A Moral Conundrum for you guys, Would you sleep with a married person? (READ THE OP BEFORE POSTING)

[Tipsy Giant]

You are single, you are doing nothing wrong. However i'm guessing their partner won't see it that way.

I'd stay clear but I wouldn't judge someone who doesn't, it is the person in a relationship breaking trust, that's their decision

 

[BOOM headshot65]

I will see most peoples "No" and raise you a "HELL NO!"

First, lets ignore the fact I wouldnt even be in a bar (I dont drink) and that I find one-night stands immoral, CHEATING IS NOT OK! I will give you a ride back to your signifigant other, spend time with them. But it aint happening. Hey, stop rubbing my shirt, my mind is made up, and you wont change it. Get out.

 

[Johnny Impact]

I don't approach women. Full stop. When the answer is always no, you learn to stop asking.

I don't trust women who approach me. It never happens except for practical jokes so the woman would obviously have an ulterior motive.

Even disregarding those two points, I would never pursue anything, not even a one-night stand, with a taken woman. The fact that she's willing to do wrong doesn't give me permission to do wrong also.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

No, I would not. Because if they are willing to cheat with ME when they are MARRIED, that is just 5 different kinds of messed up, she has a husband for a reason, if she wants some sexy time she can go find him. Plus just because I can, doesn't mean I should. a rule that has wisely helped me all throughout life.

Not to mention, I don't engage in one night stands anymore, just don't see the point, I don't want someone easy, nor do I want to fool around with someone for just one night.

 

[The Night Angel]

I wouldn't, for two reasons. One, I can't abide people who are unfaithful. I don't like dishonesty in general, and this type in particular annoys me. I had a girlfriend cheat on me, and I would never inflict that on someone else, regardless of how much I liked their significant other. It took me a while to forgive my twin when I found out he had cheated on his GF 2 years ago.
Secondly, I don't like one night stands. I have had only two in my life, and I wouldn't want a third. I like to actually know/care about the person...

 

[The Last Nomad]

I'd ask what she wants to do, but unless she was sure, I probably wouldn't do it for a one night stand.
It'd be a totally different story if I knew the person for a long time, and hoped to see them again.

But I don't think I could really know what I would do unless I was in the situation.

 

[5ilver]

Dunno, depends on what the other person wants. Marriage doesn't really mean anything to me- just an outdated, pointless piece of paper.
But if the other person is happy with his partner and dislikes polygamy, then I'd obviously look elsewhere. Not like sex is hard to find ^^

It's actually a legal arrangement. I also highly doubt you'd appreciate this if you were on the other end of the spectrum. "What? How could you cheat on me woman?!" "What? We're not allowed to see other people? It's not like we're supposed to only date each other. People are meant to meet new people!"

Well, if I was in the position of husband and she was being unfaithful, I wouldn't be mad at the random person she sleeps with. I mean, if she's not happy with me(her husband), she's going to find somebody else sooner or later. It's like being mad with every single person in the world when it's obviously *her* and not *their* choice.

 

[BringBackBuck]

Hmm moral dilemma. Would I weigh up the alternatives and make a sensible decision? I'd like to think so, but honestly

Here is the scenario:
The both of you end up at your place and things start getting serious. As you two are fooling around...

OK, at this point, I really don't care what she says, I'm thinking with my penis anyway by this point so sex would definitely be happening.

I was in a similar situation with a girl who was in a serious relationship (partner was overseas at the time). I said something along the lines of "umm we probably shouldn't do thhat because it's ummm.... bad and ... stuff .. and OK then just carry on like that, yeah right there

 

[ThatLankyBastard]

Honestly... I'd probably let it happen...

I'd like to think that I'd be strong enough to say no to an attractive women wanting to do something that is slightly against my morals, but realistically I doubt I would... And honestly, I doubt many of the people saying they wouldn't go through with it would actually stop right there in the heat of the moment.

They might falter a bit, maybe put up a bit of resistance, but in the end they'd give in to base desires....

Of course this is just my opinion! I guess we'll all just have to wait and see what happens if this situation ever arises...

 

[SpectacularWebHead]

You ever met anyone who's cheated whilst in a relationship? I've met several, and they were ALL collosal assholes. I can't imagine why anyone would be with them in the first place. The usual question is, How do they find people to cheat with?

The worst example of this was a guy I spoke to who claimed he was "Trying to find the perfect B****" But needed "Just a little something to get my rocks off on". Just, euch.

Okay, so a lot of times there might be reasons someone would have an affair, but from my Semi-limited experience with cheaters, the best thing you can do if you're with someone who is cheating is get out of the relationship.

 

[SadisticBrownie]

I'd go for it. If she wants to cheat on her husband, that's fine with me.

 

[ninjaRiv]

I may be a total prick (seriously, I am) but I'd go for it. I'd never cheat on any girlfriend, I truly believe that it's within everybody's power to say "no thank you, I'm in a relationship" but I'm not above sleeping with a married woman.

Like I said, I'm a prick.

 

[SonOfVoorhees]

To behonest, im single and she isnt. Its for her to be faithful, not for me to insure she is.

 

[Soulfoodman]

I think I would go through with it. It might suck, but I'm not cheating on anyone here. She made her choice.

 

[Dags90]

Id be careful with that assumption I know a lot of guys who dont wear their wedding rings some because they dont actually like wearing any jewellery and others because its not practical to have things on their fingers when doing their jobs and so rarely bother to put it on at all even when out, its not that they want to be seen as available to get sex from someone other than their spouse.

I'm also gay, and live in a country where gay marriage isn't universally recognized. So we're talking about a man who's probably married to a woman being in a gay bar without a wedding ring on.

99% of the time, he went to the gay bar to get laid by a man who isn't his wife. It's a reasonably fair assumption.

 

[Comocat]

I'd like to say no, but the odds are if I had already left the bar with her, I would say yes. There is an interesting study in the book "Predictably Irrational" by Dan Ariely where he gave undergrads moral quizzes. The twist was he had a group take the test while watching pornography and found that while the students were aroused they were more likely to approve of risky behaviors. So the ideal version of myself says I'd walk away, but the reality of the matter is I don't know. Of course I'm married and old so I'm not sure what bars are anymore.

 

[TKretts3]

Once night stands are an obviously flawed and ridiculous idea so it wouldn't have gotten to that point for me. However if the question were something more along the lines of, "If you were in a relationship with a guy and you found out that they were married/not single, would you continue it?" then the answer would be no, I would leave it immediately.

Cheating may not be a crime against law but it's a crime against morality and I refuse to be an accessory to that. If he were to leave his current commitment before entering into another relationship, then it would be a different scenario. But as long as he is still married to someone else it would never happen.

 

[Zio_IV]

Yes, yes I would.

She tells me in the middle of things that she's married? Not gonna faze me, or her, judging by your scenario. She made her choice to go against her marriage, and is clearly willing to sleep with other people. The only time I wouldn't go for it is if the person in question isn't willing (or I'm not, obviously). All other potential reasons are just unneccesary clutter.