A MAN'S TOPIC: Why are They Obcessed with sex?

[Lavi]

Pfft, problem with this thread is it is trying to stereotype 6 billion humans under a single heading using evolution (or whatever else). It, isn't, going, to work. If you use evolution, suddenly you have to account for chosen asexualism and every, fucking, range of the human sexual experience.

... And some of that stuff is just fucking weird.

 

[UsefulPlayer 1]

Well there are two driving things behind this universe.

The Force and.....well I don't want to mention her name, but to understand how pretty she is, you should know I haven't seen her for two years and I've never had a clearer memory than that of her smile.

Plus I now pretty much define all good, and I mean all good, by her. And the Force of course...

Sooooo yeah, sex drive's a *****.

 

[floppylobster]

If we weren't then we wouldn't be alive and here and now would we? Those who are more obsessed than others breed more, therefore have more children. Those children are more likely to share that obsession through genes or learning behaviour from adult role models.

Those that aren't obsessed, don't mate as much, don't breed as often. Eventually, through competition for resources (be that suitable mates, means of living or food), become extinct. Same for every animal.

If the environment changes - food runs out, space runs out, or something - and having children becomes more of a burden to survival, then those who are not as obsessed will prevail and the trend will reverse. Not really a mystery, just logic and evolution.

Why are men more aggressive about sex? Because the males in our species are stronger. Competition has encouraged aggressiveness. Were that reversed (and one day it may happen), everything will change again. We are products of our evolutionary history.

 

[floppylobster]

Any anomaly you see Nibbles, is only temporary. In a large mechanism like evolution such things as perversions are small variations that do not survive for longer than a few hundred years. Over the years of human rise to dominance on the planet, straight sex, between man and women has been the most successful at reproduction and therefore the most common for us. That doesn't mean it's right or wrong. It just works. (in the current environment).

 

[Rigs83]

The difference between male and female sex drive beyond the biological imperatives is that sex is often a choice for women while it is an objective for men.
To elaborate women in the best of circumstances choose to have sex with a partner/s when they feel the desire to have it and culturally speaking are giving more options then men, a woman is not usually vilified nearly as much as a man would be for homosexual behavior in most western societies. Women ask your male partner if he would like to watch you with another woman and vice versa men ask your female partner if she would like to see you with another man in bed to see my point. Say some asshole online dared you.
To return to topic a man in most western cultures is expected to have many partners and is often ridiculed for not doing so. Would the film 40 year old virgin still be funny if a woman was cast as the titular character instead of a man.
This difference in expectations from society sadly leads to the inexcusable victimization of women where one in six women in the US civilian life, one in four in the military, will suffer some form sexual assault in there lifetime and homosexuals being ostracized in public and by law.
Contrary to the opinion of some, I believe the only way to bring equality in the sexes is to have frank, public and open conversations without the fear of reprisal by the FCC should it occur on the airwaves or pointless protest by the religious right.
We have to face each other and we need not have to like but at least respect each others choices in life.

 

[megapenguinx]

Procreation instinct?
Personally, I am not all that interested in sex

 

[Imat]

Because manly men read typos and get angry. They vent their frustrations by having sex. A typo such as obcessed causes at least 1.5 million unwanted pregnancies (The wanted pregnancies are much higher). Then these children, lacking proper adult care, make more typos on the interweb. Its a vicious cycle that can only be broken when typos are eliminated or "protection" is utilized.


Too far?

 

[Rigs83]

Actually humans tend to breed without restraint regardless of the environmental situation which is why famines in Africa and other third world nations exact such a horrific toll. People don't stop having children even if their survival is slim to none. In the animal kingdom only humans do this.

 

[samsprinkle]

I am going to say this once, and only once. WHY ARE WOMEN NOT OBSESSED WITH SEX?

 

[Sewblon]

I lost most of my sex drive and sexual capabilities when I took the SAT. I know sex must be a different experience with different implications, like pregnancy, for women but they have a biological imperative to reproduce too.

 

[Bourne Endeavor]

I am male and have almost no interest in sex, whatsoever. I am completely apathetic to the concept of dating and more or less will play into the the thought of "It'll happen, when it happens." Personally I find sex overrated and once I do take a fancy to a girl would value the relationship far more.

 

[Rigs83]

I am going to say this once, and only once. WHY ARE WOMEN NOT OBSESSED WITH SEX?

They are just not with anyone they will ever meet in reality.

 

[Frankydee]

The guys i grew up with didn't really see sex as something to just general be desired all the time but (and i kid you not) as some sort of status symbol.

So I'll be blunt, I grew up christian values, as I got older I got more jaded and cynical of these dimwits I had the unfortunate opportunity of surrounding myself with, and as i tunrs out, I'm falling a little over a month short of 22, I've never gotten laid, and I -just don't care.-

I see what the whole doing the deed thing does to guys I often hang out with and I find just how consumed about the whole matter they've gotten to the point where I don't even want to so much as think of myself being that way where every waking moment seems to be all about one ten minute act, showering off and going to work right after.

So I can only guess I fall into the category of asexual. And mind you I'm as straight as a guy can get.

 

[Bulletinmybrain]

I like to think, I could say no to sex.. Unless I really care about someone. I will probably keep up this mentality, until I can get over my trust issue with women. (Lol, it is great when you have a friend majoring in psychology)

 

[Rigs83]

If we weren't then we wouldn't be alive and here and now would we? Those who are more obsessed than others breed more, therefore have more children. Those children are more likely to share that obsession through genes or learning behaviour from adult role models.

Those that aren't obsessed, don't mate as much, don't breed as often. Eventually, through competition for resources (be that suitable mates, means of living or food), become extinct. Same for every animal.

If the environment changes - food runs out, space runs out, or something - and having children becomes more of a burden to survival, then those who are not as obsessed will prevail and the trend will reverse. Not really a mystery, just logic and evolution.

Why are men more aggressive about sex? Because the males in our species are stronger. Competition has encouraged aggressiveness. Were that reversed (and one day it may happen), everything will change again. We are products of our evolutionary history.

Actually humans tend to breed without restraint regardless of the environmental situation which is why famines in Africa and other third world nations exact such a horrific toll. People don't stop having children even if their survival is slim to none. In the animal kingdom only humans do this.

 

[Bulletinmybrain]

Actually humans tend to breed without restraint regardless of the environmental situation which is why famines in Africa and other third world nations exact such a horrific toll. People don't stop having children even if their survival is slim to none. In the animal kingdom only humans do this.

Your view on biology is incorrect..

If your species is having trouble surviving, the more you breed.. More desirable characteristics will be inherited for use in that environment. Africans have dark skin which can help in blocking out the suns UV rays..

 

[Laurefinde]

Testosterone, androsterone, and adrenalin! These are why we are obsessed with sex.

Bingo!

And those who have no testosterone have no sex drive. Both women and men produce it - but men produce more of it for their sexual health. It increases assertiveness and libido, or sexual instinct in both genders.

 

[Rigs83]

Pfft, problem with this thread is it is trying to stereotype 6 billion humans under a single heading using evolution (or whatever else). It, isn't, going, to work. If you use evolution, suddenly you have to account for chosen asexualism and every, fucking, range of the human sexual experience.

... And some of that stuff is just fucking weird.

Actually homosexuality has been witnessed in certain settings such as zoos where isolation and the limited to non-existent options for a mate exist. As for the wild a primates species of chimps called Bonobos practice homosexuality as a way to strengthen ties in a family group. Other great apes such as gorillas have been observed practicing homosexuality among young adolescents if no females are in the group.
Beyond mammals certain species of sea slugs, which are hermaphroditic, will mate by dueling with their penises. The victor stabs the the loser with its penis injecting it's sperm into the loser blood stream. This forces it to go through the difficult and arduous task of pregnancy.

As for other characteristics of human sexual behavior you should study the various works of Kinsey and other behavioral scientist. Humans are weird but so is life itself.

 

[Rigs83]

Actually humans tend to breed without restraint regardless of the environmental situation which is why famines in Africa and other third world nations exact such a horrific toll. People don't stop having children even if their survival is slim to none. In the animal kingdom only humans do this.

Your view on biology is incorrect..

If your species is having trouble surviving, the more you breed.. More desirable characteristics will be inherited for use in that environment. Africans have dark skin which can help in blocking out the suns UV rays..

If all offspring die of starvation then no desirable characteristics emerge. That's why many species don't give birth before spring when resources are plentiful and the offspring have a greater chance of surviving. Humans reproduce regardless of the availability of vital natural resources that's why the Rapa Nui people of modern day Easter Island no longer exist as they once did. They overpopulated and destroyed the ecosystem that had sustained them much like humans, in general, are doing on a global stage today.
It is highly unlikely a species of human will emerge this century that can sustain itself on plastic waste and carbon monoxide gas no matter how many children are born. The adaptation of darker skin among people in tropical zones while people in more temperate ones have lighter skin took many generations and centuries to evolve.

 

[Same River New Water]

You might as well ask why humans are so obsessed with eating. It's survival of the species.