Speaking as another 16 year old, that's a very mature line you're taking. I'm still at the "OMG BOOBIES" stage.
A 16 year old boy on teen sex.
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The way I see it, sex is just sex. Fun for both parties involved and if you excercise caution and act responsibly then their isn't a problem. Sex isn't an adult thing, young people do it all the time - it is just part of life and growing up. Here in the UK the age of consent is 16, most relationships at that age don't mean anything too special, and they don't have too. But that's not to say they can't mean anything special, in some cases they do.Jiraiya72 said:
That's just my thoughts, not directly explicitly at you - I just thought as we have differing opinions it would make sense to quote you and add a general reply to the thread as a whole.
Eh, depends on where you're from, matey. I'm from the UK; legal age is 16. So therefore I don't see the problem.
I'm 18 and still a virgin. Yay me.
I'm 18 and still a virgin. Yay me.
This probably doesn't matter much (I'm guessing the OP is American) but in England 16 the legal age of consent anyway, so I don't quite think you could say they're not mature enough to be making the decision. As for before marriage, I'm personally secular and I'm gonna say that what your heart says is more important than old Yahweh's permission slip.Jiraiya72 said:
Personally i see nothing wrong, but sex at 16 is legal over here in the UK. Also, no offence but your mother is quite old fashioned.
Think scrubs said it best. Sex is for making babies and revenge. Nahh that didn't work
Okay, my 7th grade basketball coach said it best (kinda) He said we're young guys and that he's only kissed three women in his life, one being his wife. And I reasoned with him on that. Make that stuff special, don't go all out just because you can. Personally, I'm a little reserved. I don't want to guess and check, I want to know I'm right before I take more permanent steps. Look, I know you loved this girl, but you're 16, and the stuff you do at 16 you might think was really dumb at 18. What if another girl comes into your life, do you lie about being a virgin? There was someone else, but you're a good runner up? Maybe what I'm saying is you gotta be sure that she is the *one* before you do it. Now does that mean you have to marry her? Nonononono not at all. Good friend of mine is quite active sexually with her boyfriend, but I know that they are made for each other. But, you did go against your mother's wishes, and for that you do deserve any punishment you get. She is your mother, she loves you dearly, and she has her beliefs and practices. Maybe in her eyes she thought of it as "if you love her this much, waiting until marriage would be easy" but I can't speak for her.
So, were you wrong to do it? Maybe. Does your mom have a reason to be mad at you? Yes, she does. You went against her wishes even if you could have said no. If you could do it all over, would you do it again with the women you love again? I bet you a shiny nickel you would.
Okay, my 7th grade basketball coach said it best (kinda) He said we're young guys and that he's only kissed three women in his life, one being his wife. And I reasoned with him on that. Make that stuff special, don't go all out just because you can. Personally, I'm a little reserved. I don't want to guess and check, I want to know I'm right before I take more permanent steps. Look, I know you loved this girl, but you're 16, and the stuff you do at 16 you might think was really dumb at 18. What if another girl comes into your life, do you lie about being a virgin? There was someone else, but you're a good runner up? Maybe what I'm saying is you gotta be sure that she is the *one* before you do it. Now does that mean you have to marry her? Nonononono not at all. Good friend of mine is quite active sexually with her boyfriend, but I know that they are made for each other. But, you did go against your mother's wishes, and for that you do deserve any punishment you get. She is your mother, she loves you dearly, and she has her beliefs and practices. Maybe in her eyes she thought of it as "if you love her this much, waiting until marriage would be easy" but I can't speak for her.
So, were you wrong to do it? Maybe. Does your mom have a reason to be mad at you? Yes, she does. You went against her wishes even if you could have said no. If you could do it all over, would you do it again with the women you love again? I bet you a shiny nickel you would.
Sorry if this has been said already, but i think as long as both people in the relationship are happy about doing it, and that you are both mentally and physically ready, then it doesn't matter about how old you are.
Just don't do what I did... (get ready for a mini-rant...)
One night stand at a party.. i thought i really liked that girl (talked to her at school A LOT etc.)... then, (as i learn the next day), she decided to sleep with my best friend on the same night (after i had been knocked unconcious by alcohol). Needless to say my friend didn't know that I slept with her, otherwise he wouldn't have done it. So when we were talking the next day we realise what she did to both of us. The most ridiculous thing is that she asked us both (individually), whether we would like to hook up with her. We both just told her to gtfo. Sleeping with her is the biggest regret i have.
Just so you all know we were all over 16.
Just don't do what I did... (get ready for a mini-rant...)
One night stand at a party.. i thought i really liked that girl (talked to her at school A LOT etc.)... then, (as i learn the next day), she decided to sleep with my best friend on the same night (after i had been knocked unconcious by alcohol). Needless to say my friend didn't know that I slept with her, otherwise he wouldn't have done it. So when we were talking the next day we realise what she did to both of us. The most ridiculous thing is that she asked us both (individually), whether we would like to hook up with her. We both just told her to gtfo. Sleeping with her is the biggest regret i have.
Just so you all know we were all over 16.
It's practicing self control. You wouldn't have anyone mad at you and wouldn't have had the police at your door if you had only just obeyed one small rule. Sex is supposed to be with someone you love, but apparently you and her just broke up so how long did your love last? A few months? I know someone who broke up with her boyfriend recently, and said she has had sex with tons of boyfriends and that she wished that she had waited til marriage, because she really believed that she loved every single one of the guys she dated, but it didn't work out as planned.
Actually the Pope is never mentioned in the Bible and actually goes against lots of what the Bible says. Without meaning to offend anyone, the best way to describe the Catholics is as a well organized cult (I believe the Bible by the way).Therumancer said:
Man, I know exactly how you feel.. My best friend and I both lost our virginity to the same girl on the same night. Needless to say we shunned the HELL out of her the next day.thejdcole said:
On the topic of saving until marriage, I can't say I agree with it. My girlfriend and I (16 years old) have been raised in very liberal families and neither of us even believe in the concept of marriage at all. Furthermore, her mother starting buying her birth control as soon as we started dating, which reinforces how supportive our parents are about us having sex.
hmmm every generation doesnt like the new ones
if you were born 40 years earlier, your mum would have been irate at you because you went out dancing to 'that disgusting' rock and roll
if you were born 40 years earlier, your mum would have been irate at you because you went out dancing to 'that disgusting' rock and roll
I don't know if the OP is 'too young'. He seems level headed unlike most people who were off losing there virginity at his age that I remember from high school. They were doing it for the sake of doing it to keep up a 'rep' and to flaunt it. So I don't really know what to say a 16 year old should think, although the consequences of sex can be momumental and I don't think a 16 year old would be able to cope on their own, which suggests they're not ready to have a family of their own. I think a respectable person would start a family knowing they are a self-sufficient unit and not scrounging off family and the state.
