Alright, hands up. Let's be honest here.

[Virgilthepagan]

Nope, I live in a house I lease with five friends. I love it and the situation's about perfect, depending on how things go I'll try and stay there after I finish my last semester of college (I'm 21). Honestly I don't think I could ever see myself moving back in with my parents. One I absolutely detest my home town, and there's really nothing there that could even begin to pay enough for me to move back. The other aspect is that my parents have made it abundantly clear that while they wouldn't mind having me around, they'd charge me rent. If all of my plans for post graduation fall apart then I think I'll still try and find a way of making ends meet where I am now.

 

[PhiMed]

I worked for what I got, climbed up scraping and clawing, and did what I had to do to stay out of my parent's house, and I'm better for it. Living in your parent's house is fine, I guess, while in college, and I suppose it's not entirely unacceptable to stay there for a year afterwards. Then it's time to grow up. If you hit 25 and you're still there, you need to change your mindset, because you're not growing as a person.

yeah I'm not sure you can just flick a "grow up" swtich and move out, I'm sure plenty of people in that situation would like too but really can;t..through factors of their own and outside ones

Mostly of their own making.

Like I said, I was making less than 1 1/2 x minimum wage (which was $5.15 at the time), and I did it. It was hard, but I did it. The problem is that we are actively encouraged to be soft today.

If you're working, move out. If you're not, get a job. Don't wait for a "good job". You can look for one of those while you work. Stop being useless and get one. You will always be a mental child as long as you live with your parents. As some have said here, it's easy and comfortable, and that's the problem. Struggle. It's good for you.

I finished the prerequisites for, applied to, and got in to, a master's program while working 40-60 hours a week. I am above average, but I am not a phenomenon. If someone can't look for a job while working, then they don't deserve a job. They should just give up and apply to be their parents butler.

 

[Vault101]

Mostly of their own making.

Like I said, I was making less than 1 1/2 x minimum wage (which was $5.15 at the time), and I did it. It was hard, but I did it. [b/]The problem is that we are actively encouraged to be soft today.[/b]

wow...give this man a nobel prize for his wonderful insight..no screw that..you should be president!

[quote/]If you're working, move out. If you're not, get a job. Don't wait for a "good job". You can look for one of those while you work. Stop being useless and get one. You will always be a mental child as long as you live with your parents. As some have said here, it's easy and comfortable, and that's the problem. Struggle. It's good for you.[/quote]
DERP....ugghh boy none of this ever occured to me and probably thousands of other people, the answer is so simple!

[quote/]I finished the prerequisites for, applied to, and got in to, a master's program while working 40-60 hours a week. I am above average, but I am not a phenomenon. If someone can't look for a job while working, then they don't deserve a job. They should just give up and apply to be their parents butler.[/quote]
I get it now

the problem is not everyone is as hard working and as awsome as YOU clearly youve got the solution to everyones probelms

CLEARLY we all just need to stop being usless and WORK hard

 

[Kinitawowi]

I live and work in one of the most expensive cities in the world, for one of the least pleasant employers in the country; I'm currently early thirties and living with extended family (an aunt, uncle, cousins and assorted hangers-on). Living elsewhere simply isn't a viable option right now.

It wasn't always this way; leaving home in Norfolk for university in Manchester was great, and I still miss those years. Got a job in the city, lived with friends for a few years, then finally got my own flat - just as I was made redundant from my job and the arse fell out of the economy. Eighteen months later my savings were gone and I had to pack out. My parents (long since divorced) were totally not an option; one has emigrated and the other has other commitments. So the next stop was my friend's place in Stoke. Unfortunately, Stoke was a crappy enough place without the recession and I had no real hope or prospects of finding work there; my friend has nearly infinite patience (he's a maths teacher, after all), but even that couldn't last forever and eighteen more months later I was off again. By then I'd reconnected with quite a chunk of my family down in the London area (thanks to a couple of weddings and well-timed family reunion gatherings), and pursuing a Dick Whittington-style streets-may-not-be-paved-with-gold-in-London-but-at-least-they're-not-paved-with-crap-like-they-are-in-Stoke approach, I threw myself on their mercy. Fourteen months later, after nearly four years out of work, somebody I knew from before university gave me a call to say he had a job available; six months later I got a transfer to a London branch (commuting to Cambridge was a *****) and there I am.

This isn't indefinite; my employment prospects may be dramatically improving quite soon to the extent of almost doubling my money, and as soon as I can afford it I'm outta here. Living with family is undeniably convenient and cheap, but I've spent enough time sharing kitchens and bathrooms and TVs with people to know that I'm one of those people who really needs their own space - there's no way I could even contemplate a house share with strangers. One of the cousins here though will clearly never move out; he's more or less admitted that his dream home would be his parents' basement (if they had one) and is showing no signs of changing that.

 

[Snotnarok]

I live at home with my parents, family member has become mentally disabled and requires help so that's what I do basically every day while doing freelance stuff.

 

[Shock and Awe]

Still live with the folks, but I'm 18 and still in High School so I have a pretty good excuse.

 

[xDarc]

I'm 30 and I own my own home. It's not much, 1,000 sq ft, w/ unfinished basement/laundry area. It cost me 75,000 but came with washer/dryer/fridge/dishwasher... DRYWALL. (a lot of the foreclosures I looked at when buying had all kinds of holes put in the walls by the previous owners, some people were pouring quick drying cement down their plumbing in spite of banks) I ended up buying from a couple in their mid 50s, not a foreclosure/short sale. They kept the place in great shape.

All told it cost me about 7,000 to get the house, get moved in. I've spent another 800 on new gutters and several hundred on paint since then.

A little more than two years ago though, I was living in my parent's basement- just saving my money. I'd had apartments and room mates on and off all through my teens and early to mid 20s. But when things didn't work out, always went back home to mom and dad. Until about 26, when I decided enough of this shit, time to start saving for a house.

I could have likely afforded a bigger house, but with the economy the way it is, I bought a house that I could still make my mortgage payments on even if I had to work at burger king. My mortgage payment is 617 a month.

 

[littlealicewhite]

I'm still living with my mom, but not in the basement. I'm 19, so whether I'm *expected* to be on my own or not feels kinda fuzzy, but I know I'm *not* ready just yet. Mom's not too fussed about it since I'm planning to be out of the house in three years or so.

 

[Cpu46]

Dorm life at the moment but am fairly likely to be in my parents house again soon after college. Not in the basement, though it is rather nice and I honestly wouldn't mind living down there, I get my own ground floor room back.

My friend on the other hand has the unfortunate circumstance of his bedroom already located in the basement. When I pointed that out he turned to his mom and told her that he couldn't stay there after college... at all. It was all a big joke since we had been talking about that cliche at the time but the look on his face when I pointed out his situation was hilarious.

 

[Ham Blitz]

Well, I live upstairs but yeah. I am 20 and go to a university so living at home saves the about $10,000 a year my campus charges for housing or finding an apartment and paying for that because to be honest, class work is making hard to work much so I wouldn't be able to afford living anywhere for long due to how little I make.

 

[Mylinkay Asdara]

Soooo, if your parents are cool enough to let you live with them:
1-Thank them.
2-Do everything you can to help out.
3-thank them again.
4-Stay for as long as is appropriate for everyone concerned.
5-Did I mention to thank your extremely cool parents?

Oh, and if anyone gives you crap for living with your folks, tell them from me to go
have sex with a porcupine.

Very much this. I live in my fiancé's parent's basement (with him) because they were kind enough people to take me in when the piece of trash my mother married on round two (only about 11 years older than me in fact) decided to tell me not to come home again when my car overheated on the way to see my - then - boyfriend. In a blizzard. I'd planned to stay the night and wait for the tow trucks to be available, when I called to say so I was told don't come back. My NEW parents encouraged me to go to college while I could under the safety of their shelter and I'm graduating this semester because of them.

So, yeah, don't knock parents who are kind enough to share their roof with you wether they are yours or someone else's. It's a big deal and not everyone gets the option to stay.

 

[Little Woodsman]

hahahahahahahaaaaaa.....
Let me tell you a little story (a true one).
Waaay back in 1985, the split second I turned 18 my mom & her husband said "Well we can't collect Social Security in your
name any more, so we're moving to another state--without you. Hope ya have a nice life kid. Oh, wait, we don't actually
care what kind of life you have."
So at age 18, thankfully employed though with a minimum-wage job, I *had* to move in to a filthy, roach-infested
tenement, where many of my 'neighbors' were illegal immigrants with 9+ people living in a one-bedroom apartment,
every cent I made going to basic necessities. Despite excellent grades & excellent SAT's and ACT's I couldn't go
to school because I simply couldn't afford it. After a few months of this I said, "Screw it, I'm joining the military.
Only to discover that a screwed-up medical record somewhere prevented me from joining.
During that period of my life, I did occasionally get to hang out with friends. Who would sometimes ***** about
having to live with their parents. They always shut up when they saw me looking at them.

Soooo, if your parents are cool enough to let you live with them:
1-Thank them.
2-Do everything you can to help out.
3-thank them again.
4-Stay for as long as is appropriate for everyone concerned.
5-Did I mention to thank your extremely cool parents?

Oh, and if anyone gives you crap for living with your folks, tell them from me to go
have sex with a porcupine.

You. I like you. You talk sense.
I'm hoping your situation has turned around since then?

Well, it took a loooooong time, but things did eventually get better. I had a really great job w/decent pay and respect
for a few years, then I got fired for other people's mistakes, but I had saved up enough over the years to finally be
able to go to school....then I graduated, and tried to start my own business....about 3 months before the financial
collapse....and I'm a single parent...so things are pretty rough again financially....
BUT...I've got the most wonderful little girl in the world....
The place where we live is not that bad...
Members of my family are trying to make amends and come back together (some of us anyway)...
So yeah, you know....life.
Thanks for asking!

Wow man that is a pretty bad hand of cards you've been dealt. You got some light in your life though and the drive to work hard and do well. Admirable traits my friend. Any prospects for turning everything around again?

There are some. My "day job" is enough to keep a roof overhead & food on the table, but it's with the City of
Boulder so I have a foot in the door for some other positions that could open up. I'm also exploring some other
avenues for my massage therapy practice that could reduce overhead & possibly generate more revenue. I'm working
on designing/publishing a pen&paper rpg with some friends, and designing/publishing a board game on my own.
It's funny, because so many, many people I see at my "day job" (lot attendant for city parking) tell me that
I'm the happiest, most up-beat person they see. My mom is from a third-world country (Dominican Republic) and
I've been there, seen what it's like from a natives perspective--helps me understand how lucky we are to be
living in an industrialized nation. And of course, Ponies help. (grin)

 

[Doom-Slayer]

Currently living with parents and my girlfriend whos moved over from the states. WE live in a little add on in the rental my parents have so its pretty private. Soon Ill be paying rent though from my Student Allowance(Free money from the government) since my parents earn like nothing.

"technically" I could put my name down on the tenancy agreement as a seperate party, and it would have the same affect, then I would be "flatting" with my parents, but theres really no need.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

hahahahahahahaaaaaa.....
Let me tell you a little story (a true one).
Waaay back in 1985, the split second I turned 18 my mom & her husband said "Well we can't collect Social Security in your
name any more, so we're moving to another state--without you. Hope ya have a nice life kid. Oh, wait, we don't actually
care what kind of life you have."
So at age 18, thankfully employed though with a minimum-wage job, I *had* to move in to a filthy, roach-infested
tenement, where many of my 'neighbors' were illegal immigrants with 9+ people living in a one-bedroom apartment,
every cent I made going to basic necessities. Despite excellent grades & excellent SAT's and ACT's I couldn't go
to school because I simply couldn't afford it. After a few months of this I said, "Screw it, I'm joining the military.
Only to discover that a screwed-up medical record somewhere prevented me from joining.
During that period of my life, I did occasionally get to hang out with friends. Who would sometimes ***** about
having to live with their parents. They always shut up when they saw me looking at them.

Soooo, if your parents are cool enough to let you live with them:
1-Thank them.
2-Do everything you can to help out.
3-thank them again.
4-Stay for as long as is appropriate for everyone concerned.
5-Did I mention to thank your extremely cool parents?

Oh, and if anyone gives you crap for living with your folks, tell them from me to go
have sex with a porcupine.

You. I like you. You talk sense.
I'm hoping your situation has turned around since then?

Well, it took a loooooong time, but things did eventually get better. I had a really great job w/decent pay and respect
for a few years, then I got fired for other people's mistakes, but I had saved up enough over the years to finally be
able to go to school....then I graduated, and tried to start my own business....about 3 months before the financial
collapse....and I'm a single parent...so things are pretty rough again financially....
BUT...I've got the most wonderful little girl in the world....
The place where we live is not that bad...
Members of my family are trying to make amends and come back together (some of us anyway)...
So yeah, you know....life.
Thanks for asking!

Wow man that is a pretty bad hand of cards you've been dealt. You got some light in your life though and the drive to work hard and do well. Admirable traits my friend. Any prospects for turning everything around again?

There are some. My "day job" is enough to keep a roof overhead & food on the table, but it's with the City of
Boulder so I have a foot in the door for some other positions that could open up. I'm also exploring some other
avenues for my massage therapy practice that could reduce overhead & possibly generate more revenue. I'm working
on designing/publishing a pen&paper rpg with some friends, and designing/publishing a board game on my own.
It's funny, because so many, many people I see at my "day job" (lot attendant for city parking) tell me that
I'm the happiest, most up-beat person they see. My mom is from a third-world country (Dominican Republic) and
I've been there, seen what it's like from a natives perspective--helps me understand how lucky we are to be
living in an industrialized nation. And of course, Ponies help. (grin)

Haha good on ya man. Keep that attitude and work ethic and you'll be in smoother waters in no time. You seem like a pretty good guy, hope your daughter appreciates you. As a guy that grew up without his parents I'd like to say that any father that works like you for their kid is worthy of some admiration and respect in my book.
So tell me more about this board game and rpg.

 

[Little Woodsman]

hahahahahahahaaaaaa.....
Let me tell you a little story (a true one).
Waaay back in 1985, the split second I turned 18 my mom & her husband said "Well we can't collect Social Security in your
name any more, so we're moving to another state--without you. Hope ya have a nice life kid. Oh, wait, we don't actually
care what kind of life you have."
So at age 18, thankfully employed though with a minimum-wage job, I *had* to move in to a filthy, roach-infested
tenement, where many of my 'neighbors' were illegal immigrants with 9+ people living in a one-bedroom apartment,
every cent I made going to basic necessities. Despite excellent grades & excellent SAT's and ACT's I couldn't go
to school because I simply couldn't afford it. After a few months of this I said, "Screw it, I'm joining the military.
Only to discover that a screwed-up medical record somewhere prevented me from joining.
During that period of my life, I did occasionally get to hang out with friends. Who would sometimes ***** about
having to live with their parents. They always shut up when they saw me looking at them.

Soooo, if your parents are cool enough to let you live with them:
1-Thank them.
2-Do everything you can to help out.
3-thank them again.
4-Stay for as long as is appropriate for everyone concerned.
5-Did I mention to thank your extremely cool parents?

Oh, and if anyone gives you crap for living with your folks, tell them from me to go
have sex with a porcupine.

You. I like you. You talk sense.
I'm hoping your situation has turned around since then?

Well, it took a loooooong time, but things did eventually get better. I had a really great job w/decent pay and respect
for a few years, then I got fired for other people's mistakes, but I had saved up enough over the years to finally be
able to go to school....then I graduated, and tried to start my own business....about 3 months before the financial
collapse....and I'm a single parent...so things are pretty rough again financially....
BUT...I've got the most wonderful little girl in the world....
The place where we live is not that bad...
Members of my family are trying to make amends and come back together (some of us anyway)...
So yeah, you know....life.
Thanks for asking!

Wow man that is a pretty bad hand of cards you've been dealt. You got some light in your life though and the drive to work hard and do well. Admirable traits my friend. Any prospects for turning everything around again?

There are some. My "day job" is enough to keep a roof overhead & food on the table, but it's with the City of
Boulder so I have a foot in the door for some other positions that could open up. I'm also exploring some other
avenues for my massage therapy practice that could reduce overhead & possibly generate more revenue. I'm working
on designing/publishing a pen&paper rpg with some friends, and designing/publishing a board game on my own.
It's funny, because so many, many people I see at my "day job" (lot attendant for city parking) tell me that
I'm the happiest, most up-beat person they see. My mom is from a third-world country (Dominican Republic) and
I've been there, seen what it's like from a natives perspective--helps me understand how lucky we are to be
living in an industrialized nation. And of course, Ponies help. (grin)

Haha good on ya man. Keep that attitude and work ethic and you'll be in smoother waters in no time. You seem like a pretty good guy, hope your daughter appreciates you. As a guy that grew up without his parents I'd like to say that any father that works like you for their kid is worthy of some admiration and respect in my book.
So tell me more about this board game and rpg.

I really can't tell you that much about either, due in part to the forum rules (can't plug your own commercial works/endeavors here) and also--well when you get serious about publishing a work like these one of the first
things you have to do is get some legal advice, and the lawyer we talked to, as well as some industry people we
know all advised us to keep things under wraps as much as possible until we are ready for play-testing.
Sorry.

 

[PureChaos]

I recently moved out of my mum's place. Though I paid rent and I had my freedom, I still wanted to properly move out and start my own life but due to work issued, it wasn't feasible until about 6 months ago. Though I'd sort of moved out a couple of times before, it was due to college/university so ended up eventually going back. Officially moved out shortly after my 26th birthday. I know some people that still live with their parents. They'd like to move out but can't afford to and are struggling to get a job.

 

[The Hero Killer]

I'm 23 and been out of college for a little over a year and am still living at home. I suppose my situation is different in that I have complete 100% freedom at my house, it just so happens that my mother also lives there and that she actually doesn't want me to waste money with an apartment when she plans to marry soon and just give me the house anyways.

 

[Beffudled Sheep_v1legacy]

hahahahahahahaaaaaa.....
Let me tell you a little story (a true one).
Waaay back in 1985, the split second I turned 18 my mom & her husband said "Well we can't collect Social Security in your
name any more, so we're moving to another state--without you. Hope ya have a nice life kid. Oh, wait, we don't actually
care what kind of life you have."
So at age 18, thankfully employed though with a minimum-wage job, I *had* to move in to a filthy, roach-infested
tenement, where many of my 'neighbors' were illegal immigrants with 9+ people living in a one-bedroom apartment,
every cent I made going to basic necessities. Despite excellent grades & excellent SAT's and ACT's I couldn't go
to school because I simply couldn't afford it. After a few months of this I said, "Screw it, I'm joining the military.
Only to discover that a screwed-up medical record somewhere prevented me from joining.
During that period of my life, I did occasionally get to hang out with friends. Who would sometimes ***** about
having to live with their parents. They always shut up when they saw me looking at them.

Soooo, if your parents are cool enough to let you live with them:
1-Thank them.
2-Do everything you can to help out.
3-thank them again.
4-Stay for as long as is appropriate for everyone concerned.
5-Did I mention to thank your extremely cool parents?

Oh, and if anyone gives you crap for living with your folks, tell them from me to go
have sex with a porcupine.

You. I like you. You talk sense.
I'm hoping your situation has turned around since then?

Well, it took a loooooong time, but things did eventually get better. I had a really great job w/decent pay and respect
for a few years, then I got fired for other people's mistakes, but I had saved up enough over the years to finally be
able to go to school....then I graduated, and tried to start my own business....about 3 months before the financial
collapse....and I'm a single parent...so things are pretty rough again financially....
BUT...I've got the most wonderful little girl in the world....
The place where we live is not that bad...
Members of my family are trying to make amends and come back together (some of us anyway)...
So yeah, you know....life.
Thanks for asking!

Wow man that is a pretty bad hand of cards you've been dealt. You got some light in your life though and the drive to work hard and do well. Admirable traits my friend. Any prospects for turning everything around again?

There are some. My "day job" is enough to keep a roof overhead & food on the table, but it's with the City of
Boulder so I have a foot in the door for some other positions that could open up. I'm also exploring some other
avenues for my massage therapy practice that could reduce overhead & possibly generate more revenue. I'm working
on designing/publishing a pen&paper rpg with some friends, and designing/publishing a board game on my own.
It's funny, because so many, many people I see at my "day job" (lot attendant for city parking) tell me that
I'm the happiest, most up-beat person they see. My mom is from a third-world country (Dominican Republic) and
I've been there, seen what it's like from a natives perspective--helps me understand how lucky we are to be
living in an industrialized nation. And of course, Ponies help. (grin)

Haha good on ya man. Keep that attitude and work ethic and you'll be in smoother waters in no time. You seem like a pretty good guy, hope your daughter appreciates you. As a guy that grew up without his parents I'd like to say that any father that works like you for their kid is worthy of some admiration and respect in my book.
So tell me more about this board game and rpg.

I really can't tell you that much about either, due in part to the forum rules (can't plug your own commercial works/endeavors here) and also--well when you get serious about publishing a work like these one of the first
things you have to do is get some legal advice, and the lawyer we talked to, as well as some industry people we
know all advised us to keep things under wraps as much as possible until we are ready for play-testing.
Sorry.

Understandable. Well then when it is ready I look forward to hearing about it.

 

[PhiMed]

Mostly of their own making.

Like I said, I was making less than 1 1/2 x minimum wage (which was $5.15 at the time), and I did it. It was hard, but I did it. [b/]The problem is that we are actively encouraged to be soft today.[/b]

wow...give this man a nobel prize for his wonderful insight..no screw that..you should be president!

[quote/]If you're working, move out. If you're not, get a job. Don't wait for a "good job". You can look for one of those while you work. Stop being useless and get one. You will always be a mental child as long as you live with your parents. As some have said here, it's easy and comfortable, and that's the problem. Struggle. It's good for you.

DERP....ugghh boy none of this ever occured to me and probably thousands of other people, the answer is so simple!

[quote/]I finished the prerequisites for, applied to, and got in to, a master's program while working 40-60 hours a week. I am above average, but I am not a phenomenon. If someone can't look for a job while working, then they don't deserve a job. They should just give up and apply to be their parents butler.[/quote]
I get it now

the problem is not everyone is as hard working and as awsome as YOU clearly youve got the solution to everyones probelms

CLEARLY we all just need to stop being usless and WORK hard[/quote]

Several of the people in this thread have stated that the reason they're still at home is because they are looking for a particular type of job, rather than just looking for A job. I didn't just pull that out of thin air. If they are ignoring all the jobs that fail to meet their very selective criteria, then they are not trying. I do not feel any empathy for someone who laments their failure when they are not really trying. That was my point.

Be more condescending please.

 

[WolfDude191]

Currently living with my father while I try to nail a more constant stream of income. Plus, I don't think to many houses have basements around Liverpool, UK.