A Moral Conundrum for you guys, Would you sleep with a married person? (READ THE OP BEFORE POSTING)

[Giftfromme]

If it's not you doing that person, gonna be someone else. So might as well be you with that married person. It's not like you're going to end or ruin a marriage, if he or she is going home with you, their marriage is going to end anyway. So have your fun imho

 

[Programmed_For_Damage]

I have, and I have regretted that decision for going on five years now. At the time I seemed great, but when I wasn't out of it in a haze of sex and alcohol I thought to myself "how would I like it if I was that guy and someone was banging my misses?" The answer was "not very much" and I put an end to it there and then.

A friend of mine went through a similar scenario and he also regrets his actions deeply. So the motto of the story is if I can speak for myself, and my mate we'd both say we know it's tempting but don't do it. You'll live to regret it, one way or another (e.g. have the shit kicked out of you by the husband like happened to my friend).

 

[Thaluikhain]

Um, you haven't specified if the spouse knows about this.

You have couples that are ok with open relationships...the ones I've personally known were on their way to a divorce but haven't got their yet (in one case, they'd agreed to hold off on the divorce until the kids were grown up).

 

[Dryk]

I would try to talk them out of it
I would never trust them

But the main question? I honestly don't know.

 

[Dags90]

There are no parallels, she seeks such encounters with multiple people, I simply allowed my encounters to happen. She's a predator, I'm an opportunistic carnivore.

Sounds like fundamental attribution error. You don't accidentally trip and fall into a woman's vagina any more than she fell onto those dicks.

Also, pointing out that there are some thing which don't line up exactly doesn't dissolve the parallels Are you going to next point out that she drove over when texted and you biked over when called?

But this is where I check out. Common sense is tingling.

 

[Shocksplicer]

There are no parallels, she seeks such encounters with multiple people, I simply allowed my encounters to happen. She's a predator, I'm an opportunistic carnivore.

Sounds like fundamental attribution error. You don't accidentally trip and fall into a woman's vagina any more than she fell onto those dicks.

Also, pointing out that there are some thing which don't line up exactly doesn't dissolve the parallels Are you going to next point out that she drove over when texted and you biked over when called?

Would you consider a man convicted of 2nd degree murder to be just as bad as a man convicted of multiple accounts of isolated 1st degree murder incidents? Who was worse? Adolf Hitler, or the Nazi's under his command?

I'm sorry that you have the reasoning capacity of a five year old, but this is where I'll check out as well, I feel like my IQ is dropping just from reading your tosh.

I think he's saying that you're still a bad person regardless of context.

 

[Arakasi]

In the immortal words of Randy Marsh -
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[justnotcricket]

I'd call it quits. But then I'd never be involved in that situation, because I don't sleep with people after meeting them one night in a bar. That is a fast track to *many* problems, least of which might be discovering that they were actually married.

 

[malestrithe]

Probably not. But considering that I have the ethics of a cat, I might depending on how drunk I get.

 

[ishist]

The only thing I dislike more than liars is cheaters. So depending on the severity of the person's impairment, I might very well inform their spouse. Yes, I would be that much of a bastard.

 

[L. Declis]

Honestly?

A random woman, who is married, has come back to mine for some random sex?

And I assume she is attractive enough for me to take back home?

Honestly, yes. I would have sex with her and never see her again. This is her problem, not mine.

I've noticed a lot of people were saying they wouldn't pursue a relationship with this married person, but that's not the question. Of course I wouldn't date a cheater, but if they're attractive, I wouldn't care one way or another.

Next day, she leaves, we don't see each other again. Sorted.

 

[loc978]

Depends. When she says "I'm married", I say "Is it an open marriage, are you separated, or are you just unhappy with it?"

Options 1 and 2, I'm still going for it. Option 3... more complicated. I'd be happy to help her blow off steam once, but I wouldn't stick around to be a third wheel.

Also, to those who are saying they'd leave... the OP is explicit. You're at your place, you'd need to ask the other person to leave.

 

[Angry_squirrel]

I like to think I'd say no, but self control in those situations is a difficult thing to maintain, so I'm honestly not sure.

 

[Gennadios]

A married woman out to get nookie isn't going to spill that she's married to a one night stand. It'll only come to light if you hit it off well enough to keep at it and certain signs start popping up that she has another life.

As it stands... from time to time it it becomes necessary to feed. Sometimes it's better to not know where your catch is coming from. Unless it's the partner of somebody I know, it wouldn't stop me.

Captcha: fairy tale

 

[Master_of_Oldskool]

Given the horrible experience I had living with my parents, neither of whom knew "fidelity" was even a word, I would never inflict that on another household. I pick up my clothes and leave without a single word.

CAPTCHA: done that

Pretty much sums it up, thank you.

 

[Dags90]

I think he's saying that you're still a bad person regardless of context.

I think he's arguing that with these Hitler references. "At least I'm not Hitler" is also probably one of the weakest arguments ever.

I don't really ascribe good/bad to it though. I'm one of the people who said they might go through with the OP. I just think he's similar to the person he called a "phone service whore" and a "monster".