A question to women

[jawakiller]

I really hope they don't notice. At work there are a few moments of huge eye candy. I can't resist. It's just in my FACE.

Wow, what you just said.

I go to work and right in my face, a gorgeous rack. I'm like,

"I don't wanna look like a creep or a- whoa, that's what I'm talking about. Hm? Oh hey there Hannah"

EDIT:
But you know what really pisses me off? When a chick dresses like a hooker then gets mad at you for leering. I give them the what-the-fuck-did-you-wear-a-miniskirt-then look. Unfortunately most girls don't understand that look. Still, what the fuck did they expect?

 

[Aurgelmir]

Can't say I notice all that often. Then again, my assets aren't exactly generous, so I get more stares at ass level than at chest level. I don't mind either way; glad to be nice to look at.

Return question: How often do you guys notice girls checking out your ass? And do you mind?

Never. I honestly can't say I think anyone does that But keep in mind, an ass is on the opposite side of my body from my eyes, so it is hard to know.

Where as a girl has eyes and breasts at the same side, so you are facing the "looker" when he looks

Well, I do it a lot. And I know plenty of other girls who do. But I take your point; since I tend to check out guys as they're walking AWAY from me, there's not much risk of them noticing.

I can imagine the interesting situation if the guy turns to do the same to you

Hmm maybe I should do that? Though I generally wear a jacket that covers my "assets"

 

[Lerasai]

I've never noticed a guy looking at my chest, but that's probably due to me not being particularly... gifted in that area. Even if there were an A-cup-ogling dude out there I would be much too busy being socially awkward to notice. Also, he'd probably be a registered sex offender who thinks I'm fourteen.

If were to notice a non-creepy guy looking there I would be flattered. But, that's probably just because I don't get that sort of attention often. Or at all. Ever.

 

[jawakiller]

If were to notice a non-creepy guy looking there I would be flattered. But, that's probably just because I don't get that sort of attention often. Or at all. Ever.

Haha, I check out A cups all the time. Usually the legs but that counts too, right?

Wow, what you just said.

I go to work and right in my face, a gorgeous rack. I'm like,

"I don't wanna look like a creep or a- whoa, that's what I'm talking about. Hm? Oh hey there Hannah"

Oh not co-workers, just customers.

But my co-workers dress just as bad [READ: fucking awesome] as the customers here so I get to keep eyes on both groups.

 

[intheweeds]

I noticed something funny with a female friend of mine... We were out at a bar and an ugly guy was checking her out. She got offended and said what a pig. Later that night a good looking guy was totally staring at her like a shark checks out a tuna. This didn't bother her even a little bit.

So let me ask you ladies how often is it about how attractive the guy is....

If it's Leonardo Dicaprio is it more okay than if its John Goodman?

I think this happens to both genders, but it has very little to do with 'breast staring'. Hear me out:

Staring at breasts( which is what this thread is about) is not the same as the quick 'check someone out' once over. Checking someone out is something we all do and of course we do!

If someone checks you out and you notice, you immediately check them out in return right? To see if you are interested.

If you are, you probably give signals back like a smile or something, which leads to the stare, but the stare at that point has become the next phase after checking out, its the beginning of the pickup. You have silently become part of the mating ritual.

If you check out in return and aren't interested and the person stares, it becomes creepy, because you haven't given any signals that you are interested in that kind of thing. Most people I know, myself included, would see the person looking at you, be disinterested and turn away immediately, which is a clear sign of not being interested. Any staring after that is creepy.

I think that's why it's okay for you when you are attracted to someone, but not when your not. It isn't that the staring is okay when you are interested, the creepy breast stare is creepy always. It's that when you are interested, the stare isn't the same stare. It is something different that both parties have agreed to.

You may not have noticed, but I bet you she said the ugly guy was a pig after noticing him looking at her and giving him a signal that she wasn't interested. He continued staring, so she called him a pig. The second guy, if she thought he was hot, I bet you she noticed him looking at her and gave him some kind of signal, maybe she let him see her notice him and be okay with it, or smiled or looked his way for a biiiiit longer than necessary. But I bet you there was more to it than just what she said.

 

[AngloDoom]

OT: No it isn't okay. Seriously if guys knew what it was like to have women staring at their package everywhere they went, they wouldn't like it either. Straight women like dick, but they don't feel the need to stare at yours and creep you out about it. Guys, seriously, you aren't mindless apes, stop acting like you can't control yourselves. Half the time your trying to say you aren't mindless penises and women shouldn't be concerned, and the other half of the time you are straight up admitting you can't control yourselves?

You can control yourselves, you just don't want to. Start wanting to, you aren't a friggin' animal.

Edit: I feel as I should specify so as not be misunderstood. I'm not talking about the quick 'checking you out' look. Everyone does that. If someone is attractive, you check them out. Nothing wrong with that. It's the 'breast stare' that I have a problem with. Every woman knows exactly what I'm talking about.

While I agree that people who stare come across as rude, but I disagree with the 'you are not an animal' part.

We are. That's why women will also stare at men. I have a friend who everyone knows is very well endowed because no matter what he wears it looks like he's trying to smuggle a puppy in his trousers. I've noticed that, when women are in a position to notice his crotch (e.g. sitting down) they will glance, often keep glancing, and not-too-rarely stare. Bear in mind the simply cannot stare all the time unless they're short enough to have it at eye-level the whole time. Guys with muscle walking around shirtless do get their arms and stomach stared at a lot. Women in this thread have admitted to staring at men's arse when they look away. It's natural, we are animals, and while staring is rude I hate the fact that you can quite happily lump all men together and talk as if we're some sort of lesser species.

It's not even necessarily guys/girls staring and going "Ooooh yeaaaah..." in their heads. It's noticeable, you notice, and know you're not supposed to stare. That's why heterosexual women stare don't women's tops, and why I'll often say to my aforementioned friend "Can you stop pointing that thing at me, I'm going to lose an eye" if he's come to meet me and I'm sitting down.

If you're well-enough endowed to have it on constant show, people will look. It's just how it is.

 

[conflictofinterests]

Oh, they know. And, if they complain, they're bullshit.

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I wear pretty modest clothing. Read: polo shirt with only the topmost two buttons undone, and I still catch people giving me the eye. It's a little unsettling, but it doesn't happen often. I pretty much just let it slide since I don't want to start a fight with a stranger.

 

[tobyornottoby]

1. I'm a AA.
2. I have never once noticed anyone staring.

Hah hah same.

Legs, though, that's another story.

My ASSets are elsewhere.

Though it does make it difficult to notice if people are staring...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJmyD9Mfvuo

=D

Well, I do it a lot. And I know plenty of other girls who do. But I take your point; since I tend to check out guys as they're walking AWAY from me, there's not much risk of them noticing.

Also, as others have said, women have better Peripheral Vision, so you can peek more discreetly and we have a harder time noticing.

 

[TheDarkestDerp]

I have to wonder how many guys know that a gay man is staring at their crotch and/or noticible muscle definition.

Best response yet on this thread.

Speaking of which, yes we know you guys look at us, yes we sometimes dress in a fashion to purposefully attract attention and yes we generally only mind if you stare for too long or are freaking creepy to begin with.

 

[ProtoChimp]

I'm like that guy out of Role Models. I see them without looking, I'm that good.

Nah seriously, I can have a full conversation with a girl without taking my eyes off hers and still see EVERYTHING. I've got outstanding peripheral vision, and that counts for ALL directions around my eyes, not just left and right.

It's that focus that my sensei is teaching me, having been caught yet, but there have been some close calls... wait is this ban worthy? cos I've been reported for much less.

 

[Zebidizy]

(exposition, not really necessary, just my reason why i'm wondering)
i work in a liquor store, and today a girl came in with fairly large breasts with a noticable amount of cleavage exposed. as she walked past, every guy in there immediately looked at her eyes, but for just a second a piece, i watched their eyes glance down and back up. and this isn't the first time i've seen it happen either. and it had me wondering...


How often are women aware that men are looking at your breasts. Whether they're a good friend, or a random stranger, it seems every guy talking to any girl tries to steal a glance at the woman's chest.

do you know this is happening? how do you feel when it does?

a question to you as a man who works in a liquor store. if a girl has big breasts do you generally not ask them for ID ?
seems to happen alot where i am.

 

[martyrdrebel27]

us men are fairly primitive beasts in terms of things we want.

As opposed to women who are oh so complex in those terms.
Women look just as much as men do but when they do it, men generally have a positive reaction to that. I actually get turned on sometimes when I notice a girl staring at my ass, especially when I find her attractive
When it's the other way around, some women act as if they're being assaulted for some reason.

ah! check your source material, i didn't say this! i've been misquoted. i'd find the person who actually did, but uh, i'm not gonna.

 

[mental_looney]

Eh it's not hard to notice but if I've gone to the effort of wearing a show off top and looking nice kinda defeats the point if no one looks

 

[intheweeds]

OT: No it isn't okay. Seriously if guys knew what it was like to have women staring at their package everywhere they went, they wouldn't like it either. Straight women like dick, but they don't feel the need to stare at yours and creep you out about it. Guys, seriously, you aren't mindless apes, stop acting like you can't control yourselves. Half the time your trying to say you aren't mindless penises and women shouldn't be concerned, and the other half of the time you are straight up admitting you can't control yourselves?

You can control yourselves, you just don't want to. Start wanting to, you aren't a friggin' animal.

Edit: I feel as I should specify so as not be misunderstood. I'm not talking about the quick 'checking you out' look. Everyone does that. If someone is attractive, you check them out. Nothing wrong with that. It's the 'breast stare' that I have a problem with. Every woman knows exactly what I'm talking about.

While I agree that people who stare come across as rude, but I disagree with the 'you are not an animal' part.

We are. That's why women will also stare at men. I have a friend who everyone knows is very well endowed because no matter what he wears it looks like he's trying to smuggle a puppy in his trousers. I've noticed that, when women are in a position to notice his crotch (e.g. sitting down) they will glance, often keep glancing, and not-too-rarely stare. Bear in mind the simply cannot stare all the time unless they're short enough to have it at eye-level the whole time. Guys with muscle walking around shirtless do get their arms and stomach stared at a lot. Women in this thread have admitted to staring at men's arse when they look away. It's natural, we are animals, and while staring is rude I hate the fact that you can quite happily lump all men together and talk as if we're some sort of lesser species.

It's not even necessarily guys/girls staring and going "Ooooh yeaaaah..." in their heads. It's noticeable, you notice, and know you're not supposed to stare. That's why heterosexual women stare don't women's tops, and why I'll often say to my aforementioned friend "Can you stop pointing that thing at me, I'm going to lose an eye" if he's come to meet me and I'm sitting down.

If you're well-enough endowed to have it on constant show, people will look. It's just how it is.

I feel like everything your describing here is just the 'checking out' stuff that I don't have a problem with. Quickly glancing and looking away is exactly people controlling themselves. I'm talking specifically about the 'breast stare'. When your talking to a guy and you have to stop because he hasn't heard a word you've said in the last two minutes, or the woman earlier in the thread who described the guy who stared for 30 feet down a hall and then turned his head as she passed. Guys who claim this is just an uncontrollable urge because tits are so hot. Honestly women who claim they can't control it either I feel the same way about. Women who stare at sexual organs creepily are just as guilty.

I'm a gay woman, don't get me wrong I know exactly what its like to have to talk to a woman who has hot tits up in your face the whole time. It's the guys who claim they 'can't control staring' I have a problem with. Yes you can control it. People do it all the time. I do it all the time. To me 'staring' and 'looking' are two very different things. I was trying to get that across in my edit.

 

[fgdfgdgd]

I think it's like any distinguishing feature, a glance is fine even repeated glances are fine as long as they are subtle but stareing is rude. If I had a huge nose or a unibrow or a scar on my face it would be rude to stare but I couldn't blame people for being distracted.

And breasts are just distracting man, woman, straight, lesbian doesn't matter, you see a large pair of breasts it's distracting they stand out it's kind of one of their main jobs. You are going to get caught looking just be as polite as possible, apologize accept it's somewhat awkward and move on.

There was this one dude while I was working in customer service he was asking for help and my eyes just kept drifting up to his forehead. He had this huge black unibrow and it was so distracting I was having trouble helping him, I really couldn't help myself I didn't want to stare but it was almost uncontrollable. That was tough, I felt like such an ass.

My standard procedure for being caught taking a quick look:
> You've already lost the first impression so may as well go for broke
> Flash a playful grin and wink
> Worst case, you get belted
> median case, you make a girl smile, which is far better than nothing
> best case, she laughs and starts up a conversation.
Either way it ends, there is a story to tell later on.

 

[Use_Imagination_here]

I can't believe there's a flame war going on about womens breasts.

It makes sense in context but fuck that guy, he's allways such a buzzkill.

 

[Uncompetative]

Thanks, but your gross udders don't interest me.

I don't drink milk.

 

[Chemical Alia]

If it happens I don't notice unless they've made it really obvious. Whether or not other people are looking at me is usually the last thing on my mind, and what I wear doesn't reflect a need for that either way.

Oh, they know. And, if they complain, they're bullshit.

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I don't suppose you've ever had to buy clothing as a woman before. My best friend has pretty enormous boobs, and trying to downplay them is nearly impossible. Even fairly modest-styled shirts can end up showing some amount of cleavage. She used to wear turtlenecks and shirts buttoned all the way up, but that only made them more noticeable and uh, shelf-like.