An Apology or Revenge?

[Feralcentaur]

Revenge is always the answer. Did someone spill coffee on your shirt? Some good old fashioned shotgun-justice will teach 'em.

[sub][sub]NOT REALLY[/sub][/sub]

Unfortunately Gun Laws in Canada can be awfully strict... especially when the person trying to buy one is a minor.
Sad lil' old me. :-(... although it would appear to be easy to get one if you're part of law enforcement or a Hunter...
YOU SAW NOTHING!
...Besides, bashing someones face in with your fists and arms is a awful lot more satisfying.

When all else fails, use the kitchen knife your avatar is holding!

The problem with that is, that I prefer using blunt attacks, because for one it's more satisfying to knock your enemy around silly, two getting blood and guts every where is icky, three I find wielding nothing or something simplistic like a Shoe to be easier than it would probably be to hold a blade, four using a weapon in a fight is just unfair and makes it no fun at all and five, as I mentioned before I prefer getting revenge and then apologizing to the person even though they deserved it, and in the end hopefully they learn the lesson not to purposely aggravate and attack someone who is quite aggressive when pushed too far.

Although of course I'm only talking about situations in which the thing I'm getting revenge for is someone causing or attempting physical or relentless pestering psychological harm to me, I would not use violence unless if it would deter people from hurting myself.

 

[Super Toast]

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So, you punch your enemies into submission. Nice.

 

[Seieko Pherdo]

The most I have to do is ether ignore said person or simply slap them upside the head.

 

[Tdc2182]

Definitely revenge as of late.

I've made the obvious effort of avoiding this ex-"girlfriend" I don't like in any sense of the phrase anymore, yet she keeps trying to get a reaction out of me by insulting me in front of my friends, knowing I won't do anything about it. (And for serious, she broke up with me. I did call her and gave her the choice if she wanted a relationship anymore, to which she said no.)

She turned her friends on me on multiple occasions, I've apologized to her once (for what? I'm still not so sure), made her see the errors of her ways once, and then finally confronted her again.

Playing dumb is the bane of my existence.

I usually go through great hurtles to avoid calling a girl a ***** to her face, but Godamn. It's getting tricky.

Just one week left before school is out.... I just have to make it one more week.

Edit: Also, I always accept apologies. I would even take one in this case, though I know it won't happen.

 

[Feralcentaur]

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So, you punch your enemies into submission. Nice.

Well, the funny thing about that is I don't know how to properly punch so in fights I have to use the sides of my arm, the backs and palms of my hands, checks/tackles and quite literally, "using my head" by head butting with the side of my head.
And this doesn't exactly mean I'm a bad ass as so far my success in physical conflicts has mostly been draws because of relentlessness and someone eventually coming to break up the fight with my opponent usually never bothering me after that after realizing that I am capable of responding to intentional physical aggravation and provocation quite violently.
I'm pretty sure that by now at least a Quarter of my Male peers have had a physical conflict with me once and about a fifth of my Male friends...
And that's why I never got my Lunch money stolen.

 

[Tilted_Logic]

It depends what has happened between us... Most times when there's a conflict of interests between myself and someone I know I end up trying to make peace.

Case in point, someone I absolutely could not stand became a backseat driver; having no faith in my abilities to follow through with certain tasks and demanding I did them, even when I pointed out repeatedly I had done them/could handle it myself (he did that with everyone). There had been bad blood between us for a while at that point and I was sick of dragging it on so eventually I talked it out with him and we had a civil conversation where we both got a lot off our chests. It made things a lot easier between us, but being that was his personality I eventually got sick of him and got some sweet but very minor revenge.

But yeah... revenge is definitely what comes to mind first when I'm pissed, but when I cool off I generally try to make amends... Problems usually stem from a difference of opinions, and keeping an open mind thus far has made my life so much easier.

 

[Rayne870]

The topic is pretty simple. When faced with someone who has wronged you, what are you more likely to seek out: an apology or some sort of revenge?

To add more to that, feel free to mention examples/moments where your views or choice in this decision would vary depending upon the circumstances. Do you always accept apologies? Or do you require some form of restitution for wrongs committed against you? What are your experiences with moments where you have been unsure which of these two paths you wanted to take in order to deal with a given situation?

Have fun!
- Rei

I used to be a very vengeful person, once I got of highschool that died down quite a bit, though I get my odd fill of it every now and then.

 

[iblis666]

revenge, an apology just seems insincere and doesnt make me feel better

 

[RADlTZ]

Id usually go with an apology although depending on what was done I might get even before I accept it, failing that, all out revenge involving devious plans, waxed moustaches, top hats, monacles and Derigible Blimps.

 

[Yureina]

Id usually go with an apology although depending on what was done I might get even before I accept it, failing that, all out revenge involving devious plans, waxed moustaches, top hats, monacles and Derigible Blimps.

So revenge is best done in a 19th century setting? XD

 

[No One Jones]

Revenge generally. Whether it takes the form of deliberate action or future contempt for that individual until they specifically redeem themselves. Forgiveness is weak and invites more transgressions. Forgiveness is a handout, redemption is an action.

 

[Yureina]

Revenge generally. Whether it takes the form of deliberate action or future contempt for that individual until they specifically redeem themselves. Forgiveness is weak and invites more transgressions. Forgiveness is a handout, redemption is an action.

And does retribution not also invite more transgressions at times?

 

[inFAMOUSCowZ]

I almost always go for revenge, I'm just that kind of guy.

 

[thylasos]

I tend just to leave it, to be honest. Or seek some sort of reconciliation, but I don't force people to apologise to me.

I've never taken revenge on anyone as far as I'm aware.

Even when my girfriend of the time cheated on me (in the same flat, two rooms down the hall), I just avoided her. I left early in the morning and stayed with friends for a few days. Possibly I'd made her feel slightly guilty, but that wasn't the intention of the episode.

Revenge is a bloody stupid method of conflict resolution.

The Gaza Strip is that lesson writ large. Or World War Two, following the prescriptions of the Treaty of Versailles.

 

[WorldCritic]

Depends on what they did to me. If they said something dickish to me, then I would seek an apology. If they threw a rock at my head, I would seek revenge. Though knowing me, since I'm a bit of a pacifist it would be difficult to get revenge on someone unless I improvise.

 

[Vern5]

An apology will do it for me. That and/or a cash settlement.

 

[No One Jones]

Revenge generally. Whether it takes the form of deliberate action or future contempt for that individual until they specifically redeem themselves. Forgiveness is weak and invites more transgressions. Forgiveness is a handout, redemption is an action.

And does retribution not also invite more transgressions at times?

Depends on how final the retribution. In my time in the US Navy I found that dead pirates have a hard time getting revenge. Which isn't to say one should kill all transgressors. In the world of friendships and relationships some spoken or even unspoken agreement for redemption can be achieved.