LOL I could barely pass my classes, my parents and I aren't on speaking terms, I never went to college, I don't have a girlfriend, and I work as a janitor for minimum wage, what were you complaining about again?
Anyone else feel like this?
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There might be irony here, involving the issue my girlfriend and I had. If there is, I'll let other people point it out.genericusername64 said:
I'm complaining about feeling like I don't deserve my successes. In short, I feel like I should have a life like you had/have... But I don't.
Lol, yeah, I know how that goes! I'm not saying that all that isn't often irritating -- it is -- but at least keep "depression" on the table if you don't start feeling better in a few weeks. Teenagers getting diagnosed as depressed is trendy, but it's also largely true; even though I feel somewhat unoriginal taking meds I'd be a hot mess without them.TheAceTheOne said:Been to so many psych doctors, been diagnosed with so many things. I think the latest diagnosis was ADHD. Last year's trend was depression.Evidencebased said:Well if this uncharacteristic depression lasts more than 2 weeks, hie thee to a therapist and get checked out because that's a sign of possible clinical depression. If it's your brain chemicals screwing with you for the lolz then stuff like getting a hobby might not help, and proper medical care -- or at least a little counseling -- might be called for (source: my own jerkass brain chemicals.)TheAceTheOne said:
But if you're just going through the normal teenage ups-and-downs (effing hormones!) then I suggest accepting that those happen, and not worrying about it too much; you can exercise and eat right, and work hard at school, and take time to play games, and basically just wait it out a bit until you feel better.
Why yes I did feel that why, but I knew something was wrong, because you see I have a history of depression, and so does my family.
Now you describe having insomnia, which you self medicated yourself for, and you aren't taking care of yourself.
I recommend you go see a doctor.
Just always remember to tell the voices to fuck off and get back in your cereal.
1)Somewhere down the line have a mental condition became either trendy, or a reason for someone to act like a complete piece of shit
2)We as a human race are becoming less and less physical. It is a well documented fact that physical activity helps keeps the sads away.
3)Each year that passes just seems to get worse and worse as a whole, and because of the connectivity that we have created with ourselves news travels around the globe in a matter of seconds to every outlet. We are constantly being bombarded with negativity 24/7/365.
Just my thoughts.
Now you describe having insomnia, which you self medicated yourself for, and you aren't taking care of yourself.
I recommend you go see a doctor.
Just always remember to tell the voices to fuck off and get back in your cereal.
This is the part where I input my thought process on why more and more teenagers are getting diagnosed with depression.Evidencebased said:
1)Somewhere down the line have a mental condition became either trendy, or a reason for someone to act like a complete piece of shit
2)We as a human race are becoming less and less physical. It is a well documented fact that physical activity helps keeps the sads away.
3)Each year that passes just seems to get worse and worse as a whole, and because of the connectivity that we have created with ourselves news travels around the globe in a matter of seconds to every outlet. We are constantly being bombarded with negativity 24/7/365.
Just my thoughts.
Do you not get what I'm trying to say? You have a wonderful life, and how about instead of whining about it you apologize to your girlfriend.TheAceTheOne said:
Edit: @6unn3r Win post is win
I'm sorry I'm still stuck on the how your girlfriend can take that to mean fuck off and die......that boggles my mind and I know some very religious people and they don't take a phrase like that as meaning that.
otherwise look at it this way you have a girlfriend who feels you are deserving enough of her time. You presumably have friends who feel you are deserving of your time. You have good grades. Don't worry too much about everything else. Be grateful that you have the life you have. I'm still trying to fix mine after fucking it up so terribly.....
otherwise look at it this way you have a girlfriend who feels you are deserving enough of her time. You presumably have friends who feel you are deserving of your time. You have good grades. Don't worry too much about everything else. Be grateful that you have the life you have. I'm still trying to fix mine after fucking it up so terribly.....
Go find a razor, shave your face, go round to girlfriends house, say "i love you and im sorry", rock her world (optional), go down to driving licence place and complain to the manager not some desk jockey who will fob you off, lastly;
MAN THE FUCK UP!!!!!
Life is hard and it gets no better the older you get. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, put on some happy music and dress up smart in a suit or somthing to make you look and feel AWESOME.
This applies to everyone.
Do it.
MAN THE FUCK UP!!!!!
Life is hard and it gets no better the older you get. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, put on some happy music and dress up smart in a suit or somthing to make you look and feel AWESOME.
This applies to everyone.
Do it.
That's probably it... If I read it right, she's got a lot on her mind as well, and is probably being rather irritable. But seeing as how you guys patched it up, she felt bad about the fight as well. Why do I get the feeling you've got someone there who is more similar to you than you realise? Still, that aside, you've been together for a very long time (hell, I've got eight years on you, and my longest relationship was six years, and for someone of my age, that's a very long relationship), so that you guys didn't randomly break up as a result of that argument is indicative of being made of rather stern stuff.TheAceTheOne said:
So no, you're not being a jerk, and I think the two of you are at the stage that you'll really know when you are being the jerk of the couple. Having said that, she has done something quite big for you, as you said, she motivated you when you needed it and look at yourself now. If she is indeed struggling with her own stuff, helping her along (even if it is moral support, because that never goes amiss from your partner) will help her help you... if you get what I mean.
Yeah... I did. Three times.genericusername64 said:
I even wrote a song for her. I'm going to videotape me and my band performing in halloween if we get together, since we're already planning something, and send it to her...
Okay, April and everyone who has responded, let me take time to say... Thank you.aprilmarie said:I'm sorry I'm still stuck on the how your girlfriend can take that to mean fuck off and die......that boggles my mind and I know some very religious people and they don't take a phrase like that as meaning that.
otherwise look at it this way you have a girlfriend who feels you are deserving enough of her time. You presumably have friends who feel you are deserving of your time. You have good grades. Don't worry too much about everything else. Be grateful that you have the life you have. I'm still trying to fix mine after fucking it up so terribly.....
If you all need any advice, I'll try to help. I appreciate you trying to help.
I still haven't figured this out, and any words I can get will help.
I don't know what to do, I guess.
This is what we call adulthood. The crushing fact that screwing up can go downhill fast and your girlfriend can tolerate your self-destructive behaviour and people give a shit about you. I don't really have people who actually care about me, consider yourself somewhat lucky.
Typical western society's middle class "life isn't going exactly like I want it to I'm depressed now" type of 'problem'. Go to the war infested Middle East, the hunger ridden African territories or just any place of real troubles. You will feel like you've won the fucking lottery every day for the rest of your life afterwards.
Sorry if that came out too harsh but it's not just you. This shit is everywhere. Spoiled brats of all ages watching celebrities living their TV lives to make sure you go out and buy the stuff they put on the market so you can feel closer to the lifestyle that was chosen for you to mimic.
Also, if your gf gets so worked up about a little swearing during a heated moment she's maybe not ready for a serious relationship. Though I'm no marriage counselor.
Sorry if that came out too harsh but it's not just you. This shit is everywhere. Spoiled brats of all ages watching celebrities living their TV lives to make sure you go out and buy the stuff they put on the market so you can feel closer to the lifestyle that was chosen for you to mimic.
Also, if your gf gets so worked up about a little swearing during a heated moment she's maybe not ready for a serious relationship. Though I'm no marriage counselor.
(Emphasis mine)TheAceTheOne said:
I hope I don't offend you or anything, but it sounds a little bit like you might be bi-polar. If you always go from feeling "on top of the world" so to speak, to being really depressed; there's a chance that it might be something you should seek help for. Apologies if I misinterpreted what you were saying. I am just snap judging you over the internet after all. Regardless I can relate to what you're saying. I was just diagnosed with depression and exhibited some of the behaviours/feelings you described. When it was at it's worst I stopped taking care of myself because I found it very hard to care.
Hopefully this was helpful to you in some way. Best of luck to you
Yeah, I used to feel like that when I was a kid, I think most of us probably did. But as I got older and actually started working for things, I felt that kind of dissipate.
If you want to overcome that feeling, there's one easy thing to do. Stop moping around and start working so that you'll feel like you deserve it. It doesn't really even matter what it is you're working at, just put yourself into something, don't look back, and accept the good things as the rewards you reap.
If you want to overcome that feeling, there's one easy thing to do. Stop moping around and start working so that you'll feel like you deserve it. It doesn't really even matter what it is you're working at, just put yourself into something, don't look back, and accept the good things as the rewards you reap.
Yep. That's the short answer. I was having a conversation with someone, and I feel like the line I came up with is germane to this thread: "I have a habit of making my mistakes into nooses rather than twisting the fibers of my pained heart into rope sturdy enough to scale, climb, see and learn something new." The only way you don't deserve what you have is if you believe you don't. Take some time, write a bit, shave, do something that makes you feel good, and try to forget about what you deserve or don't deserve.TheAceTheOne said:
If you focus too much on what you do and don't deserve, you'll miss everything that you have.
Aye. Thanks, mate. It's been a gradual decline lately, culminating with a massive explosion.Chubbadubs said:(Emphasis mine)TheAceTheOne said:
I hope I don't offend you or anything, but it sounds a little bit like you might be bi-polar. If you always go from feeling "on top of the world" so to speak, to being really depressed; there's a chance that it might be something you should seek help for. Apologies if I misinterpreted what you were saying. I am just snap judging you over the internet after all. Regardless I can relate to what you're saying. I was just diagnosed with depression and exhibited some of the behaviours/feelings you described. When it was at it's worst I stopped taking care of myself because I found it very hard to care.
Hopefully this was helpful to you in some way. Best of luck to you
Cliche'd. But true.AquaAscension said:
...Also probably stuff like "improved recognition of and diagnostic criteria for depression" but yeah, sitting on our collective asses and reading about miserable crap all day doesn't do anyone any favors either.robert01 said:
Though I will say that, when I was untreated and depressed, I wasn't unhappy because my life sucked in any way. My life was (and is) quite good. But I was mysteriously feeling crappy anyways, so I was unintentionally looking for reasons to "justify" feeling depressed -- when nothing went badly for me I'd have crying jags over very small problems, or over the problems of complete strangers, or over the fact that I was obviously a selfish asshole who should cry over the fact that I was crying over nothing. Etc. So the fact that the OP says "nothing bad has happened, but I feel terrible" reminds me a lot of how I felt before being properly diagnosed... When your cat dies and you fail classes it's normal to be depressed; when your girlfriend loves you and life is good and that depresses you then maybe it's time to see a professional.
Wanna trade? I'd be glad to have a life like that.
Seriously, seems to me you've got it relatively well off. Perhaps a little soul-searching and perspective-seeking might help you to realize where you're at. I'd also recommend shaving, getting yourself cleaned up, maybe going out with some mates, buy some new clothes, do something unusual for you, something weird. Your girlfriend may be important to you, but remember that she isn't you, just a facet of your life. There is no "cosmic accountant" out there to decide who deserves what, so rather than feel unworthy, you might as well make the most of it. Live an incredible life, that others might realize they can do the same.
I'm sounding like a self-help book now, so I'll stop.
Seriously, seems to me you've got it relatively well off. Perhaps a little soul-searching and perspective-seeking might help you to realize where you're at. I'd also recommend shaving, getting yourself cleaned up, maybe going out with some mates, buy some new clothes, do something unusual for you, something weird. Your girlfriend may be important to you, but remember that she isn't you, just a facet of your life. There is no "cosmic accountant" out there to decide who deserves what, so rather than feel unworthy, you might as well make the most of it. Live an incredible life, that others might realize they can do the same.
I'm sounding like a self-help book now, so I'll stop.
Wow. That's... Thank you, brother. For a random fellow on the internet, you've summarized my relationship and provided a hell of a lot of insight about what's going on.SckizoBoy said:
Side note: I don't understand why people want to trade lives with me. It probably sounds like I've got everything figured out, but I really don't. If it seems like I do, it's because of my girl. I'm a high school senior who lives in Ass End Of Nowhere, Illinois. It's not worth it, guys. Trust me. XD