Yup, another I like a girl thread...

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Dectomax

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Hokay, straight to the point.

Obviously, I like this girl...But there are a few problems. The biggest being age. I've always told myself no younger than 2 years below me, because I just don't think that a big age gap is right. But, alas, I met with this girl anyway ( She's 14, I'm 19 ) just to walk about town, 'cause it couldn't hurt to stroll about and talk ( Didn't have much else to do ). This is where it got weird for me. She's tall and incredibly mature for her age and also really awesome. We were both laughing and getting on really well. So, against my better judgement we met up again and she got all cuddly and stuffsh. Now, I didn't mind as much, because in all fairness I really like her - but in the back of my head I was still thinking "God, she's 14 this isn't right!?".

We've been talking for a few weeks before we met up,and it's just started dawning on me now how much I like her - but I'm resilient in the fact that she is 5 years my younger and it just seems weird too me. I like her, but I'm hesitant to go to anything over friends because she's so young.

So, I'd appreciate your opinions on this. 'Cause I'm 50/50 on it at the moment and to be honest, I'd be too embarrassed to tell/speak to any of my friends about it.

EDIT: To clarify, she is the one pushing it. With quips about "Age doesn't matter" and asking to meet up. I'm being a little resilient, because hell, I don't want to go to prison! xD
 

IndomitableSam

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Odds are it's illegal. She's way too young, write it off as a good time and don't contact her again. Could end up in a lot of trouble otherwise. Besides, she'll just be finishing high school when you're settled in a career like an adult.
 

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Depending on the laws in your country, that's probably a bad idea. If you were 25 and she was 20 for example, things would be different, but as it stands this will cause a lot of problems for yourself, her, her family and friends who might feel worse about you. At the end of the day do what you want to do, but bear in mind possible reprecussions. I'm not going to say no because I have no insight into how you two feel.
 

Siyano_v1legacy

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nothing is wrong about liking someone 5 years younger than you (certain way less when you are 20+)at that stage of your age stuff may change quickly, all I would do is be patient, try to make make yourself understandable and explain your relationship. although I would wait to do anything really seriously and wait for the age of consent. I would also eventually meet her parent to present you and show how "good" person you are and such
 

Dectomax

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IndomitableSam said:
Odds are it's illegal. She's way too young, write it off as a good time and don't contact her again. Could end up in a lot of trouble otherwise. Besides, she'll just be finishing high school when you're settled in a career like an adult.
Liberaliter said:
Depending on the laws in your country, that's probably a bad idea. If you were 25 and she was 20 for example, things would be different, but as it stands this will cause a lot of problems for yourself, her, her family and friends who might feel worse about you. At the end of the day do what you want to do, but bear in mind possible reprecussions. I'm not going to say no because I have no insight into how you two feel.
Siyano said:
nothing is wrong about liking someone 5 years younger than you (certain way less when you are 20+)at that stage of your age stuff may change quickly, all I would do is be patient, try to make make yourself understandable and explain your relationship. although I would wait to do anything really seriously and wait for the age of consent. I would also eventually meet her parent to present you and show how "good" person you are and such
I understand the legal point, that's the main reason why I'm hesitant - That would be out of the window until she was of legal age (16 here). It's just annoying because if she was 17/18, it'd be perfect!
 

TheBlakkat

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I've discouraged friends from dating girls two grades younger than them in the past, but the agegroup thing really does work on a case-by-case basis. First out, work out the legality of this in your country. Where I live (from my understanding), if one partner's over the legal age and the other isn't, it's fine depending on the age span. I'm fairly sure your case is illegal in most places, though. The last thing you want to do is break the law.

If it is illegal, get it out of your head now. Talk to her about it if you think you should, sever contact if you need to. If it is legal, proceed with caution. No matter the early appearances, there is an immense gap in the emotional maturity of a fourteen year old and a nineteen year old, not to mention the social connotation of such a relationship. Have fun explaining that to your friends and family.

With that said, if it's legal and you're both mature about it, than it's your right to give it shot. But be warned. You can't expect this relationship to be without hiccups and you can't expect everyone to be cool with it.
 

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Urm...14 year old and a 19 year old? Really? I think Pedobear approves of this. It's slightly different when a girl reaches 18 but how many 14 year old girls do you know that are well versed in serious relationships especially the sexual side.
 

Dectomax

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Svenparty said:
Urm...14 year old and a 19 year old? Really? I think Pedobear approves of this. It's slightly different when a girl reaches 18 but how many 14 year old girls do you know that are well versed in serious relationships especially the sexual side.
I know, hence why I was hesitant. I know it's wrong and I've told her this a few times, but I can't help liking her.



Batou667 said:
Dectomax said:
It's just annoying because if she was 17/18, it'd be perfect!
Well, she isn't and it's not. Chalk this one up to experience and move on.
I know, I was hesitant because I know what would happen ( Can't really see a relationship lasting more than two weeks...)



Also, to everyone who's answered, thank you. It's nice to see a community willing to pool advice for others!
 

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Svenparty said:
Urm...14 year old and a 19 year old? Really? I think Pedobear approves of this. It's slightly different when a girl reaches 18 but how many 14 year old girls do you know that are well versed in serious relationships especially the sexual side.
Don't even get me started on sexually active 14 year olds, I have seen some sick shit, fuck my friends are thick.

OT: Anyway, Dude, I wouldn't legality aside, she's 14, you're 19, forget knowledge of what a serious relationships is, the maturity thing is a huge issue, I know plenty of people would say I'm stupid for saying that, but most of them are 14 fucking years old.
Unless you wake up in the morning and miss her like nothing else, don't ride this train past friendsville.
 

Dectomax

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Matt East said:
Svenparty said:
Urm...14 year old and a 19 year old? Really? I think Pedobear approves of this. It's slightly different when a girl reaches 18 but how many 14 year old girls do you know that are well versed in serious relationships especially the sexual side.
Don't even get me started on sexually active 14 year olds, I have seen some sick shit, fuck my friends are thick.

OT: Anyway, Dude, I wouldn't legality aside, she's 14, you're 19, forget knowledge of what a serious relationships is, the maturity thing is a huge issue, I know plenty of people would say I'm stupid for saying that, but most of them are 14 fucking years old.
Unless you wake up in the morning and miss her like nothing else, don't ride this train past friendsville.
Thank you for the advice! I think I'm going to have a little chat with her and try and explain that the age difference is just too much and that she should aim for someone around her age - playing the friend card. I think that would be the best result all-round.

Again, thanks for everyone's comments! :)