I'm talking sexual attention here. *snips for posting issues*
Unwanted attention is unwanted attention. I legitimately feel intimidated by almost every woman I see. So if a woman starts looking at me and fears me for some reason, I'm in big trouble. A situation can go bad for me as a situation can go bad for a female.
A female's sexual interest isn't scarce. There's just more weight that comes with sex. No matter how many times I would have sex with a woman, my body wouldn't change. I wouldn't have a lifeform growing in me. My very being wouldn't be co-opted by a biological furthering of my dna. And condoms aren't a sure thing. My God daughter is a testament to that. She is loved. She is cherished, but she was not planned. And actively broke through the attempts of creating her.
When you have more danger from a situation than another person, you act differently. On a road trip with friends, I constantly have to explain why I don't feel comfortable stopping at a little place to eat and how I only feel comfortable getting Burger King and Roy Rogers on 95. I'm not a fast food guy, but I don't have to worry about walking into an eatery that are full of people that might not like me intruding on them.
There's simply more of an impact with sex for women than men. That doesn't denote scarcity. That denotes aforethought. Is this guy worth the risk? If something happens, would he step up? CAN he step up? Sex for women is fraught with dangers and repercussions that men don't ever have to truly deal with. To ignore that part and think it is just a different level of sex drive is not seeing the issue at hand.
Yeah they are. You make tinder account as reasonably attractive man. No responses. You make tinder account as reasonably attractive woman. Hundreds of responses. *snips for posting issues*
Wow.
There's so much to unpack here.
I never used tinder, so I don't know how it works. I have used Dating sites. And I've had women tell me that while my pictures made them curious, my profile is what made them reach out to me or respond when I sent them a message.
And when we talk about hundreds of messages, are we talking about what is the content of these messages are?
Is it "Hi"
"What's up?"
"Girl, dat ass be banging"
If I got these messages, I would not feel compelled to respond to them. Even if I would get a 'sex reward'.
I mean, the majority of comments here are for the sexual end game. That was never my end game. Hell, we saw at
the thread about things that weird you out a little.
I enjoy it. If I have a woman I care for, it's always on the table if we're both in the mood. But again, she'll be more in the mood with me than some random stranger because she knows what she's going to get from me. That this isn't going to be a one time sex dance. She's going to know that I respect her, that I'm here for her, and that's going to make her more at ease with sating her sexual desire with me.
And there are plenty of women who just want sex as well. There are sex hook up sites as well. But you mentioned Tinder. A Dating Website. And you're mainly talking about sexual need. Do you see the problem there? Sex is just one aspect of Dating. Mutual interests, Shared culture, Interest in a different culture, hobbies, media, there's a gambit of things that actually form relationships, and sex and attraction are just two aspects of them. Important, but not enough to base a relationship on it.
If one is looking for websites for casual hook ups, there are sites for that. Find them. Go for them.
Ok. Now, I'm so confused about the survival of the fittest stuff. This feels like we're straying in a conversation about Eugenics. And I don't know if that's where we should be now... or ever.
No, no. I'm sure that's a conversation that should never be had.