Your rule for dating.

[Hiikuro]

The more compatible I am to them, the further I'll stretch my limits.

I think I'd go for someone from age 18 to 24 (I'm 21), but I could extend that by a few years if I'm really compatible with them. I don't really care for whether it is acceptable or not.

Granted, I've never gone out with anyone, but that is about the age I'm aiming for.

 

[Arehexes]

My one perfect rule. Ask them out once, if they say no then oh well you can still get along. If they say yes and give a ass backwards reason why they can't go out (or give multiple different reasons). Don't talk to them anymore at all, if they have the nerve to say yes and give retarded ass reasons to why they have to break it off then your better off flying solo.

 

[EmperorSubcutaneous]

It really depends on how old YOU are.

Example: three of the four people I've dated since high school have been six years older than me (don't ask me why it worked out that way; I think it's weird too). It went like this:

Relationship 1: I was 18, other person was 24 (lasted 1 year)
Relationship 2: I was 19, other person was 25 (lasted 3 years)
Relationship 3: I was 22, other person was 23 (lasted 1 year)
Relationship 4 (current): I'm 24, other person is 30 (has been 9 months so far)

Relationship 1 was a spectacular failure because I was fresh out of high school and had only had a glimpse of the real world, while my partner was getting ready to settle down and have a family. It was actually really creepy (this person became interested in me when I was 17 and loved my innocence more than anything else), so the less said about it the better.

Relationship 2 suffered from the same problems because I was in college and wanting to experience life, while my partner was working and waiting for me to graduate so we could...settle down and have a family. The whole relationship was based around waiting and eventually neither of us could wait any longer and thus parted ways.

The third person was entirely too immature for me, despite being a year older than I was.

And now there's my current relationship. I have graduated from college, had all the youthful experiences I ever wanted, and am sick and tired of of dating relationships, so I'm finally ready to settle down. The other person feels the same way, and we're working out very well so far.

In general, while you're in school it seems best to stick with people about your age. (High school students should date other high school students, college students should date other college students.) After you graduate, you can widen the age gap a bit.

It's not just about maturity, as I have always been mature for my age, but about what you want out of life at the stage you're currently at. It's always best to date people who want the same thing from the relationship as you do, and it will be much harder to find that if one person is in school and the other person isn't (or one is in high school and the other in college).

 

[rutger5000]

I'm 20, and I wouldn't date anyone younger then 18. I wouldn't date a guy older then 24, the maxium age for women is a lot higher. Not quiet sure how high, pretty high I guess. Of course this is assuming I'm emotionally and sexually attracted towards the date, but I wouldn't date if I wasn't.

 

[SckizoBoy]

because its perfect its so accurate well unless your to young to be dating to begin with

My thanks. However, I was 12 when I started dating... too young? (I'll hasten to add, that relationship was pure innocent preteen nothing beyond kissing.)

Even so, if a person 'too young to date' had such sentiments, I'd applaud his/her sagacity, though it doesn't really belong there (for the most part). And they'd probably have the good sense to only date people genuinely worthy of their time.

 

[Mallefunction]

I'm 19, but I wouldn't date a guy much more than a year younger than me right now. As for older, my limit would be 24 years old. Anything older and it just seems...weird. I gave a 27 year old a pity date once, but never again.

 

[krazykidd]

I only date women that are older than me( im a 22 year old male ) , my current Girlfriend is 30 , i find women between 18-29 to be highly obnoxious, and dating anyone under 18 is a big no no for me. Also i prefer women that are chubby or well rounded ( to not say fat ) but thats irrelevent to the thread

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I have one rule, and one rule only, but it is vitally important. It is infinitely crucial to my sanity and wellbeing, so much so, I'd say I can't function without this rule, my golden rule of dating;

Don't.

Yes.
...
I should say some other things but I won't.

 

[KorLeonis]

I have one rule, and one rule only, but it is vitally important. It is infinitely crucial to my sanity and wellbeing, so much so, I'd say I can't function without this rule, my golden rule of dating;

Don't.

So very much this.

 

[Woeps]

I only date a lady if I like her.

Also no dating colleagues (somehow that never works out for me)

 

[ulizez89]

One rule: if she is over 18, it's OK

 

[Smooth Operator]

If the person is of legal age and mature enough for us to get along then I have no limits.
Was shortly with quite an older woman then me and it was actually really fun because we were so different, but ofcourse it couldn't go anywhere, nice experience tho.

 

[Zaik]

Just the one golden rule: Don't.

Waste of time, money, and effort for, at BEST, equal returns to other alternatives.

I guess before i learned the golden rule though, I had set a rule(that I learned the hard way) to never date someone that has a child. Pretty much everything is worse if they have a child.

 

[Electric Alpaca]

I mostly only give girls older than me a shot - younger girls seem to have the attitude of 'boyfriend = hobby' and that really isn't my cup of tea.

Although now that I'm hitting mid twenties - I may change my mind and keep the age of requirement the same for a while.

In all honesty - I judge on the individual rather than a hard and fast rule. The stigma of a younger man with an older woman I had to battle back and prove wrong a couple of times so I'd be a hypocrite to write people off 'just because'.

 

[Brandon237]

Under 15, 1 year leeway, over 15, two years leeway, over 25, 5 years, over that, I don't care, you are adults now. That is my rule, it makes sense to me. It works for me.

And to all who say "don't", significant others are awesome if you find a good one, don't give up or depress other people.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

well as of just turning 20 i won't go younger than 17 (and 17 is fucking pushing the damn limits beyond belief) and i won't go above 23, as a girl that old would be a bit...weird to date.


i have plenty of friends from all ages, hell I've been hit on by 28-32 year olds quite often recently (i don't understand how or why that's happening..I don't look that damn old) and they ALL act way differnetly on the maturity level, usually not reflecting their actual age, so it's a person to person thing, if I feel me and them are in sync and we like each other, than why not?

 

[Zorak the Mantis]

I try to stay within 3-4 years of my age.

 

[omega 616]

A friend of mine is 18 and she's with a 32 year old (although in his defence he has the maturity of a 17 year old. No, that is not a good thing. Seriously, he gets stupidly jealous whenever she even just speaks to us!)

Sounds like somebody wanted a father figure and a partner rolled into one.

On topic. I would say anything over 13 year age gap is creepy, it means one of them could be the younger ones child.

Although I would say your really dating till the youngest in the relationship about 20 'cos even at 20, chances are your not going to be spending the rest of your life with that person. So it's just somebody to keep you company while you play grown ups.

How many people do you know start "serious" relationships at the age of 16 odd and are still with that person even after 5 years? 10 years? 15? Very few.

When you get a little older you start looking for people to actually settle down with, "while you still got it". Rather than looking for something to tide you over for a month.