A Moral Conundrum for you guys, Would you sleep with a married person? (READ THE OP BEFORE POSTING)

[bojackx]

You say this is a "moral conundrum", but it's really not. The moralistic thing to do is to not do it. Having sex with them would he highly immoral.

With that said, I probably would. If it's just a one night stand, we're already at my place, and we've already started fooling around, I don't think stopping at that point will do much good. Also, it won't be all that bad for me, since I'll never see her again and it was her decision to cheat. In this scenario I'm assuming I don't notice the fact she's married until we're at my place, because if I knew she was married from hello then I wouldn't bother, since I don't actively seek married people.

 

[CellShaded]

I'd do it. Why is it my responsibility to make sure that someone else stays loyal to their partner? If the married person decides to sleep around and manages to land in my bed, I don't see any reason not to.

 

[Meatspinner]

I am a complete whore of a man so yes. Frankly I can't think of a reason why not to.

[sup]I'd just make sure to wear a condom[/sup]

 

[Griffolion]

No I wouldn't. As stupid as it sounds, I'd feel a bit of moral responsibility towards her and her husband who's currently getting betrayed. If they have marital problems to the point where she's getting picked up in a bar, that's bad, and I personally won't play any part that further exacerbates the problem.

 

[Girl With One Eye]

Hell no, I wouldn't have a one night stand to begin with let alone with a married man.

 

[fix-the-spade]

It does not seem worth it.

I sleep with someone who's married every night, she seems to think she's married to me.

Oh, wait...

 

[RobDaBank]

Yep, why not?

I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

A one night stand is just that, I don't care about how faithful she'd be to me in a relationship because I don't want a relationship with her, just to have some fun and kick her out feeling sorry for herself the next day

 

[dfphetteplace]

No. You don't want to screw up someones entire life to just get off. It doesn't seem like a big deal at the time, but if you know that they are married or in a very committed relationship, then you should stop. I understand people saying that the other person must not be happy, but all that could be someones very bad decision that you should not get yourself involved in. If you were that persons significant other, this would destroy you. Try to see it from someone else's point of view, and take that into consideration.
This person is married, could have kids. Are you really willing to help destroy that, their entire family, just to get laid? It would be horrible for the children of that family. This could lead to at least some very strained relationships, if not violence or worse.

 

[008Zulu_v1legacy]

A hearty yes. Would I worry about the guy coming after me? Nope.

If they wait until you are in the bedroom before they tell you they are married then that just means they are o.k with sex going ahead, they are only trying to absolve themselves of the act. If it even happens in the first place, it only means their marriage was in a bad place before you two hooked up.

I say go for it.

 

[Valdus]

Here is the scenario: Pretend YOU are single. Lets say you are at a bar or a club (or some other place you like to hangout). You meet someone there (man or woman, what ever your preference) and you two hit it off. The both of you end up at your place and things start getting serious. As you two are fooling around, they stop and tell you that he/she is married.

Do you continue or do you stop? What would you do?

As for me, I would be torn on what to do. On one hand there is an opportunity for an amazing one night stand. On the other hand, an affair could do irreparable damage to her marriage which would lead to a nasty divorce and the angry husband tracking me down possibly trying to kill me.

Edit: After some reflection, I change my self to a solid no. Too much potential for it to blow up into something bad. It does not seem worth it.

I'd say no too. If someone wants to wreck their marriage that's their buissness, don't drag me into it. I would tell her to leave and not to let the door hit her ass on the way out.

 

[TheDrunkNinja]

While I can understand the concept of being caught up in the moment, the full impact of that sentence right as your about to do it... It's enough to grind everything to a complete halt. Yeah, I doubt there would be any sex after something like that.

I mean, just dropping something like "I'm married" right before intercourse is like a massive roundhouse kick to the face.

captcha: chuck norris

 

[Shpongled]

I think this is a Milgram sort of thing.. Lot's of us would like to say we'd do the right thing and go home, but when it comes down to it, i'd be willing to bet a lot of more people would go through with it than we like to think. Particularly from a scientific point of view, when you get horny the more logical/sensible side of your brain tends to get left by the wayside in favour of basic instincts, and basic instincts would generally say Yes.

Personally, i'd like to say no, i wouldn't sleep with them, but i've already slept with a person in a relationship, and in all honesty probably would again. No, it's not worth the hassle, but then i don't tend to make particularly rational decisions when the horn is out.

 

[malestrithe]

Probably not. But considering that I have the ethics of a cat, I might depending on how drunk I get.

Meaning of I pet you enough, you'll rub against me?

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[small][small]*strokes your hair*[/small][/small]

Erm, no. Meaning, I would stand firm for as long as I can, then forget that I'm with a married woman sometime during the night.

 

[Clearing the Eye]

Probably not. But considering that I have the ethics of a cat, I might depending on how drunk I get.

Meaning of I pet you enough, you'll rub against me?

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[small][small]*strokes your hair*[/small][/small]

Erm, no. Meaning, I would stand firm for as long as I can, then forget that I'm with a married woman sometime during the night.

Oh. Well, this is awkward.

I mean- I totally knew what you meant. I was just messing with you. Got you good, huh!

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[small][small]*continues to pet you*[/small][/small]

 

[Jonluw]

I'd slap her on the forehead with a newspaper and go "Bad! Now go home."

 

[Ickorus]

Nope, I've been cheated on before and I don't intend to ever knowingly be a part of someone else's cheating on their partner.

 

[carpathic]

Hate to say, but she/he has already cheated at this point. Sex isn't cheating. Cheating starts when you make the decision to pursue someone else. THeir relationship is dead in all but name already, that person just lacks the moral integrity to make the decision final.

I mean everyone loves to bang someone else, but unless this is an open marriage you can't actually cause more harm than is already done.

So nail that person, nail them hard and send 'em home. Then enver see them again.