Annoying stereotypes about my sexuality.

[Arafiro]

So bisexuals like both men and women...
And pansexuals like men, women, and....?
Sure, I know there are lots of gender confused people out there, but that doesn't make them neither a man nor woman. Just sayin'.

I'd have to agree with this post.

Your chromosomes define your sex, there's no such thing as a transsexual chromosome arrangement.
Given that, pansexual is an obsolete term as there are only two sexes anyway (which the term bisexual has covered).

 

[Vegosiux]

Your chromosomes define your sex, there's no such thing as a transexual chromosome arrangement.

XXY? XO?

 

[Arafiro]

Your chromosomes define your sex, there's no such thing as a transsexual chromosome arrangement.

XXY? XO?

To my knowledge, XXY is still male and XO is female.

 

[darkdraconus]

I don't think that there are any stereotypes for Asexuality.
People do keep thinking that I'm a homosexual because I have a lisp and can't pronounce the letter R properly. I guess that would be a stereotype that annoys me.

 

[Vegosiux]

To my knowledge, XXY is still male and XO is female.

Well, if you only look at what they have between their legs, then yes.

 

[Connor Lonske]

Pansexuality = Bisexuality in my books especially after dating someone who was for a long time.

Would a bisexual date a woman(gender and appearance speaking) who has a penis, or vice-versa?

No, because a bisexual is not attracted to the grey zone between male and female, he or she is attracted only to males and females, by both gender and sex being the same.

Saying that a bisexual person would date a transgender/genderqueer person would sound highly misinformed. It's like saying that asexual person would have sex with someone of the same gender as them because their attracted to themselves. It's really sad. But who does have attraction to people between genders?

That's where pansexuals come in. They can know of these people and don't care about their differences and accept them sexually as of anyone not with normal genders, maybe even are more attracted to such people in some cases.

 

[darkdraconus]

Given that, pansexual is an obsolete term as there are only two sexes anyway (which the term bisexual has covered).

If you mean sexualities rather than sexes, then there's five: Heterosexual, Bisexual, Homosexual, Asexual, and Pansexual. Pansexual is different from Bisexual because, unless I'm mistaken, the attraction is towards some one's personality rather than towards physique.

 

[lord.jeff]

I'm only difference I'm seeing between bi and pan is the reason that your attracted to both genders, it seems like instead of calling someone who likes both gents and ladies as long as they have long hair a pilosexual instead of bi because it's not the unit between the legs that attracts them, it's a really pointless title.

 

[BlindedHunter]

I am glad for the existence of this thread.
I absolutely hate the amount of stereotypes relating to something that is very personally important to people.

Did you know that there are guys who talk in a high pitch that are straight? Did you know that there are gay men that you can't just pick out based on who you think looks like a girl? Did you know that not all lesbians dress like lumberjacks?
You should.

About the pansexual issue, I can definitely see how it is being related to bisexual, because it is fairly similar, aside from it explicitly rejecting the gender binary notion - but a lot of people that call themselves bisexual likely reject that anyway because it is silly. Personally, I first considered self-identifying as pansexual because I was told it would best describe me, but now the main reason I do is because it gives people pause and allows me a chance to fully explain how it works for me. I like nuances. So I use pansexual a little inaccurately, perhaps, but I see it as basically: "I'm not so much attracted based on sex, but on other criteria likely relating mainly to gender and sexuality that cross between the sexes."

I can see how it is being called pretentious, but that is stupid - it's more about getting an opportunity to explain yourself, being nuanced, and generally not allowing people to fall into the rut of just aligning everything to stereotypes.

Also, to those people who complain about people shoving these things in your faces: I really wish people who are tired of seeing people discuss sexuality (an interesting and important topic, mind you) shoving their dislike in everyone's faces. I mean come on.

 

[DRes82]

I, personally, couldn't care less about anyone's sexual preferences. Although, I didn't know that 'pansexual' was a thing. Kinda puts the image in my head of someone who is attracted to a little satyr with a green hat and a pipe flute.

Joking aside, thanks for the lesson. I come away from the forums today knowing something that I didn't before. =P

 

[GigaHz]

As someone who refuses to believe that Bisexuality actually exists (having dated a handful of supposed Bisexuals), I find it even harder to accept Pansexuality.

I believe that there is an open-mindness to experiment with the same or opposite gender, but that there is a clear and obvious bias towards one gender. That gender is closer to the persons latent sexuality, be it gay or heterosexual.

For example, one of the Bisexuals I became intimate with claimed that she liked men and women equally. But tbh, the sex did not feel natural. It felt as if she was confused and never quite conformed to the stereotypical female role. Despite her confession that I was able to satisfy her, she had me convinced that she preferred women. I'm surprised I made it as far as the bedroom with someone like her.

I have more examples to opposite scenarios for obvious reasons. Their arguments seem to be a variation of 'girls are fun to play around with, but after a while, you miss what it feels like to be with a man". It seems to me that girls of this type would hook up with other girls just as a sexual outlet for the time being while they look for what they really desire, a man. Once they are with a man, they don't care anymore about hooking up with girls... unless they wouldn't mind sharing their guy with someone else. I wonder if there would be as many 'bisexual women' as there are now if it weren't almost socially acceptable.

The bottom line is, I've yet to meet someone who is truly bisexual at least when it comes to girls. Men are a whole other story. Even the homosexual community is of the general belief that a bisexual man is simply a gay man that is too afraid to come out of the closet. Then again, I haven't met a single bisexual man in my life. At least in person.

Good luck trying to convince me that Pansexuality is more than just the occasional experimentation with transgendered people. I'd still lump that under homosexuality, as I believe those who seek out these types are more interested in the persons original gender rather than their new one. Otherwise, they'd look for naturally born men or women.

 

[CulixCupric]

eh, i don't mean to be rude, but I don't care about stereotypes. I, and this will sound stupid and cliche, have friends of all genders and orientations, and I can't find one who fits any stereotype. One of my best friends is gay, but he moved away. I think that homosexual marriage should have been legal 10 years ago, and should be now, but people are too worried that someones going to be offended. I don't mean to be rude, but the political bigotry is pissin' me off.

 

[jawakiller]

Pansexual: A Bisexual in denial.
Sorry to rain on your parade. Experience has also taught me that, while gay people are no different fro- wait, actually they are. Going to a college full of these people, I know several. None of them are really masculine and all of them act rather androgynous. I don't know you, I don't know the gays in Sex in the City (may Zeus strike down the writers). All I know is that the gays I know are different from me. End of story.

And if you posted this thread looking for some kind of praise, you'll have to keep looking. I'm not going to pat you on the back just for saying you're gay.

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Wait a minute, you just proved me right. Who else would reference Sex and the City? Most dudes I know would contemplate suicide before watching an episode. Except the gay ones, that is.

You confirmed my statement. Women and feminine males watch that horrible show. You referenced it as if everyone knows what you're talking about. Which means you watch it. You said you're gay.

Point: proven.

 

[Konrad Ellinger]

The idea of pansexuality relies entirely on your belief in more than two genders, which I personally do not believe.

The thing is whether you're going to try to shove it down my throat or not, I don't demand that give me some kind of special consideration on what you call me or my sexuality and neither should you, especially if there is no way of knowing whether you prefer the multitude of different labels created in the last few years.

I have no problem with anybody's sexuality I just rather not be called out for not also adhering to the same vernacular when he, she, bisexual, heterosexual, and homosexual are already enough.

 

[Phasmal]

The idea of pansexuality relies entirely on your belief in more than two genders, which I personally do not believe.

What about XXY people? What about intersex people? What about people who are born with all the female `bits`, but are genetically male?

 

[z121231211]

Whenever I think of people talking about sexuality I think of bros looking at pictures of women asking each other "would you fuck her?" in the middle of a shopping mall and then telling everyone else about it like there's nothing wrong with that.

What I'm trying to say is: Why should I care or even have to know what you consider attractive? There should never be a situation where you have to say "I'm a Homo/bi/pan-sexual" so why should I have to know exactly what those mean? It's not like we all have to know what BDSM stands for.

 

[Dott]

Sounds like a fancy word for bisexuality.

 

[Joshimodo]

I have to agree with Dimitriov; I just can't see how pansexuality is fundamentally any different from bisexuality.

Agreed.


To me, "pansexual" just sounds like a cry for attention, another label for people to stick to themselves to seem "different".

Face facts, regardless of sexuality, sex changes or biological gender mixes, there are only two genders. Hence, bisexual.



On top of that, nobody cares. It's the 21st Century.

 

[thevillageidiot13]

I fully concur with the OP. I find that homosexuality is inaccurately portrayed in the media as something that is ultra-feminine, and I think a lot of homosexuals seem to embrace that stereotype more than they should.

It's really quite refreshing to see somebody within the LGBT community stand up and remind me that the media is full of shit, that "the stereotype" isn't actually accurate at all, and that (with the obvious exception of their sexual preferences), LGBT individuals don't really behave any differently than their heterosexual counterparts.

It's hard not to read posts like this as "different is bad," and that's not much different from homophobia.

Sorry, say again? I wasn't implying that "different is bad." I was simply agreeing with the OP -- the mainstream media fails to accurately represent/portray the LGBT community. They're too-frequently depicted as ultra-flamboyant individuals who have absolutely no interest in anything "manly" (i.e.: contact sports and video-games), which isn't (in reality) the case at all.

I have absolutely no idea how you got the impression that my post meant "different is bad," because I just re-read it about 5 times, and nowhere in my text or sub-text did I say anything remotely close to that.