Anybody else still live at home?

[EeveeElectro]

There's nothing shameful about that...
Not everyone can afford their own house or the bills. My mums friend still lives with her mum and she's in her 40s. I think it's more to do with the fact her mum is elderly though.
I moved when I was 18, then moved back home a year or so later due to shitty neighbours until I could get back on my feet. Now I'm only 2 doors away so I go round to my mums pretty much every day so I suppose it's not really moving out.

 

[Berenzen]

Where do you live that $700-800/mo rent is considered low-end/shady? It's not high end, but I live in a not-inexpensive city and I'm splitting a $1000/mo 2-bedroom apartment with a friend (costs us each about $1000/mo each after food and utilities), just off of the main street.

Honestly though, take what you can get. Living in shitty conditions is a huge motivator to get off your ass and get yourself a well enough paying job. You can live off of thirty grand a year easy. And if you can't afford it, find a friend that's willing to split the lease with you.

Anyways, I was able to move out over the summer- I'm 19- because made enough money working my ass off, about 72hrs a week for 17 weeks, for a local energy company for $20/hr + double overtime. I'll probably go back there next summer, because it's good enough money that I can live for the year with it.

 

[Phishfood]

I'm 28, I moved out for 4 years, not counting living in student accomodation at university for 4 years before that. I'm now back with the parents because of a whole lot of rl issues, one of them being this danged recession.

My cousin's best friend was living with him and now that my cousin is getting married he has kicked him out (in a nice, friendly way) but again, because of the recession he is back with his parents and he is 32.

So no, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Its not great for your pride living with your parents, but it sure as hell beats living in a box.

 

[BringBackBuck]

I am 32 and live at home. And by home, I mean my home that I bought 3 years ago and am paying the mortgage on now.

As for living at my parents home, well that sucked so I moved out when I was 18 and lived in a flat while at university, doing any jobs i could to pay the rent. Worked on building sites doing manual labour, worked as a waiter, worked in a box factory, did demolition, worked at the post office. My worst job was for the company that inspected sewer pipes and my job was to stand at an open sewer and drag a 30ft rope with a camera attached through the sewer. Finished my degree, got a good job, worked hard, got a better job, lived off instant noodles and vegemite sandwiches for a while to save a deposit with my wife and bought a shitty little apartment in an area that was not great when I was about 26, sold that when I was about 29 and made a decent gain and now I have a nice house in a nice part of town.

Apologies if that post comes across as condescending, not trying to sound like a douche, and yes I realise that when I left school 10 years before you the world economy was in a happier place - just trying to give you a bit of advice in the "man up, move out, work hard and make some sacrifices and it will all be good" department.

 

[Littaly]

Same position as the OP. 21 and still living at home. I haven't started University yet (I'm reluctant to start taking loans before I'm 100% sure of what I want to do), and I can't seem to get a job, so I've really had no choice :-/

It feels sh*t, I know the expression "fail at life" is pretty worn out, but that's pretty much what it feels like. Hopefully I'll get off my ass and start studying withing a year, that may end up just postponing the problem with a couple of years, but hopefully in that time, I'll find a solution.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Its actually quite normal now days for someone our age to stay at home. The economy is in too much of a destructive state for many people to go out on their own right now. I myself am married and both my Wife and I are staying with her mom. Together we make about 1,600 dollars a month average and its just not enough. So don't feel useless. Believe me when I say a fear of failure is nothing, but a destructive road thats is very difficult to climb your way out of. Instead, use this support to your advantage by taking risks.

 

[Sacman]

Well I'm 18 now but I moved out when I was 17 now I go to college and have to pay for an apartment with 3 other roommates...

and honestly it sucks living on your own... you know actually having to pay rent and utility bills... I wouldn't even have bought any furniture if the place didn't come furnished already... but at least I have a bunch of money saved up so I can put off getting a job for a few months and concentrate on school...<.<

 

[Jingle Fett]

I feel your pain! (I haven't had the best day either)
I just turned 21, I'm going to community college and still live at home. I really want to get out on my own but it's probably not going to happen for a while. But that's ok because I get to save up all my money in the meantime. Living at home means no rent and food is generally taken care of.

It also means you can make best use of the largest advantage of living at home. Time. Now's when you can invest time wherever you want because most of your basic needs are met. So you can do stuff you wouldn't be able to do if you had to get a full-time job.
Me personally, I'm making a videogame with a certain free game engine. Even if it doesn't sell much, having that sitting in the background collecting money would be nice, plus it looks good on the portfolio.

 

[Chainsaws_of_War_2]

Nineteen, gonna be twenty in less than a year and I'm living with my grandmother. I'm working a (Badly paying) job ATM and I honestly have no clue how I'm going to achieve financial independence at this rate. Can't afford college (Parents won't help, can't get scholarships in spite of being relatively smart, can't handle the debt of loans) and I'm not sure if I'll be advancing through the ranks at work anytime soon.

So...yeah. No idea what I'm gonna do with myself. If college ever becomes an option, I'm going to try to study psychology.

Whoa, this is like a mirror image of myself, except it's with my father. I'm in the same boat, and honestly not sure how to get out. Hopefully things will turn around in the summer.

 

[Memoriae]

Moved out when I was 24, to be closer to work, driven on by the fact that the engine on my bike almost exploded.

Up until then, I paid rent to my mum, helped out around the house, and paid my share of the bills.

Oh, and did all the tech support for her (both at home, and at work... Yes the IT guys at the oil company she worked for were that useless), and my family.

Now?

27, and living about 100 miles away from them, paying rent, saving for a deposit, and covering my fiancée's student loan. Between the pair of us, we're on about £2500/month, which covers just about everything. But it was a massive ballache getting to that stage.


Never be ashamed that you're under 30 and living with your parents. Just don't be some kind of sponge that expects everything to be done for them, like they used to. Help out, offer to pay some rent, or some of the bills. Yeah, it'll reduce the amount that you can spend, but it'll ease you in to what to expect when you do move out.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I'm 29 and I live in my mums house. I lived with my ex for 5 years but we broke up now I'm just trying to sort of reboot.

I will move out again eventually it's just not financially viable atm.

It's a nice area and everything so it would be kind of silly to land myself in a crappy bedsit just so I can be on my own.

I like to think I'm being practical rather than sad

 

[JackWestJr]

I'm just gonna go ahead and say I am 15, and hope not to get figuratively curb-stomped by you guys. I'm not sure what road I will take in life, and not sure what to do about that. On one hand, I obviously have a passion for games. On the other, I am not the most creative person and would not consider a creative position in the market of game design. Also, considering the condition of the business in Australia, I don't think that would be a wise choice anyway.

OP: Sorry, got a bit off topic, yes I do still live at home haha.

 

[bjj hero]

MAy I suggest the military? Andy McNab had a criminal record and could barely read when he entered the army, he got an education (and joined the SAS) and is now a published author. Of course thats not the usual career path.

In all seriousness it will get you out of the house which seems to be depressing you, you will earn and you could learn a profession, the army/navy/airforce keep their own plumbers, policemen, truck drivers, IT guys, chefs, fire fighters, admin, fitness trainers so there are lots of careers to learn there other than "soldier". Id advise something with a civilian alternative for the future.

If you feel like youre at a dead end its worththinking about.

Having said that there is no shame in being at home in your 20s. Lots of people are doing it now as property is so expensive.

 

[Nightfall87]

24 and still living with mine mother. Well to be precise she lives with me. Since both flat and house we own are registered on mine name.

Neither of us wants to move to house on village (it's just way to big place and yard for one person), and we both consider it quite stupid to give money for third place while we already own large flat and huge house.

Although in Serbia it's quite normal for entire families to stay and live together. Not just parents, but grandparents also. Sometimes even more. For example, one of mine mates recently got married. And he brought his wife to the house where he lives with his parents, grandparents, brother, brothers wife, and brothers kids. They built large house, and technically everyone got their own smaller flat in that house.

 

[Aeonknight]

So I'm 21 going on 22 and I still live at home with my mom and her husband which I find quite embarrassing and, well, a bit shameful. Pitiful. Pathetic. When I was growing up, I honestly thought I'd have my own home right now. Like a real house, not an apartment. I was a pretty stupid kid.

I think I made some bad decisions. After graduating highschool I quite my part-time job and went to a local community college for a bit. After a few semesters I got another job which I worked for almost a year before being fired because I had the audacity to get in a work-related accident (sprained my arm, then later pulled a muscle in my chest). I tried to save money during that period but in retrospect I really wasn't making that much everything I made went to either paying my ridiculously high car insurance bill, buying my own food and gas, and paying medical bills and such.

I'm trying to find my way out now. Tried to get into a real college but my grades weren't good enough so I have to crawl back to the community college. Trying to get another a second job but the market sucks right now. My sister told me about some places in the city that are like $700-800 a month but I'd have to put a bunch of locks on my doors and nail my windows shut. I'm hoping I'll be out within the next year or so. Hope. Heck, I'm seriously considering living out of my car. It's a Honda Element so there's enough room in the back for a small blow-up mattress.

So are there any other 20somethings out there still living at home? How are you working on getting out?

And if there are any people my age or younger who somehow got their own place, tell us how you managed that.

PS. Sorry for the excessively whiny post above. It hasn't been a good day. That has a lot to fo with the actual date of today then what happened, understand?

A bit of friendly advice:

college is not the magical answer to your financial problems. You have people with Ph.D's competing for entry level customer service jobs. Yes, it is that bad out there right now.

The answer is networking. If you know someone who knows someone who can get you a job doing whatever that pays good and has room for advancement, TAKE IT.

 

[Duruznik]

I'm 18 and still living at home, but considering I'm about to be drafted to the military, it's kinda expected. Almost everybody in Israel stays with their folks until they're done with mandatory service at the age of 21.

 

[Appleshampoo]

I moved out about 4 months ago into my own place with my girlfriend.

I'm 25.

Living with your parents can have its downsides but it's far cheaper than living on your own! I'm currently so poor I live off newspaper, and a treat for me is being able to afford ketchup to help wash the taste of ink and sorrow down.

 

[Sandernista]

Yup! 17, will be eighteen in two week, broke college student with no job.

 

[00slash00]

ill be 26 in april and i still live with my mother. i graduated from college last may and have no been able to find steady payment. until im in a place where i can afford to be paying rent every month, im stuck at home. it really sucks