Am I over-reacting?

[Hippobatman]

Ye olde snippeth

I know, but hang in there. Things have a strange way to sort themselves out with time, and with some reflection it'll all come together for you.

Once again, I wish you best of luck, my friend.

 

[SantoUno]

Trust me, break it off, I went through the same thing.

NEVER have a long-distance relationship.

Break it off, keep living your life, you will feel happier and a rejuvenated man, trust me.

 

[darkonnis]

meh, 24 hours in? 24 hours in, so you were at that point seeing each other. Not saying i'd be ok with it but if she aint done nothing since, dont worry. She kissed a guy, not exactly the worst thing, coulda been a girl, could have been more than a kiss. And uni aint much of a factor, if your in a long distance relationship now, you'll still be in one then. If neither one of you wants to move or has a job/course which allows you to spend 4 days or more together at a time (regularly that is)then i'd consider cutting cords.

 

[similar.squirrel]

24 hours isn't by any means 'into' a relationship. Unless you both went ahead and said we are in a relationship now.

 

[BakaSmurf]

Poke at her or some people you know that are around her a lot some more to find out if she's been unfaithful since then, if she has, confront her about it and demand to know just what she considers your relationship to be, if you don't like what you hear, leave her, you'll probably end up meeting someone you really like in Uni' anyways.

However, if she hasn't, find out just how bad she feels about the whole ordeal, if not from her then from someone she knows, if she truely regrets it, and hasn't done it since, give her another chance, she may just be 'the one,' as the old ladies that always refer to my lady friends they see me walking around with as.

Well, that's what I'd do at least...

 

[Exocet]

It really comes down to you.
You're the one who knows her the best here.There's really nothing we can say to help you because we just don't know her like you do.

However,if it were me,I'd ask her if there's any other dirty little secret she'd like to share

 

[Desgardes]

For drunk kissing, you'd have to be out of your mind to consider it cheating. This is from someone who values fidelity extremely highly, and it's overreacting. I was confused. Was this 24 hours from when you started long distance or just started? If it was just started, then I'd say extra overreacting, to the point where it is ludicrous. How did you determine when you started the relationship started?

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

For drunk kissing, you'd have to be out of your mind to consider it cheating. This is from someone who values fidelity extremely highly, and it's overreacting. I was confused. Was this 24 hours from when you started long distance or just started? If it was just started, then I'd say extra overreacting, to the point where it is ludicrous. How did you determine when you started the relationship started?

Not really. She's had the capacity since then not to do anything so alcohol is basically a worthless excuse, and a kiss is a physical show of affection. This was 24 hours into the actual relationship, when I asked her to be my girlfriend.

 

[chinangel]

she just kissed him? That's it?

...

Forgive and forget. if that's all she does (and she was inebriated to boot) then you have nothing to worry about. In addition it would seem she's come clean about it. Let. It. Go.

 

[W8NKA]

By the sounds of things you only sore her in real life once.

Build a bridge and get over her the grass is better on the other side

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Cheating happens. She's human. Humans make mistakes. You're perfectly right to be hurt and angry. But, I think it's something to be talked over with her before you break things off.

If you go through life waiting for someone who will never hurt you, never wrong you, then you're going to end up looking forever.

Talk to her, find out if it has happened since then, why she didn't tell you, how she feels about it etc.

Given that it was a drunken mistake, while not excusing it, plays a factor. Talk to her.

unless its tripping over yourself and not even knowing your name....your still concious and its not much of an excuse.especally if there not going to see each other much...break it off nicely and try and get back together later....keep in touch

If she cheated on you that quick and you are going to be gone for 3 years im sorry to say that you should just break it off
[edit] If you would, i would like to see what you choose

Since you both wanted to know the outcome, I've edited my original post.

 

[Mr. Google]

Decision: We are no longer in our relationship. It was the hardest thing I've ever done and I'll have to get used to it somehow, but I know the pain will wear off. Honestly now, I just want her to be happy.

I want to thank each and every one of you who contributed to this thread and helped me. You've proven to me once again that I really can call on this community in times of need.

Any time and im sorry that it had to come to that Hope that you find some one a little more trust worthy and closer to you physically

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Decision: We are no longer in our relationship. It was the hardest thing I've ever done and I'll have to get used to it somehow, but I know the pain will wear off. Honestly now, I just want her to be happy.

I want to thank each and every one of you who contributed to this thread and helped me. You've proven to me once again that I really can call on this community in times of need.

Any time and im sorry that it had to come to that Hope that you find some one a little more trust worthy and closer to you physically

Thank you, let's hope I do. Let's also hope I fight the temptation to ask her back

 

[Mr. Google]

Thank you, let's hope I do. Let's also hope I fight the temptation to ask her back

Yeah im rooting for you!

 

[Hiphophippo]

It's at least worth considering that the time when people first start "exclusively dating" is often a little obscure. In her mind she might not have really committed to you yet. Moreover none of us have any real concept of what she's like, or how much she cares about you.

You do seem pretty set on it though so it might be best to sever the ties anyway. It seems like this is something that would continue to eat at you unless you two really worked it out.

 

[Mr. Google]

Do you really need strangers to tell you to dump that *****.

Some times it helps to know that a 3rd party agrees with you

 

[Gudrests]

Hello my dear comrades. I hope I don't earn your contempt with this thread.

Basically, my life has come to what I can only describe as something as a mix between a crossroads and a standstill, both of which are annoying phrases but I can't think of anything else right now.
I've just learnt that my girlfriend cheated on me, wahey. I know, I know, it's another relationship thread in disguise but I'm not asking for you to tell me what I should do. I'll explain:
My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. I'm situated in England, her in Scotland, so it's not an abominable distance. We've been in the relationship for roughly 7 months, but were very close for several months before. I've visited her and all that so I know what I feel is real when I say I loved her, I still do.
But, less than 24 hours into our relationship, she cheated on me. I've only learnt this today.

What I want to know, as the title suggests, is whether you guys think I'm over reacting when I say that I'm considering just cutting the cord and moving on. I've got university in just over a month and it would be 3 years before I'm done. That's a long time to be in a long distance relationship with someone you're unsure if you can trust.

Oh and please guys, I know it's our style to subtley flame and mock the kinds of users who make these threads, I know. But just this once, could you go easy? For an old friend in need of a pinch of help?

ADDITION: I neglected to mention, she was very drunk when she did this. I know it's not an excuse but it's a factor.

ADDITION #2: When I say cheat, I mean she went off and kissed the guy at least a couple of times...I know that might sound tame to some but the fact of the matter is, that's still cheating, and I was having a hellish night while she was doing this.

Decision: We are no longer in our relationship. It was the hardest thing I've ever done and I'll have to get used to it somehow, but I know the pain will wear off. Honestly now, I just want her to be happy.

I want to thank each and every one of you who contributed to this thread and helped me. You've proven to me once again that I really can call on this community in times of need.

Good luck buddy. Ive been there and its some of the worst things in the world to do...but if its ment to be....it will be