A question for our non-smoking, non-drinking, non-recreational-drugs-using, romance seeking Escapees

[Spinozaad]

A simple question.

Are you happy?

I've noticed (and no, I'm not the only one who've noticed this, far from it) that there's a lot of self-gratulatory backpatting whenever someone states that he/she does not drink, does not use drugs, does not smoke and 'wants to wait for the right girl/guy'.

Now, I personally am of the variety that likes to drink, likes to smoke, likes to use all sorts of drugs and is of the opinion that sex is just sex, with or without 'Hollywood Love'.

I'd say I'm pretty happy. Cheap fulfillments? Certainly. Fast highs, deep lows? You bet. But I am a happy man. However, since I view the world through my own eyes, I can not understand how other people can... enjoy life without those fun things.

You enjoy games, you say? Well, so do I! But some times they're even more fun with drugs or alcohol!
You enjoy hanging around with friends, you say? Well, so do I! But some times hanging out with friends is even more fun when my dick is inside her vagina!

So, without being condenscending (well, I suppose I am slightly... But no offense ment), I'd say that my life is better than yours (that is, if you don't smoke, drink, do drugs, have casual sex). This is just my experience, and is in no way an absolute truth.

Still, are you happy? Are you really, really happy that you're living a, possibly, healthy but, in my eyes, boring life?



Disclaimer for emphasis: I'm not saying you need these things to be happy. I'm sure you can be happy without these, in my eyes, fun activities. I'm just at a loss how.

A Little Addendum. Or How I Learned to Love the Edit Button​

Let me be frank. I'm not saying you need all of these things to be happy (as I said before). If you drink and go out, but do not smoke. That's cool (unless you're an anti-smoking bigot). If you're not opposed to some casual sex, but abstain from licking some LSD, that's great. Any other combination of doing a couple of the things I mentioned, while abstaining from others is perfectly reasonable. Hell, I'd say you are perfectly normal.

HOWEVER.

If you do none of these things, I feel you're living a boring life. And I want to know if it makes you happy.

That's it. If you smoke tobacco or salvia divinorum, like a pint of beer every once in a while, and enjoy casual sex (but not exclusively and only casual sex, I'm not denying the value of a relationship), then this topic is not referring to you.

Because, you know, you're just a normal person.

A Little Addendum II. Addendum Harder​

Let me add something, because people seem to misunderstand me. Either willingly or not. Perhaps it's my pathetic grasp of the English language. In any case... Well... Just follow me closely.

I'm not saying that doing drugs, getting drunk, smoking cigarettes brings you happiness in itself. Sure, you'll get a boost of happiness but abuse (of anything) will only get you chasing the dragon.

What I'm getting at is a socio-cultural thing. You might not want to lose control, but why wouldn't you? Losing control, if done in moderation, is fun. Sure, alcohol is bad for you. Sure, tobacco is bad for you. Sure, 2C-B isn't really bad for you snorting coke on a regular basis isn't exactly a good idea. Having loads of unprotected sex is a bad idea (although loads of protected sex isn't, in my eyes).

But why abstain from all of it, in total?

That's what I don't get.
That's why I'm wondering if you're actually happy

 

[AvsJoe]

I don't smoke, don't drink, don't use drugs, and don't get "serviced" by "massage therapists". I live an incredibly boring life and am generally not happy most of the time. At least in my case, you are right.

 

[qazmatoz]

I honestly wouldn't mind giving drinking and stuff like weed a shot if it weren't for my fucked up brother who's sabotaged his life because of both of those. I definitely could use something to loosen up around people.

All things considered though, I'd say I'm pretty happy, but my life is definitely boring, like you say. Maybe once I move out of this town, away from my parents and my brother's shadow, I can indulge and enjoy life more. Until then I'd just feel guilty and afraid I'd end up like him.

 

[olendvcook]

yeah I'm happy

Do I need to drink and smoke and do drugs to make my life not boring? no

If that is what you need to have fun well then thats fine with me, i don't care what you do.

 

[sms_117b]

I got three out of the 4, No smoking, drinking or RDs. That being said the alcohol one is more forced upon me due to a medical condition, I tried it once after I was out of work for a month. The sex, well I'm in a relationship now, which is great, she's great. Before I was in a relationship, yeah sex is just sex.

I was happy, I'm happier now, I understand different people enjoy different things, but I can't see why people enjoy smoking, I never understood the "live for the weekend" mentallity with the alcohol, I went out once a month for parties, if that. Drugs I'm neutral, havn't and wont ever use them, but, don't see why half of them are illegal

 

[AnOriginalConcept]

Short answer, yes.

Long answer, yes and I won't suffer from a plethora of consequences.
Honestly, it's your life and you should do what you want. In my case, I'd prefer to live without that stuff.

 

[Azhrarn-101]

I'm not seeking romance(given up completely on any kind of relationship for now), but yeah I'm happy.

My life would most likely make you go insane from boredom.
I don't go out, I don't hang out with friends all that much, I rarely do things "normal people" do. I prefer solitude and silence. Drugs I have no desire for. Never really have.

I've always been weird like that.

Pretty much the same here, and I'm happy the way I am too.
I sometimes miss the contended feeling of being in a relationship with a like-minded person, but given how incredibly rare those are I really don't mind being alone.

Life is good, although the OP would most likely find it terminally boring.

 

[Crysco]

"To each his own" as they say. Life is such a relative shamble [keyword relative]. REL-A-TIVE!
Get my point?

Besides, anyone can be happy if they get in the right mindset.

 

[Danzaivar]

The 'waiting for the right girl' argument baffles me. You run the serious risk of messing up the relationship by being out of practice, or not getting into a relationship at all because you're too damn awkward around girls to pull.

Unless waiting for the right girl involves getting friend-zoned or maced, then they have a point.

 

[Frequen-Z]

I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs and am quite single. Wouldn't want it any other way. I am happy by myself living the way I am.

 

[Timotheus]

I don't drink, smoke etc. and I feel good with it. Overall I'm not completely happy, but the reason for this is not related to my lifestyle.

My view on alcohol and drugs: If you need them to be happy, then it means you can't enjoy life sober. Either your life is not that good or you just can't use your potential to be happy on a normal way. You try to compensate for your closed mind with substances, instead of working on your problems.
Smoking: I can't really see any pleasure. It doesn't taste good and the only reason you do it is your addiction. The relief after smoking a cigarette is how non-addicted feel like all the time.

 

[Chelsizzle]

I'm quite happy. I've grown up with people who have been drinking and smoking(illegal/legal) for years and I've seen the highs and lows of its effects on themselves and others around them, and I don't want that to happen to me.

But to each his own.

 

[Margrave Rinstock]

Happy as happy can be. Thanks for asking.

 

[Canadian Briton]

yes, I have fun with friends, games, internet and reading so i don't need recreational drugs or alcohol or cigarettes.

 

[BonsaiK]

A simple question.

Are you happy?

I've noticed (and no, I'm not the only one who've noticed this, far from it) that there's a lot of self-gratulatory backpatting whenever someone states that he/she does not drink, does not use drugs, does not smoke and 'wants to wait for the right girl/guy'.

Now, I personally am of the variety that likes to drink, likes to smoke, likes to use all sorts of drugs and is of the opinion that sex is just sex, with or without 'Hollywood Love'.

I'd say I'm pretty happy. Cheap fulfillments? Certainly. Fast highs, deep lows? You bet. But I am a happy man. However, since I view the world through my own eyes, I can not understand how other people can... enjoy life without those fun things.

You enjoy games, you say? Well, so do I! But some times they're even more fun with drugs or alcohol!
You enjoy hanging around with friends, you say? Well, so do I! But some times hanging out with friends is even more fun when my dick is inside her vagina!

So, without being condenscending (well, I suppose I am slightly... But no offense ment), I'd say that my life is better than yours (that is, if you don't smoke, drink, do drugs, have casual sex). This is just my experience, and is in no way an absolute truth.

Still, are you happy? Are you really, really happy that you're living a, possibly, healthy but, in my eyes, boring life?



Disclaimer for emphasis: I'm not saying you need these things to be happy. I'm sure you can be happy without these, in my eyes, fun activities. I'm just at a loss how.

I don't drink, smoke or do drugs. I never subscribed to the "wait for the right woman" thing though, I figured that when I did meet the right one, all the experiences I had along the way with the wrong ones would be helpful.

There's nothing like music industry work to put you off drinking, smoking and drugs for life. I work daily with people who have basically destroyed their lives and it's really kind of sad. One guy can't walk or go to the toilet unassisted for the rest of his life because of some careless cheap thrills one night, it broke up his band who were on their way to the US to sign a deal. Another guy had a stroke from years of combined "cheap fulfillment", he recovered but lost all his memory and speech along with all his musical ability. Sucks to be him. He's a young guy too, younger than me. There's a girl I visit occasionally who had a bright future ahead of her but has been in a drug-induced coma for a few months now. She may wake up tomorrow, she may never. I could keep going and make this parargraph very long but I won't.

Having said that I don't get all self-righteous about abstaining. I don't really care what others think. What other people do, those are their decisions and I'm sure they don't care what I think either. I think straight-edgers are more annoying than drunks actually, because at least drunks are not trying to make their lifestyle into some kind of lame quasi-religion.

Oh yeah. I'm generally pretty happy, and the very few things I'm not happy about are not things that inebriation will fix. The problems will still be there in the morning.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

Right on, OP!

Hanging out with friends, going to parties and getting absolutely WASTED = This summer.

EDIT: Yeah, I'm happy.

 

[Phoenixlight]

No not really, I'm fairly sad most of the time.

 

[Riobux]

I'd say that I'm not really happy, but then again I wasn't really happy when I was smoking weed, smoking tobacco or drinking a lot. I've never really been truly happy.

As for the "back pat" thing about not doing anything harmful, I don't feel anything. I don't feel any joy nor any loss about not drinking as much as I used to (I used to drink pretty heavily for quite a few years until maybe a month ago).