he knows how much i like her. Is this a big deal? Should i be mad at him?

Yes, especially if he thinks of it as a game.

 

[Lord George]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

 

[xitel]

I got a problem, let's see if anyone can relate. How do you cope with everyone dismissing what you're passionate about? I was raised up in a halfway traditional Asian household (i.e. still Asian values but just a little bit of freedom), but I "betrayed" my family by loving to write vs. being an engineer. I'm eternally grateful to my family (because they supported me through college, after all), but I'm still treated like crap.

Friends of family don't miss the opportunity to sometimes brag about their profession (Doctors and engineers, mainly), other people are adamant about me going to law school (the only "prestigious" career path left to me), and many feel fit to be condescending whenever I voice an opinion (after I made an off-hand comment about Twilight to my sister (a big fan), she said "Well, Sorry I'm not as well-read as you are, I'm too busy BEING A DOCTOR" -_-).

Have any of you taken any flak for your career paths? My friends that usually cheer me on and give me strength are currently scattered around the world, so it's a bit of a tough period right now. Who in your life gives you hope/strength to follow your dreams despite all opposition? I think this has turned into a bit of a rant, so I'll stop now.

Well, I can't say I can relate, seeing as how I don't actually have a career path yet, but your parents will still love you no matter what you do. If people give you trouble about being an author, just say screw them. You've found a career you like, that's what matters. If they feel like the fact that they have a career as a doctor makes them better than you, then that means they don't really like their job.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

Why act, I'm an antagonizing annoying bastard child and I make friends here and in real life. Nobody seems to mind me pointing out their flaws and nit picking everything they say.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

I got a problem, let's see if anyone can relate. How do you cope with everyone dismissing what you're passionate about? I was raised up in a halfway traditional Asian household (i.e. still Asian values but just a little bit of freedom), but I "betrayed" my family by loving to write vs. being an engineer. I'm eternally grateful to my family (because they supported me through college, after all), but I'm still treated like crap.

Friends of family don't miss the opportunity to sometimes brag about their profession (Doctors and engineers, mainly), other people are adamant about me going to law school (the only "prestigious" career path left to me), and many feel fit to be condescending whenever I voice an opinion (after I made an off-hand comment about Twilight to my sister (a big fan), she said "Well, Sorry I'm not as well-read as you are, I'm too busy BEING A DOCTOR" -_-).

Have any of you taken any flak for your career paths? My friends that usually cheer me on and give me strength are currently scattered around the world, so it's a bit of a tough period right now. Who in your life gives you hope/strength to follow your dreams despite all opposition? I think this has turned into a bit of a rant, so I'll stop now.

Well, I can't say I can relate, seeing as how I don't actually have a career path yet, but your parents will still love you no matter what you do. If people give you trouble about being an author, just say screw them. You've found a career you like, that's what matters. If they feel like the fact that they have a career as a doctor makes them better than you, then that means they don't really like their job.

No career path? Haha, your indecisive.

 

[xitel]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

Well, I would say what you need to do is learn to subdue your manipulative nature. Not completely hide it, but make sure that you don't spring a change all at once. Make it a bit more gradual. If they still can't handle you, then find some new friends.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

Well, I would say what you need to do is learn to subdue your manipulative nature. Not completely hide it, but make sure that you don't spring a change all at once. Make it a bit more gradual. If they still can't handle you, then find some new friends.

Yes because Xitel doesn't anything about manipulation...

 

[xitel]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

Well, I would say what you need to do is learn to subdue your manipulative nature. Not completely hide it, but make sure that you don't spring a change all at once. Make it a bit more gradual. If they still can't handle you, then find some new friends.

Yes because Xitel doesn't anything about manipulation...

I'm not saying I don't "anything about manipulation", I'm saying that I didn't go straight from completely normal to manipulative in an instant.

 

[Molikroth]

Xitel - just drop the courses. I can understand your problem, if I'm not motivated or interested I can't make the least learning go in. If you're not motivated for the courses you're probably not going to enjoy whatever job you want them for either. Better to drop them and enjoy life now as opposed to continuing and hoping it'll help you enjoy life later.

Jimmyjames - you don't need to start worrying about student loans until your income is above a certain amount - I'll find out for you in a bit. Also, I'm not sure about how it stands now, but a friend of mine mentioned something about student loans being wiped clean if you don't pay them for a number of years. That part is just half-remembered second-hand info so you might want to ask a member of staff at the university.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

Well, I would say what you need to do is learn to subdue your manipulative nature. Not completely hide it, but make sure that you don't spring a change all at once. Make it a bit more gradual. If they still can't handle you, then find some new friends.

Yes because Xitel doesn't anything about manipulation...

I'm not saying I don't "anything about manipulation", I'm saying that I didn't go straight from completely normal to manipulative in an instant.

You're no fun. Can't mess up someone's day for no reason?

 

[xitel]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

Well, I would say what you need to do is learn to subdue your manipulative nature. Not completely hide it, but make sure that you don't spring a change all at once. Make it a bit more gradual. If they still can't handle you, then find some new friends.

Yes because Xitel doesn't anything about manipulation...

I'm not saying I don't "anything about manipulation", I'm saying that I didn't go straight from completely normal to manipulative in an instant.

You're no fun. Can't mess up someone's day for no reason?

I'm not kidding Crim. For once, please keep this thread serious.

 

[PersianLlama]

Not necessarily a problem, but a serious question nonetheless. It's also not thread-worthy.

Which translation to english of War and Peace is the best/should I read?

 

[xitel]

Xitel - just drop the courses. I can understand your problem, if I'm not motivated or interested I can't make the least learning go in. If you're not motivated for the courses you're probably not going to enjoy whatever job you want them for either. Better to drop them and enjoy life now as opposed to continuing and hoping it'll help you enjoy life later.

I would, but that would put me below 12 credits and make me lose my scholarship. So instead, I have to take the E and lose my scholarship like that. Pisses me off.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

Well, I would say what you need to do is learn to subdue your manipulative nature. Not completely hide it, but make sure that you don't spring a change all at once. Make it a bit more gradual. If they still can't handle you, then find some new friends.

Yes because Xitel doesn't anything about manipulation...

I'm not saying I don't "anything about manipulation", I'm saying that I didn't go straight from completely normal to manipulative in an instant.

You're no fun. Can't mess up someone's day for no reason?

I'm not kidding Crim. For once, please keep this thread serious.

You really are no phun. I mean really, a serious discussion, on the internet? Are you mad? If poo is not flung and if there was no sarcasm, it is not a discussion.

 

[xitel]

Not necessarily a problem, but a serious question nonetheless. It's also not thread-worthy.

Which translation to english of War and Peace is the best/should I read?

Well, I honestly haven't read War and Peace, but this is the kind of thing the thread was made for.

 

[PsykoDragon]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

If you don't mind people not liking you & possibly losing some friends, then just stick with it. Just remember that being yourself is one thing & being polite is another. Try & combine them.

Just because you believe in being yourself doesn't mean you have to shock people you meet with your personality. Be a "manipulative & cold bastard", but be "an understanding manipulative & cold bastard". Understand that people aren't used to people with such a personality, & try to gradually let them see what you're really like. By gradually, I mean over several weeks, months, years even. & know that when they come face-to-face with your real personality, they might drift away as well.

 

[xitel]

I have a problem in that I'm not sure weather to keep on acting like the real me which is to quote from an ex-girlfriend a "manipulative and cold bastard" or to go back to how I use to a few years ago when I'd put on the act of caring about people and their stupid emotions and had to stop myself laughing at things like seeing a cat get hit by a car. I had more friends then but since I've started acting like the real me they all seem to be slowly drifting away oh well I don't care either way

If you don't mind people not liking you & possibly losing some friends, then just stick with it. Just remember that being yourself is one thing & being polite is another. Try & combine them.

Just because you believe in being yourself doesn't mean you have to shock people you meet with your personality. Be a "manipulative & cold bastard", but be "an understanding manipulative & cold bastard". Understand that people aren't used to people with such a personality, & try to gradually let them see what you're really like. By gradually, I mean over several weeks, months, years even. & know that when they come face-to-face with your real personality, they might drift away as well.

"an understanding manipulative and cold bastard"... that's a great descriptor. Willing to listen, but also willing to manipulate. Sometimes people like advice that is just pure logic. I know my friends come to me with problems when they need a logical solution to an emotional problem. My roommate does it all the time. And most of the time it works.