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Though one. In these kinds of situations there are no clear-cut answers. Just remember, most people who meet their 'sweetheart' before the age 19 don't end up married. You might be one of those happier cases, you might not.
I can't help you, this is something you yourself have to decide.
But if you really love her, then physical interaction is secondary. Are you sure you love her and not some idea of her? Looking back, I sure as hell couldn't tell love from longing when I was under 20.
I can't help you, this is something you yourself have to decide.
But if you really love her, then physical interaction is secondary. Are you sure you love her and not some idea of her? Looking back, I sure as hell couldn't tell love from longing when I was under 20.
You don't love her, you just want to get in her pants. Dump her, and find a girl that is willing to let you do so without having to do something stupid like tying the knot.
Firstly, you can't force her into anything. I beg you, don't try to make her change her mind.
Secondly, I can see why this feels hard. But you love her, not her body. If she wants to wait, you'l just have wait. Don't dump her, you'll only hurt yourself.
Besides, you can always fap like crazy.
Secondly, I can see why this feels hard. But you love her, not her body. If she wants to wait, you'l just have wait. Don't dump her, you'll only hurt yourself.
Besides, you can always fap like crazy.
Talk about it with her if it somehow upsets you or something. If she insists, and you really love her you'll wait. I still think it's odd though, if you 2 réally love each other, as in real honest love, why wait? O well I can't think for her, so you'll have to talk with her.
But don't dump her because of that, maybe she just said it because she's scared or something, who knows. Talk about it, but don't force yourself upon her (and no I don't mean rape), asking for an explanation isn't weird, trying really hard to change her mind is a bad idea.
But don't dump her because of that, maybe she just said it because she's scared or something, who knows. Talk about it, but don't force yourself upon her (and no I don't mean rape), asking for an explanation isn't weird, trying really hard to change her mind is a bad idea.
If you dump her because she will not put out, then you are a jerk. Have you even had a discussion with her as to why she wants to wait until marriage. Perhaps she thinks you are not as committed as she is, which may be true, considering you put up a poll to help make a choice as to whether or not to leave her.
So you're considering dumping her because she won't let you in her pants? OMG... You should be happy bout that, atleast you don't have to worry about her sleeping around.. Or already having an STD or anything like that.
God I respect that woman!
Not everyone has to lose their innocence before they get married. I wish I'd waited longer :/
God I respect that woman!
Not everyone has to lose their innocence before they get married. I wish I'd waited longer :/
OP, can you see yourself actually marrying her and being happy with her? If so then wait and be happy. You'll be better for it in the long run. Otherwise, dump her. Personally, from the way you describe her she sounds a bit clingy, saying that you'll be married in four years and so on. Unless you've actually proposed to her alredy, in which case good luck 
Personally I'd dump her for being too clingy, although I am not in possession of all the facts by dint of me not being you or the girl in question. Hence it's ultimately down to you.
P.S. I absoltely love your avatar by the way. Lucy is just sheer awesome sauce ;D
Personally I'd dump her for being too clingy, although I am not in possession of all the facts by dint of me not being you or the girl in question. Hence it's ultimately down to you.
P.S. I absoltely love your avatar by the way. Lucy is just sheer awesome sauce ;D
I have to say it's pretty harsh just to dump a girl because she won't sleep with you. If you love her you can wait, in my own opinion because sex as a concept really doesn't matter much to me in a relationship. I kind of get the feeling she may be playing hard to get as I have yet to meet an eighteen year old girl who isn't at least vaguely interested in sex. I say wait, if you love her you can settle for the odd cuddle.
However, looking on the other side of the spectrum if you are not sure you want such a commited relationship (what with you only being eighteen) then maybe it's understandable. But if you do dump her (which I don't fully advise... if you love her) make it for a legit reason and not just for lack there of sex.
However, looking on the other side of the spectrum if you are not sure you want such a commited relationship (what with you only being eighteen) then maybe it's understandable. But if you do dump her (which I don't fully advise... if you love her) make it for a legit reason and not just for lack there of sex.
I don't know, maybe you should talk to her about how it makes -you- feel about that.
It's her body, you don't have the right to touch her if she doesn't want you to.
Maybe you should go start seeing another girl on the side that lets you touch her in "naughty" places, or you two should break it off until you're BOTH ready for a "serious" relationship. lolololol
I love giving bad advice.
Anyway, dump her now because you're already considering it so you're already unhappy with the realtionship.
It's her body, you don't have the right to touch her if she doesn't want you to.
Maybe you should go start seeing another girl on the side that lets you touch her in "naughty" places, or you two should break it off until you're BOTH ready for a "serious" relationship. lolololol
I love giving bad advice.
Anyway, dump her now because you're already considering it so you're already unhappy with the realtionship.
Have you tried... asking her? Talking it through? I'm assuming she isn't devoutly religious, or you would have mentioned that, so maybe you should wonder what makes her feel this way. It's easy to say "ohhh, just because she isn't jumping into bed with you, you'll leave her, you chauvinist bastard" (and you can expect a lot of that on this site, by the way) but I can see your point of view here. It does seem strange that she one day decided to drop this on you, and you should definitely have a long talk with her about it - you never know what her thoughts might be behind it. If she truly does love you, she should want to share this sort of thing with you.
I say yes. Cos sex is important in a healthy relationship. Really you should be bringing this up wither her. Not stranger on a gaming website.
One sec you "love" her, but is going to dump her because she doesn't want any "touchy feel-y"?
Mate, thats not love thats Lust
Mate, thats not love thats Lust
If you love her and you truly think she's "the one" then marry her, but I highly doubt with your young age that she is.
But don't marry her just because you want to have sex. Actually, don't marry at all, especially right when you turn 18.
Did she say that she wants to marry you right when you guys turn legal age, or did she just say she doesn't want to do anything [b/]until she's married[/b]?
But don't marry her just because you want to have sex. Actually, don't marry at all, especially right when you turn 18.
Did she say that she wants to marry you right when you guys turn legal age, or did she just say she doesn't want to do anything [b/]until she's married[/b]?
Sex is an important part of a long term relationship. The odds of a relationship being ideal with no pre-marital sex is low. People are born, quite literally, to fuck.black-magic said:
If I were you I would sit down with her and explain how you feel, that its something you want to experience. As long as you are safe there should be no issue with it, especially at 18.
If her genuine attitude is that she wants you to be 22, married and then first try sex, she is talking from a bygone era.
Honestly, if she isn't open to the concept, walk. You'll find someone more fun. Sex is by no means everything but it is a major part of a healthy, loving relationship.
