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ramboondiea

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i live at home with mu mother, have my own space (not a basement) and i moved back here after i finished uni (last year)
i plan on staying here for a while, because it means i can chuck money into the house to make sure my mothers bills are paid and what not (legally im only a lodger) maybe when she finished uni and i stop doing relief work find somewhere full time i will get my own place, until then im more then happy to stay home
 

Meatspinner

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Does my mom's couch count?

Mind you I've already moved out a decade ago. [small](Stupid bankrupt employer and his stupid finances)[/small]
 

Ironbat92

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I'm 20 going on 21, I'm stuck here with my folks. I want to do things my way, but I feel like no matter how much freedom my folks give me, I'll always be grounded by them. I also have to stay witness of my Grandfather slowly die of alzheimer's disease and my brother throw his life away for nothing.
 

triggrhappy94

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Because of money and mediocre grades, I'm living at a home while going to a local state school.
It actually makes it really hard to meet new people and "stay involved on campus" when I'm only there four days a week for classes, then have to drive home for dinner or to pick my brother up. Meanwhile 99% of my fellow freshmen get room mates, meet their room mates friends, socialize in the cafe, and do whatever else they do.
Have you ever tried asking a girl, "Hey why don't you come over to my place, it's only a 30 minute drive from here?" I haven't either because I hate the drive so I normally miss all the parties, not to mention having to worry about driving home after the party.
On top of all that, I don't get along very well with most of my family.

Needless to say, I hate living at home.
 

viranimus

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I dont. I havent in well over a decade and pushing toward two. (save for a period of little under a year after being shot as I needed to get situated after separating from my ex and such things take time.) Besides, Ive since learned I am not fit for cohabitation, so for me living with others is not an option. Unless those others are of the feline persuasion that I can use as free heating in the winter to be miserly with the power bill.

But moved out on my own when I was 20 and technically minus that one transition year Ive stayed out since.

LOL Captchas are fun. Now I see why people do this. "Keep more money" Captcha wishes me to move back in. I DO miss having money.
 

Therumancer

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Redlin5 said:
...how many of us literally live in our parent's basement?

I'm 21, working three jobs and trying to get into university in Vancouver to take a 4 year film course to get my degree and get into the industry. I'm here because the rent is cheap although I may move out and room with three friends I know from High School. Still waiting on that one to see how that'll pan out.

The point is my sister pointed out to me the other day the truth of it. I'm living in my folks basement.

I want out. I want to be independent and doing my own thing. Working two retail jobs and one Pizza job is boring. x.x

Anyway. Just wondering how many others here are in a similar situation.
I do I've admitted it before. I am pretty much the living incarnation of the stereotype. I am a fat, balding, glasses wearing uber-nerd in my late 30s who lives with my parents, my bedroom is in the basement (albiet a nice, wood paneled room).

I've been forced into retirement after a decade in Casino Security, suffer from brain damage, medicate myself heavily, and living on social security am actually concerned for the future about how I'll make everything work when my parents are gone since they will not live forever (though I'm sure I'll manage).

I'm a little less shy about my situation than most. It makes me angry a lot of the time more than anything.

In general the reason why this portrayal became insulting is because of how it applied to slackers, the implication being that the guy living off their parents, or at least accepting lodging, wasn't even trying. It typically goes along with unemployment and a bunch of other things. The idea being that "there is something inherantly wrong with anyone who could possibly be this interested in, or know this much about an esoteric subject like this".

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One other thing I'll say about the stereotype is that it's pure Generation X, and became so well known because there is a lot of truth to it, but not because the people doing it failed in some way. People will use anything they can to look down on others.

The bottom line is that Generation X is/was "the lost generation", the generation being skipped socially and economically due to extending lifespans and social changes. The idea being that due to modern medicine Baby Boomers are living longer, and staying more active than generations before them. Typically as a new generation is coming of age, the previous generation is stepping down and their children's generation moves into the same jobs and places int he social structure in order to replace them as they retire. In this case it didn't happen, and sociologists were pointing out for a long time it was going to turn out this way. The Baby Boomers are instead starting to slow down and retire just in time or Generation Y to move up socially.

This is a lot of what people, especially Generation Y, miss about the 1990s, the whole Emo/Goth scene, the angst, "extreme" attitudes and the like. The 1990s were a time of extreme escapism from a reality you knew was never going to be yours, and venting a lot of anger and depression. Today's youth have nothing to be depressed about, where with Generation X you literally went from self validation programs in school, to taking civics and sociology where you learned exactly why you were never going to amount to anything. Queue the angst, and the whole "slacker" attitude where people didn't want to do try and act up to their potential, because they knew they weren't going to go anywhere, so why break your arse?

With few if any meaningful jobs, you saw kids increasingly staying at home, it isn't like someone could just boot a Gen Xer out the door like with previous generations and expect them to find their way, after all there were no decent jobs as the parental generation was still holding them all, and most people were smart enough to realize it, as well as the fact that they would be holding them until Gen-X started to hit their late 30s through their 50s, at which point they would be too old to start the way they were supposed to and Gen Y would roll right on in.

This is incidently why "oldies" stations playing music from the 1960s and 1970s remained (and still remain) such a big deal, since the Baby Boomers had all the money, and music is used to promote products, where "everyone" meaning Boomers and Gen Y, agree the 1990s suck and it's hard to find much stuff from that period being given much credit, that being the big "teen/young adult" period for Gen X.

At any rate, the bottom line is that despite where I am now, where I've been, etc... the point is that while seemingly a horrible insult, the whole "Basement Dweller" thing came about for a reason. It's used to slam not just game nerds, but stoners, slackers, and pretty much the majority of an entire generation (though exceptions do exist). Without the reasonable expectation that a Gen Xer could get a good job (given the guy with it is still holding it, and nowhere near retirement) and have their own house/apartment/condo/whatever, huge numbers stayed home... duh, and quite a few are sensitive about it.

Personally I think it's going to be fairly interesting what's going to happen with Generation Y because while coming up with oppertunities they are going to have to deal with both the burden of supporting the Baby Boomers, and Generation X which was unable to contribute much of anything, just wait until they wind up having to deal with one, but not two generations hitting the social infrastructure en-masse one after another. That's one of the big reasons the goverment has been concerned about a social security/medicare/retirement crisis... a concern going back decades now since everyone saw exactly this coming.
 

Little Woodsman

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Beffudled Sheep said:
Little Woodsman said:
hahahahahahahaaaaaa.....
Let me tell you a little story (a true one).
Waaay back in 1985, the split second I turned 18 my mom & her husband said "Well we can't collect Social Security in your
name any more, so we're moving to another state--without you. Hope ya have a nice life kid. Oh, wait, we don't actually
care what kind of life you have."
So at age 18, thankfully employed though with a minimum-wage job, I *had* to move in to a filthy, roach-infested
tenement, where many of my 'neighbors' were illegal immigrants with 9+ people living in a one-bedroom apartment,
every cent I made going to basic necessities. Despite excellent grades & excellent SAT's and ACT's I couldn't go
to school because I simply couldn't afford it. After a few months of this I said, "Screw it, I'm joining the military.
Only to discover that a screwed-up medical record somewhere prevented me from joining.
During that period of my life, I did occasionally get to hang out with friends. Who would sometimes ***** about
having to live with their parents. They always shut up when they saw me looking at them.

Soooo, if your parents are cool enough to let you live with them:
1-Thank them.
2-Do everything you can to help out.
3-thank them again.
4-Stay for as long as is appropriate for everyone concerned.
5-Did I mention to thank your extremely cool parents?

Oh, and if anyone gives you crap for living with your folks, tell them from me to go
have sex with a porcupine.
You. I like you. You talk sense.
I'm hoping your situation has turned around since then?
Well, it took a loooooong time, but things did eventually get better. I had a really great job w/decent pay and respect
for a few years, then I got fired for other people's mistakes, but I had saved up enough over the years to finally be
able to go to school....then I graduated, and tried to start my own business....about 3 months before the financial
collapse....and I'm a single parent...so things are pretty rough again financially....
BUT...I've got the most wonderful little girl in the world....
The place where we live is not that bad...
Members of my family are trying to make amends and come back together (some of us anyway)...
So yeah, you know....life.
Thanks for asking!
 
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Little Woodsman said:
Beffudled Sheep said:
Little Woodsman said:
hahahahahahahaaaaaa.....
Let me tell you a little story (a true one).
Waaay back in 1985, the split second I turned 18 my mom & her husband said "Well we can't collect Social Security in your
name any more, so we're moving to another state--without you. Hope ya have a nice life kid. Oh, wait, we don't actually
care what kind of life you have."
So at age 18, thankfully employed though with a minimum-wage job, I *had* to move in to a filthy, roach-infested
tenement, where many of my 'neighbors' were illegal immigrants with 9+ people living in a one-bedroom apartment,
every cent I made going to basic necessities. Despite excellent grades & excellent SAT's and ACT's I couldn't go
to school because I simply couldn't afford it. After a few months of this I said, "Screw it, I'm joining the military.
Only to discover that a screwed-up medical record somewhere prevented me from joining.
During that period of my life, I did occasionally get to hang out with friends. Who would sometimes ***** about
having to live with their parents. They always shut up when they saw me looking at them.

Soooo, if your parents are cool enough to let you live with them:
1-Thank them.
2-Do everything you can to help out.
3-thank them again.
4-Stay for as long as is appropriate for everyone concerned.
5-Did I mention to thank your extremely cool parents?

Oh, and if anyone gives you crap for living with your folks, tell them from me to go
have sex with a porcupine.
You. I like you. You talk sense.
I'm hoping your situation has turned around since then?
Well, it took a loooooong time, but things did eventually get better. I had a really great job w/decent pay and respect
for a few years, then I got fired for other people's mistakes, but I had saved up enough over the years to finally be
able to go to school....then I graduated, and tried to start my own business....about 3 months before the financial
collapse....and I'm a single parent...so things are pretty rough again financially....
BUT...I've got the most wonderful little girl in the world....
The place where we live is not that bad...
Members of my family are trying to make amends and come back together (some of us anyway)...
So yeah, you know....life.
Thanks for asking!
Wow man that is a pretty bad hand of cards you've been dealt. You got some light in your life though and the drive to work hard and do well. Admirable traits my friend. Any prospects for turning everything around again?
 

IllumInaTIma

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Almost 22, international student at University of Calgary.
Back at home I live in apartament with my mom, but here I live in a rented room in a basement and I have nothing to be ashamed of.
 

Varrdy

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I live in a room in my parents house, if that counts? We don't have a cellar or basement so I can't live down there...

I'm pushing 31 and living back at home as I got into debt - my own fault - and am paying it back. I have 1 more year to run on my IVA and then I can think about moving out again!
 

Playful Pony

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Been living by myself since 18, first in a crappy apartment just bellow a grupy old man, and now in a crappy small house in an area mostly populated by young families (lots of small kids). It's fine though, the house hadn't even been painted since the 60's when it was built, so there was and still is a whole lot of work to do... But now it's possible to live here. Gets a bit chilly in the Norwegian winter, the isolation is rated the lowest (worst) one can legally live in...

My basement is occupied by my roomie, he's a chef so I got dinner sorted most days X3.

Mr Cwtchy said:
I live in my parents house, guess that's close enough as we don't have a basement. :p

At 19 I'm not sure whether I'm expected to be living by myself at this point. I know I sure as hell wouldn't survive on my own yet though(I can cook for myself, yeah, but I'm still no good with washing clothes and shit like that).
Easy! Stick it in the washing machine with some soap in the compartment thing, turn on. When its done, stick it in the drier...

Ohw btw, get a washing machine and a dryer...
 

the_duke_CC

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I'm currenty iving in a back room in my grandparents house (not a basement but still), I'm only here because I can't be trusted to live on my own (I need care for a mental illness i have). I've lived on my own on two previous ocassions, and let's say it didn't go well. My grandparent are brilliant to be fair, I've now got a job so I will now start paying rent (didn't have any money to pay them before now).
 

Rastien

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Shit's expensive.

I moved out from living above my grans house into my own flat last year at 23, it's expensive.

I am crippled financially and work 40-50 hour week i barely make ends meet i have fuck all cash for going out and doing things etc.

But, i have my own place, i had to take out a 1.5k loan for the initial move and buy things for the flat i have finally paid that loan off last month so i have a bit more cash now.

If your gonna do it go for it! plan ahead work out what you earn each month what bills you need to pay how much your food budget will be and work out if you can do it. Then add about £250 on top of your estimate and you will be in the ball park.

I think anyone who looks down on people for still living with their parents at 25 arn't aware how fucking hard it is for single working people to survive at the moment. If you move in with someone it gets a lot easier but finding someone to move in with that your not going to want to kill is hard.
 

Cheesus Crust

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I don't live in a basement but I'm in my own room. I'm 23 and I'm going to laws school so probably going to get my own place.
 

Psykoma

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I moved out to an apartment with friends when I went to university. After I graduated I had a lot of medical related expenses (ongoing), and my parents offered for me to move back home and not have to worry about rent/other living expense for a bit.

They offered me my old room on the 2nd floor, but they also offered me the room in the basement.
The thing is, the basement room is about 1.5 times bigger than the one upstairs, the closet is about 2x bigger, and the bathroom is about 3x bigger, so yeah I am living in their basement.

I'm planning to move out later this year.
 

Fijiman

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I kind of have an excuse for living in my parent's basement. They wanted me to move the xbox downstairs so it's their fault that I spend a lot of time down there.
 

D Moness

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Casual Shinji said:
Well, not in the basement, but yeah... There's kind of a long story behind it though.

And if you're aware of my age the stereotype solidifies even more.

[sub]And once again I'm confronted by my current (going on 10 years now) situation... *sigh*[/sub]
Dunno if it makes you feel a bit better but i am older then you and still live with my parents.

I was looking for a place to myself until a previous boss/job try to screw me over(very long story).
Been hard to find a new steady job that gives enough security to look for something again.
 

UniversalRonin

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I moved out of home at 19. Then in 2008 lost a job when the recession kicked in, and decided to do a degree to ride it out.
Now 26 and unemployed with an Information Systems degree, living in my grans attic in west London (It's been converted into their spare room) after spending the preceding 9 months in my brothers spare room looking for work up in Yorkshire.

Hell, right now I'd give anything for any job, including a 'boring' job. I have been applying to hotels, kitchens, retail and anything going recently.

Let 'Optimism' be thine watchword. You'll get out and find your independence soon enough. And I'll find a nice job that'll let me save up for an MA, and we will all enjoy the sunshine, rainbows and lollipops that ensue together
 

Relish in Chaos

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Well, no, since we live in a flat. But I'm 17 and still studying A-Levels at my school's sixth form. My brother is 28 and still lives with us, sleeping in the living room, because he didn't get good grades at school, is somewhat lazy, and then the recession kicked in.