Annoying stereotypes about my sexuality.

[LogicArmour]

Dear Everybody (especially females),

Sex in the City and other similar, shitty TV show are not an accurate portrayal of how the average LGBT man acts. Just because I appreciate dick doesn't mean my tastes or behaviour will be any less masculine than a straight guy. Please get this through your skulls, it's starting to get on my tits.

On a related note (this time for everyone), Pansexuality is not bisexuality. Stop saying it is. When it gets to the point where I lie about my sexuality for the sake of simplicity, something has gone very wrong.

For those unaware as to what pansexuality is here's a wikipedia article.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality

The more you know people,
David (Pansexual)

P.s. I'm actually in quite a good mood at the moment, just thought I'd give a PSA

So, ranting aside, does anyone else have this problem?

 

[Dimitriov]

I don't know, I've always thought it sounds like bisexuality with delusions of grandeur, reading the wiki did nothing to change that. But hey, whatever you want to call it is fine by me.

 

[Valagetti]

Love it at the end of the link, about Dragon Age.
A surprising amount of people are pansexual though.

 

[fif1189]

I have two very close friends who are a gay couple and they break every stereotype in the book! Actually, I once asked one of them why some gay men are always so flamboyant (Queens, I believe they're called). His response, "Hell if I know, I'm gay and they piss me off." Win right there.

That said, they are both very "manly" so I've found LGBT stereotypes to be really dumb in most cases, though I see where they come from.

 

[iLikeHippos]

But, I always thought when someone was 'Pansexual' they referred to their sexual attraction against the fictional character Peter Pan! *Mind Blown! Booosh*

But seriously, some people are just nuggets. Keep calm and learn to live by them with great patience.

 

[OriginalLadders]

I always try to be as open-minded and considerate of new ideas as possible, and whilst I can appreciate that not everyone who is male and likes a bit of penis will be a "flaming queen" (as amazing as that may seem to some people), I have to agree with Dimitriov; I just can't see how pansexuality is fundamentally any different from bisexuality.

 

[LogicArmour]

I appreciate you giving me the link thus learning about a new sexuality apart from the 4 main ones (heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, and lesbian ...if lesbian counts.) but I must advise that your post comes off very hostile toward the readers.

Not mad or troubled, but it made me feel guilty without a 2nd thought. Perhaps it's just me but being called names for assuming something when not informed correctly gives off a bad impression. Anyhow, I still admire you teaching me about a new concept so thank you for that really, no sarcasm.

Thanks for your honesty man, it is a bit much I admit. It's just really offensive. It's like telling a Bisexual that they're gay. I'm glad could help you learn something though. I'll make the second paragraph a bit less aggressive.

I have two very close friends who are a gay couple and they break every stereotype in the book! Actually, I once asked one of them why some gay men are always so flamboyant (Queens, I believe they're called). His response, "Hell if I know, I'm gay and they piss me off." Win right there.

That said, they are both very "manly" so I've found LGBT stereotypes to be really dumb in most cases, though I see where they come from.

I've met those types too and they never fail to annoy me. But each to their own, if that's how they are I can't blame them. I blame society and media in general for stereotyping.

 

[Sir Thomas Sean Connery]

Capt. Jack Harkness is identified on the Wiki page.

All pansexual people are now approved. (except by spell-check. Huh.)

Though I'm starting to think [i/][b/]I[/b][/i] might be in that category as well...

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

Dear Everybody (especially females),

Sex in the City and other similar, shitty TV show are not an accurate portrayal of how the average LGBT man acts. Just because I appreciate dick does mean my tastes or behaviour will be any less masculine than a straight guy. Please get this through your skulls, it's starting to get on my tits.

On a related note (this time for everyone), Pansexuality is not bisexuality. Stop saying it is. When it gets to the point where I lie about my sexuality for the sake of simplicity, something has gone very wrong.

For those unaware as to what pansexuality is here's a wikipedia article.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality

The more you know people,
David (Pansexual)

P.s. I'm actually in quite a good mood at the moment, just thought I'd give a PSA

So, ranting aside, does anyone else have this problem?

If the wiki definition is correct, that I don't think pansexuality really exist, except with possibly blind people. How can a person not consider appearance at all and ONLY be attracted to personality? It doesn't seem humanly possible for someone with functioning eyes. I can understand if looks are not the main thing that attracts you to a person, but to say it isn't a factor at all seems like being naive at best.

 

[LogicArmour]

I don't know, I've always thought it sounds like bisexuality with delusions of grandeur, reading the wiki did nothing to change that. But hey, whatever you want to call it is fine by me.

I always try to be as open-minded and considerate of new ideas as possible, and whilst I can appreciate that not everyone who is male and likes a bit of penis will be a "flaming queen" (as amazing as that may seem to some people), I have to agree with Dimitriov; I just can't see how pansexuality is fundamentally any different from bisexuality.

Here's the difference in a nutshell (at least how applies to me). Bisexual = attracted to men and women. Pansexual = no specific attraction. Believe it or not there are many people who do not consider themselves male or female.

I'm gay and I'm offended by people being offended by stereotypes. If people want to assume I float around singing showtunes and pondering fashion that's their right. They're idiots for making that assumption anyway, so who cares?

Oh and I say "******" a lot too.

I don't say ****** myself, but I have many friends who do. They don't mean any harm by it and I don't mind to much. It's always amusing when some new says it, then looks at me in horror and tries desperately to apologize.

 

[enzilewulf]

I don't really get the differentiation between bisexual and pansexual but okay. This is my first time hearing about it... what are the stereotypes? Hey what ever floats your boat man.

 

[Cavan]

I don't really get the differentiation between bisexual and pansexual but okay. This is my first time hearing about it... what are the stereotypes? Hey what ever floats your boat man.

From my somewhat limited understanding bisexuality is more "I am attracted to men 'and' women" and pansexuality is "I am attracted to men and women and everything in-between or anybody who is both, because they're all the same to me"

Although it seems like a largely redundant way of referring to yourself because you could identify as bisexual and mean almost exactly the same thing, if somebody said "I am bisexual" I wouldn't automatically assume they are not attracted to anybody who doesn't fit conventional gender roles, because those people almost always identify as one specific gender, even if they change their mind based on days of the week it's so very rare for somebody to say "I refuse to be seen as either in any way".

But if somebody tried to correct somebody else who thought they were bisexual when in fact they are pansexual I would probably decide that they're trying too hard to draw attention to it.

As far as stereotypes go, they are almost non existant because it's not a common knowledge sort of thing and it fits easily enough into bisexuality. So this thread feels more like "well it's much easier to get offended when they are representing something that I am part of because every other representation of things I am not part of don't count" syndrome that people on the internet have.

 

[OriginalLadders]

Here's the difference in a nutshell (at least how applies to me). Bisexual = attracted to men and women. Pansexual = no specific attraction. Believe it or not there are many people who do not consider themselves male or female.

It seems to me, that just applies to romantic attraction rather than sexual attraction.

I've always understood sexuality to refer to sexual attraction alone, what makes you want to have sex with someone based only on appearance.

 

[enzilewulf]

I don't really get the differentiation between bisexual and pansexual but okay. This is my first time hearing about it... what are the stereotypes? Hey what ever floats your boat man.

From my somewhat limited understanding bisexuality is more "I am attracted to men 'and' women" and pansexuality is "I am attracted to men and women and everything in-between or anybody who is both, because they're all the same to me"

Although it seems like a largely redundant way of referring to yourself because you could identify as bisexual and mean almost exactly the same thing, if somebody said "I am bisexual" I wouldn't automatically assume they are not attracted to anybody who doesn't fit conventional gender roles.

But if somebody tried to correct somebody else who thought they were bisexual when in fact they are pansexual I would probably decide that they're trying too hard.

As far as stereotypes go, they are almost non existant because it's not a common knowledge sort of thing and it fits easily enough into bisexuality. So this thread feels more like "well it's much easier to get offended when they are representing something that I am part of because every other representation of things I am not part of don't count" syndrome that people on the internet have.

Well at least with Pansexual you could confuse some bigot religious people and save your self from some of the hate that gets spewed their way.

 

[SillyBear]

Pansexuality seems to be the pretentious man's bisexuality.

Just sayin'.

 

[schiz0phren1c]

Pansexuality?
ffs.
I've always been a bit of a "potsexual" myself but my buddy is a "kettlesexual"
that is the biggest load of self indulgent twaddle I've ever read,
if you were trying to say "I'm gay/bi sexual but I'm still a bloke" you failed miserably mate.

 

[Cavan]

Well at least with Pansexual you could confuse some bigot religious people and save your self from some of the hate that gets spewed their way.

That's an..unusual way of thinking about the advantages to certain sexuality.

 

[Mr Thin]

So, to put it simply (and slightly offensively), being pansexual means being willing to bone absolutely anyone as long as you like them as people.

How can you be offended when someone calls you bisexual then? Pansexuals sleep with everyone bisexuals do, plus everyone else.

It'd be like me getting offended if someone called me a blondesexual, because they thought I was only physically attracted to blonde-haired people. They're wrong, and it's a bit stupid, but I'm not about to get offended by it; after all, it's not like I'm not attracted to blonde people, just not exclusively.