AAARGH. Why is getting married this hard?

[cathou]

yeah i know how you feel. I didnt invited my parent on my wedding day, because i really hate them. but i was pressed to invite them. i put my foot on the floor and refused. Ok maybe in your case you dont have that option. Invite them both, and tell them specifically that the other will be there and that if they are not able to be in the same room for your wedding, that you prefer that they dont come. Your fiancée didnt force them to be there, she's just asking you to invite them...

after that if they dont come it will be there own trouble. And if they do came, put somebody near each of them to be sure that they will not cause troubles...

 

[Baby Tea]

So, suggestions on ways i can get my insane parents to shut up and sit quietly on what is supposed to be my day?

You know, I'd say remind them that your wedding and marriage doesn't have anything to do with them. It's about watching their son get married to the woman he loves. Not about who is right or wrong in a 14 year feud.

As for family? Invite a ton of friends. Or don't, because as someone who got married recently: Food is expensive.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

Either don't invite them, or invite your favourite parent. To be honest, I wouldn't want my parents at my wedding.

 

[NotAPie]

You lucky lucky basterd, Cant wait for my wedding.
:3 anyway, I have to agree with the guy that said that they should just grow the fuck up and be there.

 

[TinyToaster]

I had this issue when I got married as well. My wife's parents are devorced and strongly "dislike" each other. What we did was we sent them both invites to everything and wanted them to be there.

All I can say is it's amazing how easy 2 people can sit down and shut up for the sake of their child. If one of um gives you grief about the other coming, explain that you want both of them there, and that if they can't handle each others presence for a few hours for your sake, then they need professional help.

No joke, we said that last part to her mother and she shaped up real quick

 

[EeveeElectro]

Give them a choice--Tell then to grow up or don't bother coming. Imvite all the family you want, if they don't turn up, don't worry about it. It's their loss not yours.
I doubt very much it bothers your fiance, as ling as you love each other that's all that matters.

Good luck, and don't let your parents bring you down.

You would be suprised what actually "bothers" a girl that brings you food while you ignore her, she's dead adamant that she wants them there (She's a redhead and when she yells i get scared and hide out on the balcony)

Family is realy important to her, and i consider HER my family now, since mine is almost nonexistant.

Also, i would love to fill out my side with friends that i trust, i wrote a list and it's like 4 people lol

Who wants to pretend to be my family for me? Also, i have thought about making my parents sign a contract before attending

I see... I can pose as your mother, no one will know! XD
Your parents should put aside any silly squabbling for your big day anyway.

 

[Quantana]

i dont know maybe just talk to them if they are not willing to coperate maybe just don't invite them.

 

[kawligia]

Just invite them both, tell each of them that the other is coming and its important to you for them to pretend to get along or at least ignore each other, and then have them not sit next to each other.

If that can't happen, then don't invite either of them.

That's really all there is to it.

 

[Mr Fatherland]

Same thing happend to my dad, though the difference was that no-one came at all for him. His parents were dead and his brothers hate each other and him. What my dad did was he made a joke out of it and held his head up high. Too bad my mum and he divorced two years later.

 

[Helmet]

Well, my brother had the opposite problem when he got married. We've got a huge family, but his wife only had a few family members coming. So we just split our family and sent about half over to her side to even it out.

Beyond that, I've got no advice.

 

[Dudemeister]

Don't invite them.
If they're so selfish that they won't go to their own son's wedding because their ex is going to be there, they don't deserve to go.
Just forget about them and enjoy the day.

 

[Danzaivar]

Agree with this dude.

If you parents can't put aside their differences for one single day in their entire lives to allow you to get married in peace then they don't deserve to be there.

Parents are supposed to love their kids more than they hate each other.

^- This, 10,000%

 

[Kajt]

Just tell em' straight up in the face that you want them to be there.

 

[Hawgh]

xxxxxxxxxxxxx_______xxx <------ One or two of these might not come
xxxxxxxxxxxxx
xxxxxxxxxxxxx x<- yer dad/mum
xxxxxxxxxxxxx x <-yer dad/mum

Or tell them to get over themselves, your child getting married is a pretty good pointer that growing up is long overdue.

 

[shadowelancer]

Guilt trip them. Make them feel bad that they might not be able to see there kids wedding, And if they show up and ruin it, never talk to them again or at least make them apologize, thats my plan.

 

[iJosh]

I just wouldn't invite them. When a fight breaks off, the day and everyone's attention goes towards them. Then your wife will be mad because women like to be the center of attention.

Congratulations on your wedding and stuff though.

 

[lonesail]

OK, here's what I'd do. Invite both parents. Warn that the other one will be there, so they both should bring their new significant others and try to ignore each other. Threaten you'll throw them out if they misbehave. And more importantly: accept and embrace your fiance's family as your NEW family and act accordingly. Maybe you shouldn't separate families on different sides of the isle? Just sit yor fiance's family everywhere with your own mixed in? It's unorthodox, but you have an unorthodox situation.

 

[rosac]

I agree with this mans plan (lonesail)

it is made of goodness.

rosac

 

[purplegothchick]

Since this is your day, you should be able to decide whether or not you want them there. You are perfectly within your rights not to invite them.

However, if you DO want both of them there, talk to them separately and ask them to be civil to each other. It's not about them, it's about you and your soon-to-be wife. If they don't agree to this, tell them calmly and respectfully that if they don't grow up and act civil, they can't come. Simple as that.

Oh, and good luck for the future, you sound like you've found a winner!