Your views on bisexuality

[RustlessPotato]

1) Well, my sexuality isn't really the first thing I bring up in a conversation. I am straight, if I need to mention it. But if she would ask, i'd simply tell.

2) I would go :" good for you ". Someone elses sexuality doesn't interest me in the slightest. I do dislike people who mention theirs every chance they get. I don't do that and neither should you.

3) Ofcourse it's not wrong.

 

[TheMyffic]

Many people are tri-sexual: They tri and tri but nothing happens! Ha!

You've totally earned my response by reading my bad joke



1) Would you tell people you were going to date?

Yes, but ease into it. No need to whip out your whole CV during the first 5 minutes.


2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?

I've had a girlfriend tell me that. We checked out other girls together and it was fun.


3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

You already know the answer, this community is chilled out and liberal, you were just looking for confirmation. Now go and have fun!

 

[Eamar]

1. I tell people I'm dating, yes. It's not the first thing I bring up, but I like to get it out of the way pretty early on, if only because I don't want to end up dating some ignorant douche who has a problem with it or believes the stereotypes you hear about bisexuals (both gay and straight people can fall into this strategy). I don't even remember how it came up with my current boyfriend, but it wasn't particularly awkward or anything.

2. I know a lot of other bi people and I always get a little surge of excitement when I find out, in the same way most people do when you realise someone else is "like you" in some way. A lot of the time (as in the case with my best friend who's recently started to accept himself as bi), I'm not particularly surprised though. The first friends I came out to saw it coming a mile off as well, even though I thought it would be a big shock...

Beyond that initial conversation, it's no big deal. It makes no difference to how I treat someone, other than the fact that I might occasionally ask them if they want to go to a gay bar or club with me

3. Of course not. No sexual activity between or attraction to consenting adults is "wrong."

 

[Patrick Buck]

1: If they asked.
2: My friend did this, and my first reply was, to jokingly call him greedy, then we just carried on. Might have been such a little deal to me, because I already assumed he was, but he hadn't actually TOLD me spesifically.
3: No.

 

[DocMcCray]

1. Depends on whether you want to be exclusive or not. If you want to be with that one person whether they are male or female and no one else, no it isn't relevant. If you want to do them and someone else, they should probably know.

2. Because my opinion of what someone else does in their bedroom is *SOOOOO* important... wait, wait, no it isn't. None of my business. Means my opinion doesn't mean s**t.

3. You find men attractive. You find women attractive. I don't see a problem with that. (In other words, no I don't think bisexuality is wrong.)

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

As a bisexual, I think bisexuality is overrated.

I usually justify it as "fun!" or "pro-choice!", but frankly, I hate to have to "justify" it anymore, and I come off as sex-crazed and insane. And while I am sure insane HYUK HYUK KILL ALL HUMANS I'm not so insane that it's how I want to come off.

So yeah, my opinion: bisexuality sure is a thing. Yep.

It exists.

...hooray.

 

[Legion]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

1) If it came up.

2) Wouldn't mean anything. I am not one of those backwards minded people who assume that bisexual means you have to be attracted to both men and women simultaneously. That is, that bisexuals want both relationships at the same time.

3) No. I don't see anything wrong with it in the slightest. Then again, there is no logical reason to.

 

[Nimcha]

Pansexual is the thing to be these days!

I don't like that term.
It sounds like a fetish for cookware.

Hahaaa! Thanks, I chuckled.

 

[Muspelheim]

I would love to hear your views on bisexuality. I recently 'accepted' (I put this in quotations because it's not like something I have to deal with, it's just something that was always there) the fact that I'm bisexual and I want to know a few things.
1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?

Now I'm not trying to start fights, I just want your honest opinions on it.

1) I would, it's not exactly a dark secret of sorts. No need to rush it, though, I've never met anyone who considered it a big deal.
2) Likely "Good for you", and not much else. As long as they're at peace with themselves for it, that's all that matters.
3) Of course not. If anything, it's practical. Well, alright, it tends to make well-meaning grandmothers a bit confused, but life, even at its autumn, is about learning.

 

[Ranylyn]

1) If I was bi, my fiancee would have a right to know. I'm not saying we'd ever introduce a second man to our relationship or anything (I love her too much to ever share her like that! I want to selfishly keep her to myself!) But at the same time, she deserves to know if I might be more likely to get into trouble drinking with the guys than just hanging with female co-workers.

2) I've had friends admit to being bi before, and I never make a big fuss about it, but I DO WANT to ask questions. I just don't because it would be rude to pry too much. Of course, this is also largely because I'm mature enough to find a man handsome without being sexually attracted to him, so I guess I understand bisexuality's appeal better than most heterosexuals.

3) People who have issues with bisexuals or homnosexuals are living in the past of indoctrinated bible thumpers. Religious texts were written by educated men of the past and warped to give themselves authority. Look no further than the story of Adam and Eve, for example, where it blames the woman (who was made from man) for sin and gives man dominion over her. That was a second story of creation added in addition to the original tale (of the seven days) passed down by word of mouth for generations.

There's nothing wrong with having a strong faith, but people who blindly believe what their elders tell them are the reason for all the fighting overseas. Has anyone else here ever read the Khouran or however you spell it? (I apologize, I AM half asleep.) It's actually a very peaceful religion, but look at all fighting in Afghanistan, which is born from twisting the teachings to control the youth into dying for the selfish causes of the elders. Hell, my step niece is muslim, and her own mother has lied to her about things like their god cutting her legs off if she ever eats pork. Like come on....

Point being, I honestly believe that without the kinds of bigots who use religion as a weapon, the LGBT community would be much more publicly accepted instead of it actually being considered a controversy.


EDIT; Oh, and I forgot to mention, being somewhat into Japanese games and anime, the term "pansexual" made me think of bread, since Pan is Japanese for bread. And then it made me imagine my friends walking around holding loaves of bread in front of their pelvis just to be goofballs. Thank you for that mental image. My imagination is quite weird sometimes.

 

[Rule Britannia]

1) Would you tell people you were going to date?
Yes, if I were bisexual I would feel obligated to do so.
2) How would you feel about this if someone told you?
I would be surprised at first but I'm not going to shun somebody if they are.
3) Do you think that it's wrong to be bisexual?
No, (greedy bastards) lol I joke .

 

[Bloodtrozorx]

1) I believe you'd probably have to at least in the name of being honest with each other.
2) I wouldn't be shocked; it's just another preference in this world.
3) No, I know some people think it is but I take the "Do your own thing" attitude.

 

[TehCookie]

1) Probably, I wouldn't flat out tell them but when you're getting to know each other that would be part of me.

2) If it was random I'd be confused and probably just congratulate them for sharing. If it was someone I was dating I'd just ask if he's fine sticking to one gender.

3) Nope, love is love.

 

[Broady Brio]

Greedy bastards.

1) If asked, I wouldn't lie.
2) Fine, as long as they don't parade it and force me to be one.
3) Greedy bastards, you can't have both! Nope. It's all about experimentation right? Nothing wrong about that.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

I'm comfortably straight, and I'm comfortable with everyone else being however they are. I don't get to choose other people's sexual alignment, so why should I be bothered by it, if a dude asks me out, I just tell him it's not my thing, simple.

I have friends who are Bi, I have friends who are gay, I have straight friends as well, and you know what? I never even think to categorize them, they're all my friends, and that's just how it is...

 

[wadark]

I think a big part of the questions regarding bisexuality and homosexuality are how we define those words in our modern social context. The words themselves obviously refer ONLY to sexuality. However, it seems in a modern context, the words have come to mean not simply a sexual preference, but a preference of relationships as well.

In this context, I think that everyone is bisexual, in that we are capable of forming deep emotional connections with anyone. I mean it works exactly the same way as heterosexuality works: I have female friends who I'm very close to, but have no sexual desires towards at all. By the same token, I'm very close with my best friend (who happens to be gay). There are things I've shared with him that I've never shared with anyone else, but I have no sexual attraction to him.

I wouldn't rule out the possibility of being attracted to a man, it just hasn't happened yet.

All-in-all, to answer the questions, I think it should work the same as it does for regular relationships. You tell people if you feel like telling them. The fact that it is a hetero- or homosexual relationship shouldn't have any bearing on that decision, nor their response...but then, I dream of an ideal world.

 

[Knight Captain Kerr]

1) No. I don't see why it is important to mention.
2) Sexuality doesn't play a part in what I think of you.
3) No.

 

[RatRace123]

1. I'm not sure, but I probably wouldn't bring it up unless someone asked.

2. I wouldn't care, not that I mean to sound apathetic; I mean it more as, it wouldn't change my opinion of someone.

3. No, and anyone who thinks it is is dumb.

 

[deathninja]

For years I was unsure, then sure that I was and hid it, then after much discussion on these very forums came out, and accepted it myself (was a bit of a fucked up time, seeing as I was on the run from home and everything).

It's not the first thing I would mention on a date, but it helps to get it out in the open sooner rather than later, but not preach about it; from experience too many people I know personally define their whole lives by their sexuality (or lack of one).