A Moral Conundrum for you guys, Would you sleep with a married person? (READ THE OP BEFORE POSTING)

[Danceofmasks]

Depends on the answer to the question, why?

If it's a toxic marriage wherein both parties cheat a lot, then yes.
If it's something tragic like her husband being really bad in bed, then no.

 

[Sun Flash]

No, for several reasons.

1) I live my life by thinking how my actions would make me feel if I were on the receiving end and I know that it would all but break me if my other half cheated on me. So I wouldn't do it.

2) I would refuse, on principle to be the other person. Call it selfish or whatever but I don't want someone who's already taken. If I'm going to bump uglies with someone, there attention better be on me.

3) this person is obviously showing no compunctions with cheating on their partner. Past experience, through myself and my friend's relationships has made me feel "once a cheater, always a cheater". I wouldn't want to get involved with someone like that, even if just for a one night stand. It'd make me feel used. and fuck that.

4)Have you seen me in a social context? You couldn't get someone to have a one night stand with me if your life depended on it. I'm the kind of person ugly people look at and go "Hey, at least I'm not that guy."

 

[manic_depressive13]

I would never be in such a situation to begin with because I don't have sex with random strangers, but imagining I were, I wouldn't sleep with that person. I don't think it's unacceptable to be a cheatee, and if a friend of mine were to sleep with a married person I wouldn't think less of them. I feel the onus is strongly in the cheater to make their decision. However, I do think people who cheat are jerks and I wouldn't sleep with someone I think is a jerk. I also think cheating with someone and then telling their spouse is the absolute worst thing someone can do.

 

[minimacker]

One does not break the bro-code.

 

[DaWaffledude]

You call that a conundrum? Fuck no.

 

[TsunamiWombat]

You stop.

 

[Navvan]

Nope I end it. I'm not one who is interested in a one night stand, or would wish to start a relationship with someone I know will cheat on me if the conditions are right. Not to mention there are all the horror stories of the crazed husband coming after you.

I wouldn't really care about the actual act of "harming" their marriage as the affair is a symptom not a cause. If you're at the point of having an affair you need serious help assuming you ever want a long lasting romantic relationship.

 

[Sneezeguard]

This is one of those things everyone ever says don't do it but when something like this happens to them... well some people don't tend to follow their own advice.

And I doubt everyone here who said no would be so quick to say no if this happend to them

 

[jklinders]

Bad idea personally.

I'd get pissed that she opened this encounter under false pretenses, tell her to get dressed and get the ever loving fuck out.

I have enough of my own drama without someone getting me involved in theirs without my prior consent.

 

[Bassik]

I don't know, marriage doesn't seem so important to me as the bond it is supposed to represent.
The woman in the scenario is an adult, just like me, and I think it's her business, not mine, that she is married. I probably go for it, unless her husband is a friend of mine (Then it's absolutely, under any circumstance: look but don't touch)

 

[Dangit2019]

Absolutely not. If she told me that, I would be nervous the entire night that the husband would kick the door in and beat the crap out of me.

Even if he didn't, however, I would still feel guilty that some poor schmuck is sitting at home or on a business trip and I helped his wife betray him. That would just be too much for me.

Also, if I wanted a good one-night stand, I would just go fishing for someone else the night after. There's plenty of girls out their that are in for uncommitted sex, so its not like I would be winning the lottery by getting this married women.

 

[Dragonclaw]

Nope, I'm not the type to go for one night stands so if we're anywhere near the sack it means I'm thinking relationship...and he who lives by the sword dies by the sword. This woman isn't going to be faithful to her husband than she isn't going to be with ME either...that's a deal breaker and she needs to get the heck out.

 

[attackshark]

hah! i was having this exact conversation with my girlfriend just yesterday.

not only would i do it, i would enjoy it. i have this fantasy of destroy some woman's (any woman) marriage through an extra martial affair. i don't know why, but i get a sadistic kick out of the though of her begging her husband to take her back, or the two of them sitting at a lawyer's office struggling through the divorce proceedings while i sit back in my chair and enjoy not having my life ruined through a poor decision.

it's not like i would lie to said woman and make her promises of grandeur or claim that i am madly in love with her and will always be with her. i'm not that dasteredly. but if she's willing to risk her relationship, there are other problems a foot and i am simply a catalyst.

an horny catalyst.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

I?d continue if it was an open marriage or they were separated. I?d stop if it was a closed marriage, not because it?d be against whatever the hell my ethical code is meant to be, but no matter how desperate for sex I may be, I?d rather not risk the husband somehow tracking me down and beating seven shades out of my skull. Why would I want to get involved in and/or potentially damage a random stranger?s relationship anyway?

I might ask her for a picture so I could bash one out over her later, just so I feel I didn?t miss out completely.

However, realistic chances are, if I was in the heat of the moment and she just blurted it out, I'd continue because I make stupid decisions even when I'm not horny.

 

[Skoosh]

I don't think I would. I'm not big on one-night stands. If I'm taking her to bed after the first night, it's only because we REALLY hit it off and I have every intention on calling her again. But if she cheating? Nope, not worth it. I don't care how perfect she is, I don't want to date someone that would cheat on her husband. Only exception is if they were in the process of divorce already, in which case it's just paper work.

Not saying I wouldn't be tempted though. I don't see it as morally problematic for me. That's her decision, her relationship. Not my responsibility to preserve that.

 

[Superlative]

Short version: No.

Long version: first off,as a Christian I'm not having a one night stand with anyone unless they happen to be wearing the ring I put on their finger. second, the person is already married and therefore banging him or her violates Man Law number one. even if the spouse is a total douchebag who is cheating and abusive, you can wait until the divorce is settled. if you hit it off that well, you can wait for the lawyers to do their thing before you do yours.

 

[verdant monkai]

GET THE F*CK OUT OF MY HOUSE YOU DIRTY SLAPPER

Sex is not worth making someone else very miserable, if you go ahead with the sex you are a terrible person.
I would definitely tell her husband if I knew them, (but I would not have known they were married obviously) if they were someone I did not know then I would just tell them to get lost.

 

[verdant monkai]

hah! i was having this exact conversation with my girlfriend just yesterday.

not only would i do it, i would enjoy it. i have this fantasy of destroy some woman's (any woman) marriage through an extra martial affair. i don't know why, but i get a sadistic kick out of the though of her begging her husband to take her back, or the two of them sitting at a lawyer's office struggling through the divorce proceedings while i sit back in my chair and enjoy not having my life ruined through a poor decision.

it's not like i would lie to said woman and make her promises of grandeur or claim that i am madly in love with her and will always be with her. i'm not that dasteredly. but if she's willing to risk her relationship, there are other problems a foot and i am simply a catalyst.

an horny catalyst.

I bet you could masturbate over soap opera's, and lawyer drama's if you think like that

 

[Scarim Coral]

Depend how horny I am which I know I will regret if I give into lust. In all serious I would gather up all of my Will powers and turn her down no matter how much we want it.

 

[Skratt]

If you are single it doesn't matter if they aren't except if it bothers you. It is perfectly acceptable to say No. That just makes you a good person. Anyone that "tells the spouse" is a **** of an unusual size who was probably cheated on at some point and never really got over it. I'd also point out they are behaving a vindictive prick and likely single for a reason.

Sometimes in a marriage there are kids to consider, and I would argue that the greater good is to leave well enough alone and walk away. If it bothers you, feel free to cut the cheater down to size before leaving because that cheater is basically a horrible human being and if they are unhappy they need to leave their current relationship or seek help. There is, however, no reason to put on a pair of rubber boots, a beach towel cape and pretend you are the Social Avenger. You aren't a super hero, the big S on your chest stands for Simple.

That is actually one of the base problems in our society, people give too much of a shit about things that don't matter and not enough about things that do matter. Social fucking crusaders have all their marbles mixed up. We expel 4th grade children from school for bringing butter knives in their lunches and nobody cares. That kid and his family are now in a huge fucking bind not because of a mistake but because of bad policy. We find out that Brad pit cheated on Angelina Jolie and a magazine sells a hundred thousand extra copies. Simple fucks.