Your views on bisexuality

[Zack Alklazaris]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
No, at least not right away. It seems that most women where I live would be put off by it. Of course I married a Bi woman so thats not so much an issue now.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
Actually its not a big deal with me as the whole Woman on Woman thing doesn't appeal to me as much as it should. My bi wife has said on more than one occasion that I'm gay, but I think I'm just bi. I already have a woman so seeing others really isn't that impressive. I never really had a guy so its sort of like a rare fruit for me. So perhaps if a guy said they were bi it would affect me more.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?
I think it depends on the person. Bi is on the list along with pansexual, aspergers, adhd, and probably a few others that people just tend to diagnose themselves with. Its like the new cool thing to be. I don't take what they say to heart. Someone who see's two guys kiss and thinks it hot automatically thinks their bi. I personally think you need to be into guys a little deeper than a kiss before you can say that, but thats just me.

 

[gazumped]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

I never make a big deal out of it to anyone. I'm certainly not going to go "I have something to tell you... I'M BI." I don't think it affects the relationship at all, after all, when I'm with someone I'm not going to be going after anyone else of any gender.
But I tend to go for liberal minded people who wouldn't have a problem with it anyway, plus I'm not particularly secretive about it so they can probably guess. I actually told my first boyfriend before we dated how I'd had a crush at a girl at school. About a year later it came up that I was bi and he went "What... since when?" I reminded him I'd already told him about crushes I'd had and he went "Oh... I thought you were joking!" But yeah, he certainly didn't have a problem either way.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

Obviously I'm not bothered. (But I may be interested if it's a pretty girl who's telling me.) I live in London so it's not a particularly sheltered thing.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

No, but I've had reasons for not making a song and dance about it. When I was little and realised I liked girls I cried to my dad that I was worried people were going to beat me up for being a lesbian. And in secondary school (a girls' school) I kept my mouth shut about it because there were girls who would have beaten me up for it.
Now that I'm out of an institution filled with scary teenagers I don't really have to hide it, girls don't tend to care, but guys can sometimes be a bit too interested in it and that can make my skin crawl, so I resist the urge to comment if guys are talking about hot wimmins or similar.

 

[Nimcha]

Bisexuality is sooo 2005.

Pansexual is the thing to be these days!

 

[Mr Pantomime]

Some people like both men and women, not a big deal. I don't criticise people based on what they eat, so why would I criticise their love life? The eating thing is far more relevant.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

I would say "I am bisexual".

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

I would think "This person is bisexual".

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

This is kind of a ludicrous question. Of course not. Why would I even care? How does right and wrong even enter into it? Do you think it's wrong to like both chocolate and vanilla ice cream?

 

[Aurgelmir]

I would love to hear your views on bisexuality. I recently 'accepted' (I put this in quotations because it's not like something I have to deal with, it's just something that was always there) the fact that I'm bisexual and I want to know a few things.
1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Now I'm not trying to start fights, I just want your honest opinions on it.

1) I don't know. Maybe not at first. Since you are Bisexual you are just as attracted to her/him as anyone else, so it shouldn't matter. But sure I think it is something you should eventually bring up.
2)I have had people tell me, and I didn't mind much at all. What does it matter?
3)No, why should there be? You swing both ways, good for you, more to choose from. I don't swing both ways so there is less for me

 

[Avery]

1) Yes. I'm all about honesty from the start.
2) Totally fine.
3) Being bisexual myself it would be rather ironic if I said it was, Now wouldn't it.

 

[Wolfram23]

I don't have an issue with it, in fact I'd definitely date a bi-sexual girl. Just because you can swing both ways doesn't mean you are allowed to by default, either. I think the same general rules apply in a relationship - that of being monogamous (unless agreed upon to have outside sex, or sex parties, or 3-somes, or whatever the case may be).

I also don't really know that being bisexual is something that needs to come up. Obviously not good to hide it, but I just don't think it should really have much bearing on a relationship since, as I said, it would still be expected of you to be commited/monogamous.

 

[Kermi]

I think a bisexual person is a person sexually attracted to both males and females.

To answer your questions specifically:

1) if I were bisexual I do not think it would be relevant. Being bisexual doesn't necessarily mean you're not monogamous, so whether I'm dating a guy or a girl I don't think it matters. I can see how it might become an issue later if I'm dating a girl and she doesn't like that I used to date or am attracted to guys, but that's something we can work through if it ever becomes an issue.

2) Someone revealing to me they are bisexual does not change my opinion of them. I am married to a woman who, while she has never been with a woman, does find women attractive. While theoretically this improves my chances of an FFM threesome, realistically nothing is different in our relationship.

3) No.

 

[dark-mortality]

1) I tell EVERYBODY that I am Bi :3

2) WELCOME TO THE CLUUUUB

3)Feck no! Even if it was, it is so fun to be bi :3

 

[someonehairy-ish]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

Yes. It is the kind of thing people would feel betrayed about if you didn't tell them when things start to look serious.

2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

Well, being a straight guy I'd think it was straight up awesome if a girl I was interested in told me she was Bi. Think of the fun that could be had... and if a dude told me he was bi, that wouldn't bother me. I have friends who are bi, I've even got friends who are pan or furry. It was a bit odd to find out but now its just a source of friendly jibes and otherwise doesn't affect our relationships at all.

3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Of course not.

 

[CaptainMarvelous]

1) Ehhh, depends, I'm not Bi, so I don't know but I don't start my relationships now with "By the way, I'm straight" so I guess not

2) This has actually happened before when I was dating a girl and my response was "Awesome". Immediately followed by "I bet I've kissed more girls than you". I was wrong ;_;.

3) Not in the least

 

[trollnystan]

1) I don't see how it would come up on a first date, but if it did - and if I was bisexual - then yes.
2) "Good for you? Want a cookie?"
3) I'm a rather firm believer in the Kinsey Scale - I think most humans have a little bisexuality in them - so no, I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

 

[Sara Fontaine]

1) Yes, if it looked to be a relationship that might last then I would tell them that I am bisexual. As it stands now, I told my current partner that I was bisexual and his response was "That's alright; so am I." Turned out quite well

2) I'm happy for anyone who is able to realise their true sexual orientation; I know from experience that sometimes it can be quite frustrating to figure out fully.

3) Well, naturally, I don't think there's any problem with it.

 

[ShindoL Shill]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date? I don't see much reason too, unless it comes up (ie, a girlfriend finds my gay porn).
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you? I wouldn't care. Unless they were propositioning me. Then I probably would.
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual? Obviously not.

Pansexual is the thing to be these days!

I don't like that term.
It sounds like a fetish for cookware.

 

[Jonluw]

1) Probably. As a way of making conversation I guess. Introductions.
2) "Uh, good for you I guess?"
3) Yes, bisexuals are just sluts who want to justify their sodomy.
Oh, wait.

 

[Vuliev]

1) Yeah, why not? It's not really a big deal.
2) I'd be like "ok" and not think much of it.
3) Nope, why would it be?

 

[thom_cat_]

My girlfriend is bisexual.
She told me at a random point in time, but she's always been fluctuating.
I don't care at all, because she loves me and just me. So it doesn't make a shred of difference.
And if your opinion of someone changes because you find out their sexual preference then I don't think that person should have to deal with you. You don't deserve to be their partner.

 

[Rastien]

1) I can't see how its relevant if i was /shrug im intrested in the person the fact that i like dudes and women shouldn't me an issue.

2)If someone felt the need to tell me it must be playing on their mind so i would treat it the same way i treat anything of this nature. "Well thats good to know an all but your still the same dude to me /shrug"

3) Nah, i aint got no beef let people be