Had he not been held back twice, he would have graduated the year before me, I was one of the older people in my grade and he was one of the younger people in his grade.(when I say almost 20 I mean in a couple of months, the cut off is in late august) they would never have been in high school together.Just_A_Glitch said:Really? Hmm. They weren't the most common thing when I was in high school, but they certainly weren't frowned upon. I just don't see four years as all that much. At that age, anything more than four years I could agree to, but if they have potential to be in the same school at the same time, which if my math is correct they did, then I don't see a problem with it.GrimTuesday said:I don't know, when I see older guys going out with significantly younger girls (a four year gap is pretty big at my age) something just doesn't sit well with me. It would be one thing if she were a junior or a senior, but if she was a freshmen when I graduated, she was an 8th grader when he should have graduated.Just_A_Glitch said:Around that age, I don't think that's creepy. You'll find a lot of first and second year college students dating high school girls. Its pretty common. Now, if she was fourteen, that would be odd. But four years I don't think is too bad.GrimTuesday said:There's this guy in my DnD group who is a bit older than me (I'm 19 he's almost 20), his girlfriend just turned 16, which to me is really creepy. He doesn't seem to get it because he seems to think that because he is still in high school it's ok (He should have graduated two years ago, I graduated last year).
In your high school were there any seniors dating freshmen? Same age difference. The only difference here is that he's out of school.
And no, seniors dating freshmen was frowned upon at my high school, not by the teachers or administration, but by the students themselves.
Different strokes, I guess. Four years never really bothered me that much (though I have lied about it in the past as an excuse to avoid a relationship. Kind of hypocritical, I know). My grandparents were fifteen years apart (they didn't marry until they were like, 30 and 45), so I guess I kind of grew up not really seeing an issue.
I mean, pedophiles don't think it's wrong but hey, pedophiles are people too!Metalhandkerchief said:4 years is nothing dude. WTF.
Maybe in America with their backwards sexual lower age legislation it's "one of those things" where culture steers your judgement, but I know a few couples where one is 16 and the other as old as 25-27.
So, my answer is another question: is it legal if you assume sexual activity is involved? And for most of the world, yes it is. (Age of consent in Japan is 12????)
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Says who?Sober Thal said:Once your 30 or over, ten years is okay. If you're younger, don't go for more than 5 years. If one is under 18 and your more than 3 years older, it's wrong.
They did have a change of legislation but I have no idea where you heard that you had to be married. It's been changed so that the age of consent is still varied between prefectures however both parties have to be within an age limit ie no 30yo's bonking 13yo's.gellert1984 said:Those maps are out of date, japan changed there legislation due to pressure from the US, you have to be married now.Metalhandkerchief said:(Age of consent in Japan is 12????)
Also I'd spoiler them pics if I were you.
Personally, I think its creepy if the girl is under 18, and the guy is over 20.AccursedTheory said:It's creepy.
Made worse by his apparent lack of graduating skills.
17 and below are for people 17 and below.
Honestly don't even see the appeal of such a thing. Women who aren't old enough to buy booze usualy make my head hurt (no offense to that group, I guess I'm just too damn old).
Yeahhh gotta agree here. The lack of graduating makes him the creeping senior who dated the freshman and never graduated and is probably dragging her down to herp derp land as well...and it looks quite bad for both of them and will skew her view of men for quite a while.AccursedTheory said:It's creepy.
Made worse by his apparent lack of graduating skills.
17 and below are for people 17 and below.
Honestly don't even see the appeal of such a thing. Women who aren't old enough to buy booze usualy make my head hurt (no offense to that group, I guess I'm just too damn old).
provided it isn't breaking the law, I have two questions:GrimTuesday said:There's this guy in my DnD group who is a bit older than me (I'm 19 he's almost 20), his girlfriend just turned 16, which to me is really creepy. He doesn't seem to get it because he seems to think that because he is still in high school it's ok (He should have graduated two years ago, I graduated last year).
So do you think? is it creepy or am I just being a little oversensitive? Also, what do you see as an acceptable age difference in a relationship, keeping in minde that different age difference are appropriate at different age.
I'm not making generalizations, I know both of them, therefore it is not a generalization, but an observation.Yosharian said:Generalizations are fun and meaningful!GrimTuesday said:There's this guy in my DnD group who is a bit older than me (I'm 19 he's almost 20), his girlfriend just turned 16, which to me is really creepy. He doesn't seem to get it because he seems to think that because he is still in high school it's ok (He should have graduated two years ago, I graduated last year).
So do you think? is it creepy or am I just being a little oversensitive? Also, what do you see as an acceptable age difference in a relationship, keeping in minde that different age difference are appropriate at different age.
Maybe she's a particularly mature 16 year old?
I don't know if they are having sex or not, but if they are, it is illegal as he is over 18. Its not so much things he has done with/to this girl, but more what I know of his last few relationships, he is incredibly immature.Gordon_4 said:provided it isn't breaking the law, I have two questions:GrimTuesday said:There's this guy in my DnD group who is a bit older than me (I'm 19 he's almost 20), his girlfriend just turned 16, which to me is really creepy. He doesn't seem to get it because he seems to think that because he is still in high school it's ok (He should have graduated two years ago, I graduated last year).
So do you think? is it creepy or am I just being a little oversensitive? Also, what do you see as an acceptable age difference in a relationship, keeping in minde that different age difference are appropriate at different age.
1-Has he done anything genuinely strange or threatening to this girl?
2-If he hasn't, how the hell is it your business?
People are weird. Get used to that; sometimes a genuine loving relationship will crop up in the weirdest of scenarios. If what he was doing was illegal, or if you suspected foul play, I'd like to think you would have involved the cops by now.
If however the age difference is the only genuine red flag, I suggest you keep it yourself and leave them be.