A conundrum to drum. No-one under 18.

[Sparkytheyetti]

Your 17. You should be trying to fuck anything with a vagina.

 

[Kiltguy]

Whatever you do... Remember that she is a person, and that they have feelings and thoughts.

Do not, do anything you don't want to.​

Also... Humans are complex, there's often more too them than meets the eye. You're 17, you have a whole life in front you, who know, maybe she is the one.

If all fails, you made a go, hearts mend, life goes on, and you won't die of it, unless you contract a serious STD.



Be smart, but be brave.

... and good luck in whatever you choose to do.​

 

[warmonkey]

I'm fairly certain a criminal record is not a sexually transmitted disease. And wtf, who knows what it's even for. We sure don't.

You're aware she may be trouble.
Keep that in mind but don't let it cloud your judgement.
Keep a clear head about things, and tap that shit rotten. If you don't, you'll just regret it later.

 

[Teckdeth]

I doubt this girl is going to kill you. However if she was asking if you had a girlfriend frequently, she might be looking for something more serious. I'd let her know early on your stance on the relationship, if you don't want one, let her know. S'only fair.

But yeah, if she's cool with that, go for it man! Oh, one more thing. Condoms. Do it

 

[I am only a man]

Personally, I'd say no because, in my experience, it is kind of unusual for a girl to just up and give you oral shortly after you've just met. Call me distrusting, but that just seems suspect and there are bound to be ulterior motives. Plus you don't even seem to be more interested in her for any other reason than sex, which is a recipe for disaster; especially if she' s looking for more. But, if you are dead set on having sex with this girl, I'd make sure to be clear about what you two want from this, and most definitely use protection. But yeah, ditching your friend without letting him know what's up; dick move man.

 

[pearcinator]

She sounds like the type who will dump you when she meets another guy...you're only 17. I'm 20 and still a virgin but I don't care cos I have standards that go beyond looks.

For example, even if she was super hot I wouldn't do anything with her cos she said she smokes which is my #1 turn-off. But hey, it's your life so do with it as you please don't let anybody tell you otherwise...I am just offering my opinion but hey you can ignore my opinion and fuck her brains out I don't care.

 

[smurf_you]

Okay I just have to say, all of you people saying she wants something JUST BECAUSE she started giving him head after knowing him for only a couple hours, I am appalled.... Some girls (myself included) just like sex (oral or otherwise) so I find it actually rather offensive that so many of you seem to think she's only doing it cause she wants something. What's wrong with liking sex? Is it still so taboo that girls can't like it without being branded as sluts or something similar? We have needs too you know! (some of us more than others <.<)


ANYWAY on topic: If you want to do it, and are smart about it, go for it. I almost had a criminal record too (for public lewdness >.> *cough cough*) but I'm a nice and well read person (or so I keep being told) so who knows, she might be an awesome person.

 

[Insanity72]

You're 17, and about to have sex with someone. Simultaneously cheating on your mate.

For f**k's sake, kid, if you're going to pull that kind of asshole move, AT LEAST have the decency to tell your current mate you're not interested in him anymore. Be wary of the criminal girl, but if she's not over 18 at least it's not statutory rape. If this IS the case, for the love of God don't do it. Ignore your pants-brain for another year. If things go wrong her life gets basically cut short. Criminal record against her, statutory rape would ruin her FOREVER, and all because you wanted a little pleasure in the moment.

I'm assuming you live somewhere where the age of consent is 18, BTW. If not, ignore that stuff. But still, don't cheat. That's seriously such a douche move, I'd consider it karmic justice if the girl turned out to only be having sex with you to steal stuff from you or otherwise screw you over later.

He isn't cheating on anyone, Instead of going to a Charity event with his Male friend, he went and hooked up with a Female he met, Just thought i'd clear that up.

And i'm assuming he is legal as he lives in England and since Australia is a by-product of England and the legal age here is 16, i would think it is there too.

 

[let's rock]

wait, you say noone under 18 and you're 17? Ok anyways what you should do really depends on what she was charged with.

 

[Snake Plissken]

Wait, wait, wait. Let me get this straight.

You're only 17, yet you don't want anyone under 18 reading the thread?

 

[Insanity72]

Oh and On topic

Personally i dislike smokers, but if that doesn't bother you, I do not see why you can't, just use protection and you'll be fine.

Sure she has a criminal record, but as long as it wasn't for anything like Murder or Arson, or possible assault (depends on why she did if that was the case). Then i don't see her as getting crazy if you decide to back out of it.

 

[CrimsonBlaze]

go for it mate its her criminal record not yours heck some of my pals have criminal records for stupid things they did and they are some of the most honorable people i know

EDIT if you see something with this girl dont let her go never make the mistake that will leave you wondering.

I agree. No one's perfect and you can't always help who you're attracted to. It's not going to always be sunshine and rainbows, but if you interested, don't let this opportunity pass you.

Remember, be smart, stay safe, and always keep cool.

 

[subjectseven]

Get a 'friends with benefits' thing started. Almost can't go wrong with it if it's handled the right way.

 

[Virmire]

Balls to your rulings!

You don't know the whole story here, she didn't say what the record was for, the story with her step-dad, or really anything about her. Maybe get to know he a bit better before doing anything else. If she is looking for a commitment, and you aren't, don't do it, otherwise you'll end up being a douchebag who used someone for sex. If she just wants to do it, then do it.

 

[Slayer_2]

Go for it man. I'm currently going for a girl with way worse baggage than that. I'm not doing it to just get laid, though, but that's just a technicality. Oh, and make sure you wrap it, you don't want to get her preggers or you infected.

 

[Bob Hoss]

Listen, man... For me, if someone wants to have sex on the first date, it's solid sign of attraction, but a red flag to be cautious.

If they offered/gave me oral on the first date, I'd think they were emotionally unstable and that I was better off being alone.

You're going to get stuck with this chick, she's going to be a crazy, and she will drag you down with her.

RUN WHILE YOU CAN.

 

[Bob Hoss]

To quote a staff member here at the Escapist, "Don't stick it in the crazy!" [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/articles/view/columns/lovefaq/9007-Love-FAQ-Don-t-Stick-It-in-The-Crazy]

Let's add up a few things.

1. She bought you alcohol
2. She was the aggressive force in meeting
3. She lives in a foster home (so is she really all that stable?)
4. She performs oral when you've done nothing better than say, "hi" to her
5. She confesses to having a criminal record

These don't add up to anything good.

First off, do you think you're the first guy she's done this routine on?

What do you think she wants out of it? Because I can tell you, it isn't sex. She's trying to allure you via sex to conform to her needs (i.e. money or some fairy tale idea of a boyfriend, which not even The Most Interesting Man in the World could fulfill.)

Also, do you see her and respect her as a person? Or do you just want her to be your living, breathing, sex doll?

I personally don't see anything worthwhile coming out of this girl you've met. Best move on and find someone a bit more "classy."

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^This. All of this. Thank you Ar0ra145.

 

[kinggamecat]

I feel it's all about if ya think ya love her, sex isn't everything, maybe ya could be in an open relationship, that's if ya just want sex, ya know a friend with benefits. If yer in love with her, be with her, just try to use good judgement from then on.

 

[RedDeadFred]

Ok, so here's the thing. Don't read if you're under 18.

Im fifteen, I defy your silly rule! and i say tread lightly my European friend.

Lol and he's 17! He says so in his post. Does this mean he's not allowed to write what he has just written?
OT: I'm 20 so I pass your rule anyway. All I can say is: be careful.

Now I don't know what her record is but if it has anything to do with drugs, given her promiscuous attitude, I would stay away if I were you. She may have an STI or some serious drug abuse issues which you really don't want fucking up your future.

If you really want to live in the moment, do it once you are actually in university. That's what first year is for. You get the majority of the partying and need for sex out of your system and then you can focus on your future.