6-year old boy stabbed, shouldn't have worn pink.

[Sutter Cane]

So the morale of the story is: If you as a male is willing to do something that is outside of your gender role, then you are wrong, and you should accept the fact that everyone will hate and bully you?

... I am astonishment...

Unfortunately you can't apply adult reasoning to children, especially ones that young. It's a fact that their brains are undeveloped, they're biologically incapable of the same reasoning as an adult. Children behave differently to adults and bullying those different is perfectly normal at that age, it's not to be encouraged but it can't be fully stopped either.

The school's correct in a way, if that kid continues to be a target he WILL be bullied. You can expel the bullies for doing what comes naturally but more will take their place, this kid will be a target until the other children develop the ability to empathise (and that's not a lesson mind you, that's a milestone in physical development). Pressure to conform at a young age is all part of a child's learning process, you can't watch him all the time and he has to learn how other people work. His parents are teaching him a very destructive lesson by saying that he can do whatever he wants and that he has no need to care what others think of him, it'd be nice if it worked but it doesn't.

Children don't think like adults basically, you can't imbue them with an abstract reason for doing something like this when the reason he's bullied for being different is simply that. They're not being homophobic and they're not reinforcing gender roles, they're six years old for goodness' sakes, they aren't capable of thinking like that.

Yes, we should just encourage kids that are different that they should stop being unique and learn to be normal just like everybody else. That's sure the right message to send

Just because bullying happens doesn't mean that we should accept it AT ALL. How are the parents wrong for allowing their child to pursue his own interests? Isn't that a GOOD thing? Honestly I think teaching kids the lesson that it' only OK to like certain things because of your sex is much much more destructive than what the parents did here.

 

[RedEyesBlackGamer]

Seriously? No immediate action? Schools in my district have ZERO tolerance for behavior like this. That kid would have been suspended, maybe even expelled. Regardless what level of the school. Hell, at my old high school, if you threw one punch it was a trip to the police station. How can a school be so passive to this sort of thing?

It's easier to ignore it and hope it fades away.

Maybe I just grew up in the right district. You can also report bullying here to one of the guidance counselors. Then the parents are called in, in some cases. Why the hell aren't all schools against school violence and bullying. I smell a potential lawsuit....

 

[Numb1lp]

Sigh* the media always over does these kind of things in every neighborhood there are people who are going to get bullied for varying reasons. A "blunt knife" is often simply a kitchen knife used to put butter on bread...

Why the hell should it matter what kind of knife he uses?

 

[Shycte]

6 year old and nail polish...

i dont care if it's a boy, that's just too young.

being bullied for wearing pink as a boy i can understand though. right or wrong, that's just how it is.

And we are to accept that?

 

[DarkRyter]

Poor kid. Just trying to be a true G. But then you get stabbed.

 

[Connor Lonske]

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It is the "usual American mistake when talking about Europe" What other mistake when talking about Europe do you think Americans commit more frequently? It is not "the mistake of the usual American", it is the "usual mistake made by Americans".

I don't really care if you're offended if I'm honest, you said something stupid and I am correcting that stupidity. I could have been offended at you lumping my culture in with a dozen unconnected ones but I tolerate it, but if you're going to say something deliberately inflammatory then you can take a little slip of the keyboard with good grace yes?

My point is that Europe has no single government, code of laws or culture, US laws are controlled at the federal level but every country in Europe is a separate entity. Therefore allowing an event in one country to affect your judgement of another is unwise. European countries have a few shared political structures through which they can act jointly but each country maintains it's own culture, military and legal system.

First of all, you mad? If yes then I see why you have rage guy as your picture.

Second, I say inflammatory statement because one, it is funny; and two, so I don't get too into the argument as you are. You are getting mad over a mild cultural argument over the internet, and the fact that you use the word "stupid" instead of "uninformed" and you didn't listen to my point of saying that
"I group Europeans together because Europeans group me with Red Necks and [sarcasm]*spits* Californians[/sarcasm] because we live in the same country, which I find unfair and bigoted."

Now if you think that doing that is childish then I don't blame you but I will not change my behavior because of it.

 

[awesomeClaw]

All I can say is...

What the fuck, Sweden?

Well, you see, based on my experiences in third grade, Sweden is absolute balls at stopping bullying. So it´s only natural that they blame it on the children (not saying it´s right, only obvious)

One of my teachers in high school said it best: "Sweden´s educational system is frankly, shit. It disallows throwing out any idiots and bullies in favor of trying to make them "Normal" and "friendly" instead"

 

[Connor Lonske]

*snip*

I was more of a Douglas Adams, Ray Bradury person. Never took my reading too too seriously, nor do I take my responses. Still Read F.451, just got back into it, what say you?

Oh, I still read them.
But I decided to pick up the pen my self and write what my heart says and desires.

That cool, I am the Script writer for my school drama club, I wanted to be the director. Feh, at least my work will get acted out eventually.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Just watch, that kid is going to bomb his school, saying these words...

(Sacrasm, I really don't think this)

I honestly think that kid who stabbed him should be sentanced to jail time... even though he is probably 5.

 

[jamesworkshop]

Personally I think it's stupid for any school not to have a mandatory uniform anyway.

also noteing that things will happen is not an endorsment of that thing, you can't preempt bullying only respond to it after it happens

 

[bue519]

Judging from some of the comments on the site, it looks like this might be a systemic problem with the school system. If the teachers payed more attention then this might not have happened. Besides I thought pink was cool by now, or is it just purple?

 

[bue519]

Just watch, that kid is going to bomb his school, saying these words...

I honestly think that kid who stabbed him should be sentanced to jail time... even though he is probably 5.

I agree with your idea of jail time. But, shouldn't it possibly be with the employees of the school, because I find it hard to believe that the stabbing was the first time this kid had been bullied.

 

[crudus]

I will admit that yes if you are male and wear pink to preschool/grade school you will be bullied. However, you should also learn how to defend yourself whether it be from taunts or physically.

The parents are right in that there is no way the school should permit or accept any violence or excessive namecalling.

Or you know, attempted murder.

 

[Dags90]

I think that's more of a comment upon the students than what the school actually believes in. For example, would you walk into a videogame store wearing a shirt that says "Games are shit and horrible" and not expect to get some flak for it?

I'm not saying what the other kid did was justified, but it's not exactly surprising. Well the stabbing is a bit much, but the bullying not so much.

That's an awful comparison. Pink, nail polish or ballet doesn't say anything about others. Unless his nails had "I fucking hate you" painted on them. There's nothing confrontational about wearing pink. It's a color. A better comparison would be to say, "Would you walk into a video game store wearing a pink shirt and not expect to get some flak for it?"

 

[userwhoquitthesite]

I never did understand gay bashing and bullying. I mean, I'm not saying the kid is gay, but it reminds of how easily heterosexuals are provoked to violence. I mean, logically wouldn't a gay guy = more chicks to go around for you? Just saying.

The heterosexual response to the scary gay man is fear of association. Not "oh teh noes, teh gay might get on me" association, but rather, the heterosexual male views himself as "manly". He views homosexuality as "unmanly". The fear is simply that by being associated with gay men, he will thought of as less masculine, and adding to that the perfectly normal sexual revulsion he has for male-homosexual behavior, it compounds to a large mental hangup. When said male then wishes to remove the object of his stress and proclaim his own masculinity, violence is a primal response.

Obviously, this is the wrong behavior to take, but there is a physiological REASON for it.

Swedes, stop stabbing yourselves! If you all kill eachother, who will grow up to have pretty long blonde hair and play lead guitar for deathklok?

 

[ZeroMachine]

The school's response as to why is reasonable. Here's a 6 year old boy... wearing pink. Other 6 year old boys can/will be assholes. They're going to bully the every loving fuck out of that kid. It's going to happen, though the stabbing is such an extreme example of bullying it's ridiculous.

With that said- I would have sued that school out of house and home for treating the situation like it was no big deal. School need to admit that, yes, bullying is going to happen, but if a child is stabbed, even if it is a minor injury, SOMETHING needs to be done.

I get what there saying i mean certain shit will just get you bullied. And kids always do.
But that doesn't mean you should accept it or that it some how makes it okay. I mean thats the whole point of raising kids.

If your that much of a incompetent fucktard that you just let bullying happen as a teacher your better of throwing your dumbass of a bridge.

4)There are plenty of ways he can get around wearing pink like for example, wear a pink shirt but a (insert fitting color here) sweater over it.

Kinda beats the point doesn't it? Its like saying its okay to be gay, just make sure no one finds out.

Don't ask don't tell ya' know?

yeah fuck that retarded bullshit.

Don't ask don't tell what exactly, that your Jewish? Muslim? Christian? Straight? Black?
What good reason would you have for indulging the bigotry of idiots? Why on earth would every one else have to go out of there way just because some jackass will throw a tantrum if you don't?

These "bigots" are idiotic 6 year olds. So yeah, you should cater to them for the time being while waiting for them to learn (by teaching them or having their parents talk to them) that it's wrong to make fun of someone for being different. They don't know any better.

Though I will agree that the teachers should have handled the situation much, much better.