Any Trans Escapists?

[Verp]

Any transsexuals here? Or transgenders? Do you happen to at least know a person who's trans? I figured that since the community at The Escapist is so lively, there might be some. If there aren't any, I guess this thread could double as an "Ask a transgender anything" thread, I dunno.

Anyway, I'm transgender. I'm neutrois, which means my gender identity is that belonging to neither man or woman and that I wish to lose the physical traits of my biological sex. I'm not sure if it's going to be a possibility for me in my country, but one can only hope.

Last summer, I had the honour of meeting another transgendered person IRL for the first time and talking about gender issues with them. It was just... awesome. I've also met some transsexuals and they've been very inspiring people to me.

 

[Doitpow]

Oooh cool and interesting!

What title(um...pronoun...thing) do you go by? Do you think it matters?
Do you feel that a neutral gender role has impacted you in a professional sense?
What age did you identify as neutrois?
Shit...where do you live? How accepting of your gender is your community?


I'm interested...but unfortunately the only transgendered people I've met were at university and utterly obnoxious (not related to their gender, I just disliked most people from my university).

 

[Doitpow]

...damn I want to ask you guys so many questions but I don't think that's appropriate...

And now I feel like I've been inappropriate...dammit.

 

[Verp]

Oooh cool and interesting!

What title(um...pronoun...thing) do you go by? Do you think it matters?
Do you feel that a neutral gender role has impacted you in a professional sense?
What age did you identify as neutrois?
Shit...where do you live? How accepting of your gender is your community?


I'm interested...but unfortunately the only transgendered people I've met were at university and utterly obnoxious (not related to their gender, I just disliked most people from my university).

My native language is one without gendered pronouns, thankfully, so I don't think about that much. In English, pronouns don't really matter to me so I don't mind the usage of he or she. I wouldn't even mind being called an 'it', but I wouldn't recommend assuming that other transgendered people are okay with it...

In professional sense, there hasn't been much of an impact. I came out to my fellow students and the staff members of my university and people have been very understanding about it. My future profession is mostly youth work oriented and youth workers tend to already be of the quirky kind here, so I think I'll blend right in.

About age... I realised my transgenderness rather recently. As in, only a couple of years ago. The signs have always been there, but because I've always been frustrated about gender issues, I've tried not to think about them and pretend they don't exist. The realisation that I'm transgender cleared a lot of things for me.

I live in southern Finland. I'm still trying to get my family to understand what I am exactly, but they're doing their best, so I'm doing this in baby steps. It helps that my father's side is riddled with people who are very down to earth, and with that I mean that they lean towards the kind of shamanistic hippy people who don't seem to be phased by stuff like this at all.

 

[Swifteye]

This is a rather unusual thread. I don't know any tran, Bi, or flaming, les, asexual or any variation. I'm surprised there are so many terms that aren't even logged in a common survey just what are happening to people's genders and sexual orientations these days?

 

[Verp]

Any transsexuals here? Or transgenders? Do you happen to at least know a person who's trans? I figured that since the community at The Escapist is so lively, there might be some. If there aren't any, I guess this thread could double as an "Ask a transgender anything" thread, I dunno.

Anyway, I'm transgender. I'm neutrois, which means my gender identity is that belonging to neither man or woman and that I wish to lose the physical traits of my biological sex. I'm not sure if it's going to be a possibility for me in my country, but one can only hope.

Last summer, I had the honour of meeting another transgendered person IRL for the first time and talking about gender issues with them. It was just... awesome. I've also met some transsexuals and they've been very inspiring people to me.

Don't worry, there are MANY quite a few transsexuals on the escapist. Your like the 5th one i've seen

...damn I want to ask you guys so many questions but I don't think that's appropriate...

I actually volunteer as a "Living Book" in an equality project of one kind where I basically sit down answer any and all kinds of questions that people want to ask anonymously. I'm comfortable with even very personal questions and I've already answered plenty of those before, so if you feel like it, hit it. I don't mind.

 

[WorkerMurphey]

I know a trans person who has undergone the surgery to go from female to male and as far as I know is doing well, apart from some medical problems that have come from the operation.

On an academic level I understand some of the theories and attitudes about the (lack of) links between physical sex and gender identity but it's something I have a hard time imagining. I have a lot of respect for people that are going through struggles relating to their bodies not always matching up with how they perceive themselves to be.

For Verp, if you would be willing to share, how/when did you come to your current self identification and how do your friends and family react if/when you share?

 

[ThatLankyBastard]

This is a rather unusual thread. I don't know any tran, Bi, or flaming, les, asexual or any variation. I'm surprised there are so many terms that aren't even logged in a common survey just what are happening to people's genders and sexual orientations these days?

Asexual??? Damn, I was hoping to meet someone like that...

 

[Verp]

This is a rather unusual thread. I don't know any tran, Bi, or flaming, les, asexual or any variation. I'm surprised there are so many terms that aren't even logged in a common survey just what are happening to people's genders and sexual orientations these days?

Well, the Internet's what's happened, I think. With the existence of Internet and other sources of information available, people are able to find out more about other identities and reflect upon their own identity a little better. Not only that, but people who are a scarcity are able to locate each other better and make more name for themselves.

 

[Swifteye]

This is a rather unusual thread. I don't know any tran, Bi, or flaming, les, asexual or any variation. I'm surprised there are so many terms that aren't even logged in a common survey just what are happening to people's genders and sexual orientations these days?

Well, the Internet's what's happened, I think. With the existence of Internet and other sources of information available, people are able to find out more about other identities and reflect upon their own identity a little better. Not only that, but people who are a scarcity are able to locate each other better and make more name for themselves.

Hmm hmm I believe that you are right. I don't have any idea of what goes into the common mind of a transgender or what you plan to be or even those guys who dress up as cher but I've often theorized that it has something to do with how they feel mixed in with how the world expects them to act regardless of feelings and somewhere along the lines things start establish themselves and suddenly straight or gay isn't good enough although honestly I'd like to see a day where those monikers mean nothing other than there orignal term.

 

[Verp]

About age... I realised my transgenderness rather recently. As in, only a couple of years ago. The signs have always been there, but because I've always been frustrated about gender issues, I've tried not to think about them and pretend they don't exist. The realisation that I'm transgender cleared a lot of things for me.

Excuse my intrusion, but if you have no markings of a gender, how did you not realize that?

Is it possible to think you are, like, just a chick but never check for real and then realize your a dude???

I'm sorry, but I have just been thinking about that ALLOT today for some reason, and since you are here, well...

What a coincidence! So I feel I must take this opportunity to ask! But do not answer if it if you do not want too

Well, I was born into the body of a "normal" female. I never thought much about that and I assumed I was a female because not only because I was treated that way, but also because I was certain that I'm not a male either.

Thanks to some rather traumatic experiences with boys my age, this misconception about myself just never really changed. I was bullied heavily when I was a little kid and all of my bullies were boys, so I avoided boys at all costs. I only sort of woke up and though "Hang on, wait a minute" when I started having more male friends and realised that I feel just about equal amounts of closeness and alienation with males than with females.

Also, ever since I was a child sorry, teenager, I had this assumption that every person is born genderless but they're brought up as either male or female depending which body they're born with. So, I didn't think I'm different at all, I thought of myself simply as more "pure" than others. This wasn't true at all, of course.

 

[Verp]

About age... I realised my transgenderness rather recently. As in, only a couple of years ago. The signs have always been there, but because I've always been frustrated about gender issues, I've tried not to think about them and pretend they don't exist. The realisation that I'm transgender cleared a lot of things for me.

Excuse my intrusion, but if you have no markings of a gender, how did you not realize that?

Is it possible to think you are, like, just a chick but never check for real and then realize your a dude???

I'm sorry, but I have just been thinking about that ALLOT today for some reason, and since you are here, well...

What a coincidence! So I feel I must take this opportunity to ask! But do not answer if it if you do not want too

Well, I was born into the body of a "normal" female. I never thought much about that and I assumed I was a female because not only because I was treated that way, but also because I was certain that I'm not a male either.

Thanks to some rather traumatic experiences with boys my age, this misconception about myself just never really changed. I was bullied heavily when I was a little kid and all of my bullies were boys, so I avoided boys at all costs. I only sort of woke up and though "Hang on, wait a minute" when I started having more male friends and realised that I feel just about equal amounts of closeness and alienation with males than with females.

Also, ever since I was a child, I had this assumption that every person is born genderless but they're brought up as either male or female depending which body they're born with. So, I didn't think I'm different at all, I thought of myself simply as more "pure" than others. This wasn't true at all, of course.

ohh... so, wait, that does mean that you DO have genitalia?

I do have genitalia. I just have this ever-present feeling that I shouldn't have them. I have a problem with my breasts, especially -- having them feels sort of like waking up in the morning and realising your nose has been replaced with the trunk of an elephant. They just don't feel like they're part of my body at all. When I was a teenager, I wished I had some sort of illness that would require surgical breast removal but yeah, that would've been rather unpleasant...

 

[Verp]

This is a rather unusual thread. I don't know any tran, Bi, or flaming, les, asexual or any variation. I'm surprised there are so many terms that aren't even logged in a common survey just what are happening to people's genders and sexual orientations these days?

Asexual??? Damn, I was hoping to meet someone like that...

I'm also asexual, incidentally. I realised that part of me far before I even realised I was transgender.

EDIT:

I know a trans person who has undergone the surgery to go from female to male and as far as I know is doing well, apart from some medical problems that have come from the operation.

On an academic level I understand some of the theories and attitudes about the (lack of) links between physical sex and gender identity but it's something I have a hard time imagining. I have a lot of respect for people that are going through struggles relating to their bodies not always matching up with how they perceive themselves to be.

For Verp, if you would be willing to share, how/when did you come to your current self identification and how do your friends and family react if/when you share?

Well, I think I answered the when already, but I basically found my identity thanks to the Internet. I talk with asexual people on the Internet regularly and I became more involved with trans and homosexual issues that way and thus I learned about the existence of neutrois people. I read through a lot of conversations between neutrois people and realised that they resembled my own experiences a bit too much to be a coincidence. After that, I started going through my past experiences and it sort of clicked -- I managed tp pinpoint the origins of my frustration towards gender to this part of my identity.

My closest friends know me so well that this kind of stuff didn't come to them as much of a surprise. My family's reserved and sort of dance around this issue when I'm around, but I think they'll come around.

 

[Wolfenbarg]

Any transsexuals here? Or transgenders? Do you happen to at least know a person who's trans? I figured that since the community at The Escapist is so lively, there might be some. If there aren't any, I guess this thread could double as an "Ask a transgender anything" thread, I dunno.

Anyway, I'm transgender. I'm neutrois, which means my gender identity is that belonging to neither man or woman and that I wish to lose the physical traits of my biological sex. I'm not sure if it's going to be a possibility for me in my country, but one can only hope.

Last summer, I had the honour of meeting another transgendered person IRL for the first time and talking about gender issues with them. It was just... awesome. I've also met some transsexuals and they've been very inspiring people to me.

You are far braver than I for making this thread, no joking about that. I just figured this being the internet and all that unless it was a location specifically for that kind of subject that it was taboo, but then you go and make a thread about it. In honor of your bravery, I will divulge.

Personally, I am a Male to Female transgendered person. I've had issues with my gender... forever, but I didn't act on anything while I was a minor. Now that I'm an adult I'm starting my transition. It's not too difficult thus far since I'm not exactly a picture of masculinity. I live in Colorado. It's not the best place to go for acceptance, but I live in a military city that's relatively large, so this is a breeding ground for people of all different walks of life. Pretty neutral.

I've also never heard the term neutrois before, I now have something to look up!

Anyway, I'm in the bin for asking questions too. So anyone can fire away.

 

[no oneder]

Wow, that is seriously cool. Me myself have never met any trans gendered people, but always have thought of you as a highly interesting bunch. I have some gay friends here I don't know if that counts.

Damn, I had tons of questions but I don't know what happened to them.

 

[TheOtter]

Glad to see this thread hasn't been flamed so far, perhaps there is home in humanity yet...

Anyways, I'm a M2F living in gorgeous Seattle! Yeehaw! Its been really accepting (minus my family) thus far. My job (Sprint) is also very accepting, in the past I've had issues with employers and use of the appropriate restroom but Sprint has been really good about it and basically let me do my own thing. I've been "full time" for sometime now and am quite open about it. I've got nothing to hide, this is me and I'd rather have people ask me "awkward" questions than have them assume. There is nothing more tragic than an ignorant mind, which inevitably leads to misconceptions. I've also worked in politics a bit for transgender rights (which so often gets forgotten in the gay rights world unfortunately).

I also used to work in the community management field for several MMOs before I changed careers and had quite the time managing the hordes of misinformed youngsters. So as said before, I'm open to any questions via topic or PM. My usual rhetoric is people can ask whatever they want but I have the right to say no

EDIT 1: In reply to the "whats your goal" question thing above (even though it wasn't directed at me), I aim to be a normal woman. Not jaw dropping beautiful (though I wouldn't turn it down) but just a normal woman as I was meant to be.