A Moral Conundrum for you guys, Would you sleep with a married person? (READ THE OP BEFORE POSTING)

[game-lover]

I'd STOP. I would stop so fast.

There would be NO damn temptation because learning he is married would put the ice water on me so fast and dry me up like a desert, I wouldn't barely be able to cope.

I'd be disgusted and pissed. Oh so very pissed. The nerve of this pathetic son of a ***** to try to make me into his whore for a night. He can go fuck himself and IF he's lucky, I won't figure out who his wife is and spill the beans.

No way I could go through with it. I know I'd be disgusted with myself and ashamed at the very thought. If somehow I did, I couldn't possibly live with the guilt.


P.S. I'm also gonna go with what some others have said and qualify that I probably wouldn't do a one night stand. I don't understand them and if I'd choose to have sex with someone, I think it'd be implied in my brain that I'd want/expect to see them again or have occasion for more rounds.

 

[Shpongled]

GET THE F*CK OUT OF MY HOUSE YOU DIRTY SLAPPER

Sex is not worth making someone else very miserable, if you go ahead with the sex you are a terrible person.
I would definitely tell her husband if I knew them, (but I would not have known they were married obviously) if they were someone I did not know then I would just tell them to get lost.

Or they're a fairly standard human being. First look up Stanley Milgram and his studies (and the countless offshoots of it, all with similar results), then check out the funky neurochemical known as Dopamine, and what it does to your brain during sexual arousal (OP's question states we're about to get down to the act of it when s/he tells me, chances are i'm aroused at this point).

You might be surprised.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

You said we met at a bar... how many drinks have I had? Because that is the issue that will decide this.

If I'm still clear-minded, I'd end it. If I'm too drunk to reason properly and I'm in the middle of a make-out session with a hot guy, I doubt anything short of the hand of God himself could make me stop what I'm doing.

 

[Mr Fixit]

I almost did one time, but she backed out. She was the married one by the way & they were supposed to be getting a divorce, not because of me, she came to me when they started having problems.

Would I consider it now... No. Too much drama & BS involved.

 

[Karhukonna]

Yes.



I was gonna leave my post to that one word, but I suppose that's not exactly constructive posting, so allow me to explain.



Hell yes.

 

[Wolfram23]

I'd probably pretend like that's a deal breaker and let her talk me into it.

Like

Her: "um... I'm married..."
Me: "Oh, what? I guess we should stop"
Her: "Well... I don't mind. He'll never know!"
Me: "Yeah... OK!"

Also, when I met my girlfriend she was married. Technically. They were in the process of doing a divorce, she had already moved out and all that. So. Yeah.

 

[deathzero021]

depends... if i'm really in the mood than i might end up doing it. (i don't approve of the whole one-night-stand shit so this is unlikely)
if i'm drunk or something than a big obvious yes i would. (though i do not drink so this is very unlikely)

so my more likely answer is: i would most likely say NO due to the fact that there are some real dangerous results that could happen if i did go through with it. also i don't think i could disrespect one's marriage like that. that's f***ed up.

 

[attackshark]

I bet you could masturbate over soap opera's, and lawyer drama's if you think like that

who says i don't?

 

[Lt._nefarious]

It would depend on if the woman was doing it because she hated her husband or he mistreated her then, yeah, sure, I'd go through with but if her husband was faithful and treated her well I wouldn't want to potentially destroy a good thing...

 

[AnarchistFish]

Probably. The burden's on her, I wouldn't go into a proper relationship with her but if she's willing to do that there's a problem there anyway; you're not the cause of it.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

They'd have to buy me dinner first.



Yeah I'd end it, I couldn't do that. Actually I don't sleep with any girl on the first date no matter how good

 

[Fuhrlock]

In my opinion moral responsibility falls upon the married person since at the end of the day they are making the active decision to cheat on their significant other. Not to say that I would without question sleep with the person but if after questioning I could understand and accept the motives/circumstances of her situation (a significant conditional), I wouldn't feel guilty about having done so.

 

[game-lover]

Helping someone do something unethical is by definition unethical. Make whatever excuses you want, but its the same as people who knowingly buy stolen goods, they are as guilty as the original perp.

I'm glad other people see it that way and I like the comparison. You could even throw out that same awful excuse that "Someone else will buy them anyway!"

That makes two of us. All these other replies are hitting so many nerves, I almost wish I'd never posted.

This is where I would gladly use that cliche of "wishing I didn't live on this planet anymore, loss of faith in humanity, people are severely lacking" blah blah blah...

 

[Shpongled]

GET THE F*CK OUT OF MY HOUSE YOU DIRTY SLAPPER

Sex is not worth making someone else very miserable, if you go ahead with the sex you are a terrible person.
I would definitely tell her husband if I knew them, (but I would not have known they were married obviously) if they were someone I did not know then I would just tell them to get lost.

Or they're a fairly standard human being. First look up Stanley Milgram and his studies (and the countless offshoots of it, all with similar results), then check out the funky neurochemical known as Dopamine, and what it does to your brain during sexual arousal (OP's question states we're about to get down to the act of it when s/he tells me, chances are i'm aroused at this point).

You might be surprised.

Fairly standard and terrible are not mutually exclusive. Also if you're going to cite his studies, do be more specific. For instance the rather well known Milgram experiment is on something completely different. Even if it has something to do with dopamine that is not going to be much of an excuse to say the experiment particularly applies to this.

Point is people generally like to hold themselves in high regard, yet when the situation actually comes down to it, many people will break their ethical standards. I don't think it's fair to call any average human being whose brain is essentially run by neurotransmitters terrible, they do what they do, it's human nature.

If the question would have been "would you continue to flirt and start a little fondling if you knew this person was married", then you'd be more justified to question ethics, but the specifically stipulates that the fooling around has start (little fondling? maybe some rubbing and grinding going on somewhere..). At this point the dopomine is wanting to start making itself known in force and your brain lowers its inhibitions, so to speak (rats walking over electrified dose in order to recieve a spike over dopomine, for example(can't remember study, google it).

I'm not saying you're a complete slave to it or anything, just that i'm willing to bet that at least half of will, given the circumstances (horniness) of the question and give the right girl or guy, will just say "fuck it" and fuck. To put it bluntly. /'Cos that what human beings are.

 

[Zorg Machine]

I probably wouldn't do it but only because it saves me trouble, not because of any moral reasons.

The thing is, I don't really care. She obviously wants it and I really don't think that I'm responsible for the "sanctity" of their marriage.