depends on the person... im less polite drunk but that's usually because i don't bother to think things through, or my inebriated brain comes up with less coherent/ acceptable responses to questions.. some people become brutally honest, others lie about how large their penises are... everyone is differentIrridium said:
A Question About Being a Decent Person.
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Yeah. You overreated. Sorry dude, ok yes she was a jackass but what you should have done is hang up the phone and not gotten involved. Trust me getting involved in drama like that can only lead to unhappiness.Blind Sight said:
Yes, everyone here pretty much thinks you did the right thing but there were three paths to take, not two and you should have taken the neutral one.
Nothing you did was wrong. She's the one who's being strange, and if your friend is going to break it off then i'd say somthing was already wrong.
Don't worry, you did the right thing and you have nothing to be ashamed of. She was acting immature and your friend has a right to know how his girlfriend acts when she's drunk.Blind Sight said:
Also, 20 is not old enough to drink. That's illegal.
You were right to tell your friend. That kind of thing is something he needs to know. Beyond that, don't get involved. Let them work it out themselves.
If she's in a serious relationship, she shouldn't be pulling that kind of crap.
As many here have already said, drunkenness is not an excuse.
If she's in a serious relationship, she shouldn't be pulling that kind of crap.
As many here have already said, drunkenness is not an excuse.
Not being a decent person, and in actuality being kind of a prick if I were in your shoes.. I wouldnt trust her one bit. So I think your reaction is underreacting if anything.
In the back of your mind you know youve got questions rumbling around like "Is she just trying to stir up pointless drama such as getting back at her boyfriend vicariously through you?" or "is she trying to turn you into her "gay" best friend by coming to you with this, and when she didnt get the response she hoped for she pulled the "I am a woman and it is my birthright to be indecisive" card.
Honestly, couldnt say, but the most important factor to this is.. youve fallen out of friendship for three years, then she comes to you for help, only to pull the rug out from under you? Shes jerking you around for chits and giggles. So no amount of response would be overreacting.
In the back of your mind you know youve got questions rumbling around like "Is she just trying to stir up pointless drama such as getting back at her boyfriend vicariously through you?" or "is she trying to turn you into her "gay" best friend by coming to you with this, and when she didnt get the response she hoped for she pulled the "I am a woman and it is my birthright to be indecisive" card.
Honestly, couldnt say, but the most important factor to this is.. youve fallen out of friendship for three years, then she comes to you for help, only to pull the rug out from under you? Shes jerking you around for chits and giggles. So no amount of response would be overreacting.
well, I believe you did do something fare, but it would have been more responsible of you to confront the girl about this first. Despite that, your friend deserved to know (but only if she sounded really convincing and suspicious when she said it was a joke.) It would have been alright (kind of) if you had been clear that she said that she was joking.
in short, you did the right thing considering your circumstances.
in short, you did the right thing considering your circumstances.
Wow. What a *****. That's kind of a fucked up thing to do, but it's your mate's choice if he wants to break up with her.
I'm 16 (18 is the legal drinking age in England) and I drink on regular occasions, as do most (if not all) of my friends. Social gatherings, parties, weddings, family occasions... All that jazz.
He should break it off if they were underage and she was drinking? Why? Does that make her evil or something?That One Six said:
I'm 16 (18 is the legal drinking age in England) and I drink on regular occasions, as do most (if not all) of my friends. Social gatherings, parties, weddings, family occasions... All that jazz.
In my mind, she needs to take responsibility for her actions (literally, the facts that she DID call you and fed you her story), and somehow accept them.
What you, with proper justification, can do is tell her that she came to you for whatever reason. She has by making the call under the influence displayed very poor judgement and she needs to realize what that entails.
Put the pressure on her: question why you. Don't go any further until you've been given the real reason she contacted you.
IF it is really is "shits and giggles", leave her to cope with it alone- it's not your problem.
If it is any other reason, leave it to her- it's not your problem.
As for the title of the thread: No, she hasn't been behaving like a decent person.
What you, with proper justification, can do is tell her that she came to you for whatever reason. She has by making the call under the influence displayed very poor judgement and she needs to realize what that entails.
Put the pressure on her: question why you. Don't go any further until you've been given the real reason she contacted you.
IF it is really is "shits and giggles", leave her to cope with it alone- it's not your problem.
If it is any other reason, leave it to her- it's not your problem.
As for the title of the thread: No, she hasn't been behaving like a decent person.
Are you sure she didn't just say she was making it up, in case you planned on telling your friend? (I mean, after all, you did sort of betray her confidence. Whether it was justified or not)Blind Sight said:
I suppose either way she comes out sort of bitchy and manipulative.
I think he might have gone a bit too far, but you did The Right Thing. If what she did was no big deal, there's no harm in reporting it, and if it was, it was good of you to report he... tell him about it. (Boy do I spend too much time here on the Escapist; that was a real typo!)