A Moral Conundrum for you guys, Would you sleep with a married person? (READ THE OP BEFORE POSTING)
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I had almost exactly this happen to me! We were still in the club (getting quite frisky in a dark corner) when he suddenly blurted out "I'm married". After an awkward moment while I tried to think of something to say (what do you say to that?) he leaned forward and started kissing me again.jackpackage200 said:
Honestly, I just didn't know how to react. I half-thought he might have been joking! But when it came time to leave - and he made a suggestion about going back to his place - I said I needed to go home (something about work in the morning). He very gentlemanly walked me to the night bus.
Right before saying goodbye, he surprised me by apologising. He said something like: "I'm sorry, I really am. You're an amazing person and... It's just hard. Sometimes I just can't stand her. She's in Manchester and... I don't know... I'm just really sorry."
I never saw him again, but he added me on Facebook a few days later. Which means I've now seen a photo of his wife. Which is a weird feeling.
In a stupid way, I really hope their marriage improved.
Yeah, I'd sleep with her. If it wasn't me, then it'd just be someone else (assuming it's only about sex). Of course that's just me rationalising. Hell, I wouldn't stop if it then became casual sex on regular basis.
I just wouldn't date the person, since obviously I can't trust them. I'm a bad, bad person :>
I just wouldn't date the person, since obviously I can't trust them. I'm a bad, bad person :>
Here's the thing; if a married person is roaming the town looking for sex then their marriage isn't what one would call robust. Now if we're there, we've got chemistry and things are happening then I say go for it. Life doesn't give you many chances at happiness and you've got to seize them all.
I can't see me making it a one night stand though. I'd want to spend more time with her, find out what is going on with that marriage and how this drama unfolds.
*reads comments* Whoa, there is a LOT of anger there from some people. You all got parents who divorced or something? Ah, I'm being unfair. I've got presbyterian relatives in Northern Ireland so I can identify with how fun it is to call women adulteress whores and be angry all the time.
I can't see me making it a one night stand though. I'd want to spend more time with her, find out what is going on with that marriage and how this drama unfolds.
*reads comments* Whoa, there is a LOT of anger there from some people. You all got parents who divorced or something? Ah, I'm being unfair. I've got presbyterian relatives in Northern Ireland so I can identify with how fun it is to call women adulteress whores and be angry all the time.
No, because I'm not crazy.
Girl: I don't think we should do this, I thought I heard you were married.
Guy: Na girl, I'm getting a divorce.
The the wife finds out and all hell breaks loose.
I'm petty sure I've heard a few stories where that line is a lie used to trick the other person:Riki Darnell said:
Girl: I don't think we should do this, I thought I heard you were married.
Guy: Na girl, I'm getting a divorce.
The the wife finds out and all hell breaks loose.
If he/she knows what he/she is doing and if I am simply looking for a ONS (which nowdays I do not), then there is no problem. It's her/hus job to keep faithful, not your job to do it for her/him.
Sigh. And also, since I'm a Utilitarian, I must add: The rigt course of action is whatever brings the most utility (in this case, "Hapiness") to the world. So if it is more likely for your ONS to generate more happiness (maybe you get married? Maybe she really needs it because the husband/wife is a dick?) than generate unhappiness, or to be more exact, generate more total happiness than unhappiness, then it is the right thing to do.
(So pretty much ignore the first statement. It only applies because you can almost never tell what action will bring the most total utility)
Sigh. And also, since I'm a Utilitarian, I must add: The rigt course of action is whatever brings the most utility (in this case, "Hapiness") to the world. So if it is more likely for your ONS to generate more happiness (maybe you get married? Maybe she really needs it because the husband/wife is a dick?) than generate unhappiness, or to be more exact, generate more total happiness than unhappiness, then it is the right thing to do.
(So pretty much ignore the first statement. It only applies because you can almost never tell what action will bring the most total utility)
Yes, I'd do it.
It's not my problem that their marriage isn't fulfilling.
Also any male who attacks another guy for banging his wife, really should be looking at himself & the actual reason his wife feels the need to sleep with others.
It's not my problem that their marriage isn't fulfilling.
Also any male who attacks another guy for banging his wife, really should be looking at himself & the actual reason his wife feels the need to sleep with others.
I'm not interested in sex so it'd be a no anyway.
But, if I was, I'd still say no because I'm not going to ruin someone else's happiness.
In fact, I'd probably try to convince the married person to come clean about it to their partner - I can't stand people who decieve others.
But, if I was, I'd still say no because I'm not going to ruin someone else's happiness.
In fact, I'd probably try to convince the married person to come clean about it to their partner - I can't stand people who decieve others.
No I wouldn't....I can't clearly explain why though I'll give it a go...
mostly it's because I think cheating is one of the worst things a person can do and being 'involved' in cheating in any way would mean that I don't even believe what I believe in (as in I don't support my own morals).
mostly it's because I think cheating is one of the worst things a person can do and being 'involved' in cheating in any way would mean that I don't even believe what I believe in (as in I don't support my own morals).
Assuming that she isn't drunk or we're both drunk and other such things that would make this unlawful. I would have sex with her, again assuming she agrees with it. I don't really see the moral problem with this. For all I know the spouse is completely okay with this or if not, then it is her job to tell.