Am i retarded?

[Burntpopcarn]

a few years back i was diagnosed with extremely mild asperger's disease. I'm not completely socially deficient, i've got lots of friends (yes, i'm talking about people i know, not people whom i only know via PSN and have never met in person), but still, i feel..depressed. like nobody really cares about me because i'm retarded. at least, that's what i bet everyone who doesn't know me well enough thinks. so tell me, people... do you think i'm in any way a freak? perhaps a retard? maybe a genetic offshot? or a mutation? keep in mind the disease is MILD, not BIG.

 

[TheIronRuler]

Everybody think they're retarded in some way or the other. I, like you have disabilities in the social area, though they are not as intense as yours I have trouble with talking fluently with people I don't know. Moving the discussion into the domain of the written word helps me greatly and therefore I have acquired many friends through the all mighty and powerful internet.
Friends that I meent in person and converse with, go and watch movies with, etc.
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If you are not too closed to new ideas and people I could strike a conversation with you. No, you are not a freak. Everybody has their handicap simewhere, and even that great Man might have some not so great aspects hidden away.

 

[Whateveralot]

Of course not. People don't care about your defficiency. If it shows at times (in a bad way), they might notice you're "different", but it won't ever put people off from the start. Just be yourself and people will care. Just don't go out expecting or demanding pity from everyone. You're fine, people love you.

 

[Pinkamena]

"retarded" as lost all meaning to me, thanks to the internet and gaming. I often forget it's a mental disorder, not just a swear word.

 

[gCrusher]

"retarded" as lost all meaning to me, thanks to the internet and gaming. I often forget it's a mental disorder, not just a swear word.

It's -not- just an insult? Next you're going to tell me n00b is used to diagnose people with big feet or something.

OT: It's been said, but it bears repeating. Everyone has issues, and everyone gets bummed from time to time. Stick with it and experience what life has to offer, regardless of the bad stuff.

 

[SpaceGnome]

i must say that i felt some thing akin to what you described, and trust me it may appear that every one else is smatter, faster, stronger, more intelligent than you, but there not and i got over my feelings of such by saying "FUCK YOU every one else" I'm going my own way they are just as afraid of you as you are of them act confident and they will fall like dominos just be sure that you can back up things you say

 

[Azaez]

Everyone has problems, I get mad easly, no one is perfect. By what you wrote and your social situation i can tell your fine and your friends like you and strangers, are well just dicks. But your fine, your not a retard, a mutant or anything like that.

 

[daltonlaffs]

I never understood why people with this disorder seem to think everyone should know about it.

If you make it a point to let people know that you have minor Asperger's syndrome, of course they're going to treat you differently, because you flat-out told them that there's something wrong with you up front.

If you just keep that to yourself, nobody is going to notice, if it's as minor as it supposedly is. People with Asperger's aren't that different, especially if it's minor.

 

[Zulnam]

Of course not. First off, I'd suggest you test yourself again. Asperger's disease can be pretty subjective. Depending on how good the doctor/psychologist/psychiatrist is, there could have been an error in the diagnosis.

Second, how old are you? If you're in your teens, it could just be the age making you depressed. Yes, this can happen, even to people with lots of friends, due to growth and other social-related mumbo-jumbo.

Meh, don't let this thing frustrate you. Everybody has issues, even if they show them or don't, so don't sweat it.

 

[Drakmeire]

Aspergers is a pretty common illness actually. Go to any gaming convention or find any movie/game geek, they will most likely have a slight form of it. In fact, most of the people i get along with have it, they are fully functioning members of society who just happen to have a few quirks.
I was once diagnosed with it but after getting a second opinion that was proven false.
Right now I'm just under the impression that Aspergers is just the name for a certain type of personality since a few too many people have it for it to be a "Disorder"
Do you call having the genetic code for being double jointed a disorder? no, you do not.

 

[Hoplon]

Well, if you have to ask. probably a little yeah. only in the "why is my jumper on inside out" that most people are though.

 

[JoJo]

I never understood why people with this disorder seem to think everyone should know about it.

If you make it a point to let people know that you have minor Asperger's syndrome, of course they're going to treat you differently, because you flat-out told them that there's something wrong with you up front.

If you just keep that to yourself, nobody is going to notice, if it's as minor as it supposedly is. People with Asperger's aren't that different, especially if it's minor.

This, I actually have Aspergers Syndrome and I have deliberately told none of my new friends at uni that I have it, so people don't take pity on me. You wouldn't believe some of the patronising/sympathetic looks I've had before when I've disclosed my disorder. Of course all my friends know I'm not ordinary, but that's partly because I have an unusual personality anyway and I'm not afraid to defend my viewpoints, however odd. You aren't retarded OP, that's only for those with really serious learning difficulties.

 

[HardkorSB]

a few years back i was diagnosed with extremely mild asperger's disease. I'm not completely socially deficient, i've got lots of friends (yes, i'm talking about people i know, not people whom i only know via PSN and have never met in person), but still, i feel..depressed. like nobody really cares about me because i'm retarded. at least, that's what i bet everyone who doesn't know me well enough thinks. so tell me, people... do you think i'm in any way a freak? perhaps a retard? maybe a genetic offshot? or a mutation? keep in mind the disease is MILD, not BIG.

The world is full of retards, you will blend in quite nicely.

 

[legend of duty]

aspergers is a type of high functioning austism. however austisms definition has changed and now refers to many different conditions aswell thats why austism cases have gone up. so in short no.

 

[Blow_Pop]

I never understood why people with this disorder seem to think everyone should know about it.

If you make it a point to let people know that you have minor Asperger's syndrome, of course they're going to treat you differently, because you flat-out told them that there's something wrong with you up front.

If you just keep that to yourself, nobody is going to notice, if it's as minor as it supposedly is. People with Asperger's aren't that different, especially if it's minor.

This, I actually have Aspergers Syndrome and I have deliberately told none of my new friends at uni that I have it, so people don't take pity on me. You wouldn't believe some of the patronising/sympathetic looks I've had before when I've disclosed my disorder. Of course all my friends know I'm not ordinary, but that's partly because I have an unusual personality anyway and I'm not afraid to defend my viewpoints, however odd. You aren't retarded OP, that's only for those with really serious learning difficulties.

my brother has aspergers as well and because of how my parents treat him and baby him he is one of those "social outcasts/retards" because no one took the time to work with him on how to attempt to fit in with society enough to mask it. As a result he is 23 and is never expected to have a job or learn to drive. I believe if you do shit like what my parents did to my brother then yes you are at that point somewhat retarded. Especially since all of his "friends" are online. But seeing as you can manage to have friends offline and in real life, no you aren't. I've had numerous friends who have it that you would never guess have it so *shrugs*

 

[rokkolpo]

Like half the people here are diagnosed Aspergers.
Most likely.

 

[Nudu]

So, I'm going kind of off-topic here, but extremely mild asbergers sounds a litttle strange. It's like the direction between North North-west and North. At what point do they just round up to the closest even number?

Mental retardation and asperger's syndrome are 2 quite different things.

Not really. It's fairly widely held that Asperger's is not differentiated from High Function Autism. And Autism is included in what used to be called "retarded"

What use to, and still is, called "retarded" is related to intelligence. IQ was invented to diagnose people with mental retardation. An IQ of 50-69 is mild retardation, an IQ between 35-49 is moderate retardation, 34-20 is severe retardation and below 20 is profound retardation. Autism is usually largely unrelated to intelligence.