Advice to give to the younger members of society. The under 21s

[Barbas]

Treat yo self.

If you don't have to pay bills presently, take the time to buy shit that you want! It's much harder to do once you're paying a bunch of bills, trust me!
Obviously don't be irresponsible and don't spend money you don't have, but yeah, treat yo self.

Ha! I think ragamuffins these days would benefit much more from the advice that they should check theyselfs before they wreck theyselfs. Seriously, though, here in Fife there are obese teenagers wandering around pushing prams full of their obese, hyperactive children. Always running around screaming, shouting and littering. Jeezus, how old does a person have to be before they learn to pick up their shit and put it in a bin? Is this knowledge that must be forcibly imparted at gunpoint?!

 

[Barbas]

Obese and hyperactive?! What are they feeding the bairns?!

OT: Do things at a leisurely pace. Life goes on for ages, don't try to get it out of the way too soon. Also, if you get the opportunity, travel before you're too old. Hurry up, you're running out of time!

A carefully marketed and lab-grown mixture of fast food and fake food, or as I've taken to laconically calling it: Crapper's Delight.

 

[aba1]

Go to a tech school.

The very moment a significant other hits you? Bale. Bale the fuck out of there. If they're controlling or threaten suicide? Bale. Get the fuck out there. I am not joking. Every second you're with them will be in dark personal hell.

So much truth here it hurts. I know sooooo many guys who have fallen into this only to not realize just how abusive the relationship was till after they left. I even fell into this trap myself.

I think for certain guys theres this almost romantic notion of being needed. Of having to take care of someone who's deeply troubled or some shit. We use to see it a lot on TV when I was a kid.

but hey, learning experince. When you find that one who ISN'T like that, it's going to seem amazing. My last girlfriend, one day I had to cancel plans on her, and I was prepared for the tongue lashing/threats/self harm that my original ex had done. When she said "Okay, I understand. Don't worry about it." it was almost like... God damn. Like I was a Michael Vick shelter dog that finally had kindness for the first time.

Not that I want to pain the picture I was particularly a good person either. I was toxic as well in my own ways, but by the end of it I was so miserable and just wanted out.

I know for me I am just not all that emotional and have a hard time dealing with emotions so I would get similar situations to you where I would call to say I couldn't do something and my ex used to loose her shit. Every once in a while she would threaten to kill herself just because she wasn't getting her way over things. It wasn't until we broke up that I realized how classic abusive relationship it all was. Even with my current girlfriend I always feel like I have to be more careful with her out of habit but I really don't and she tells me to not worry about it. It's such a strange feeling for relaxation not having to feel like you are holding a bomb at all times.

XD love that Mike Vick reference btw hahaha

 

[DrownedAmmet]

Did anyone say do push-ups yet? (I know someone said "press-ups" but that is probably some wimpy European exercise inferior to American pushups)
Nothing shuts up that voice in your head telling you you're worthless faster than cranking out 20 pushups.

Also don't be afraid to be new at something. The internet has this nasty little mindset that being a "newb" is horrible, but really everyone starts somewhere. Don't be discouraged about how many "beginner" pushups (or girl pushups if your sexist) you have to do, it just makes it taste all the more sweeter when you finally do a real one

 

[Tiger King]

Travel.
The world isn't as big as it used to be with planes and stuff nowadays. Traveling will open your mind to new ideas and cultures, also there is so much to see in the world.

Your whole life will not be determined by your school grades.
I recall being 16 and I was on the cusp of leaving secondary school. The teachers were going crazy at us to 'get good grades or you will never do well in life!'
and at the time we all believed it but it's not really true. plenty of us including myself did poorly in our exams but a lot of us managed to find vocational trades and are making good money now and even setting up their own businesses'.
Things may be a bit different in the us though as you have to graduate high school or something and receive a diploma for the most basic of jobs, or so i'm told.

Learn to look after yourself.
you only have one body and it will start to malfunction on you eventually, eat right and keep active to slow down the process. some thing's can't be helped, such as my eyesight fading at 25, but body fat and your heart and lungs etc can be kept in order by going for a bike ride or run every so often.

Everything changes.
As a teenager I wanted to play music. I played in bands, I was meeting new people every weekend, going to new places to watch or play music, I was happy. however a part of me wishes I could go back and slap myself round the head for wasting time that I should of really spent sorting out my future. but then I realise it was a great life experience that some people never get to have. Regardless, the young lad that just wanted to play bass in a band is gone. fifteen years later and I have wound up in California and am being offered interviews from some really big companies. (wish me luck on them guys!)
If I went back in time and told myself that you will migrate to the usa in 15 years and will barely be interested in music anymore let alone play bass, I suspect I would get laughed at.
So yeah we all change and I think it is a skill in itself knowing when to move on or call it a day on something that isn't working out.

 

[Dreph]

Have plans, but don't be afraid to play things by ear. This one took me a long time to learn. Every time my carefully constructed plans fell apart I used to freak out. Occasionally things don't go the way you expect and you have to roll with the punches, better to adjust yourself than try to force everything back on track.

The grass isn't always greener. Seriously enjoy what you have.

Oh... Jobs suck. They just plain suck, but that is why you get paid to do them.

 

[DrownedAmmet]

Also don't be afraid to be new at something. The internet has this nasty little mindset that being a "newb" is horrible, but really everyone starts somewhere. Don't be discouraged about how many "beginner" pushups (or girl pushups if your sexist) you have to do, it just makes it taste all the more sweeter when you finally do a real one

Had a push up competition with Mrs B the other day. For every push up you could have a slice of pizza. Basically, I'm much fatter now and she didn't get any pizza.

But wouldn't being fatter make it harder to do pushups in the future, thus resulting in less pushups, but then less pizza, which means then you could do more pushups and get more pizza, and wait a second this is actually a pretty good self-correcting closed-loop system.
Thats some circle of life shit right there