Anyone ever had to stop hanging out with a really good friend?

[razer17]

yeah, im hanging out with my old friends less and less because they all go to 6th form while im doing work and stuff
there's one that i only ever see at parties now, its a shame

You don't plan on going to uni or college? Shame on you!

i went to college and hated it so much i ended up getting kicked out... and uni is too expensive anyway, so im dodging it XD

uni isn't that expensive, it's by far the cheapest loans you will ever get in your life. then again higher education isn't for everyone, and if everyone went uni then a degree means nothing anymore.

OT: yes i have stopped hanging out with friends before. one because he was an intolerable macho pervert. constantly blatantly checking out girls, once saying "dont you hate it when you stare at some girls ass, and then they turn out to be 12" "funnily enough, no. that doesn't happen to me". plus he is currently dating some woman with two kids.
Although i am also that guy that people stopped hanging out with. well one person. and he had an excellent reason to do so.

 

[dontworryaboutit]

A resounding yes.

 

[TheMatt]

I don't hang out with a couple of old friends because they don't want to be seen in public with my huge hairstyle. Sucks 'cos I thought they were all alright.

I MUST know! IS it like a giant mullet? Move to Canada, you'll be a hero.

On topic - I WAS that friend who canceled on plans to play wow. It's a fricking sickness in every definition of word. i eventually got out of it. The only thing you can do is hope for him to get out of it on his own.

 

[jonnosferatu]

Yes. He was the "antagonist" in an emotionally manipulative, abusive relationship with another one of my friends who has become so psychologically dependent on him that she refuses to end it. He broke up with her once already to start dating someone else for three weeks, and got back together with her within a few months of THAT relationship ending.

I kinda turned a blind eye for most of it, but this year she's been getting more and more depressed and her art (the one thing she can actually do) has become almost disturbingly dark.

I found out a few days before graduation that he'd pressured her into sex about six months ago despite her objections.

 

[Golden Gryphon]

I went to about 5 different elementary schools so I don't have any friends from childhood to lose. There are two examples which spring to mind from high school and sixth form though. First one was a friend who I told that I liked him and he stopped speaking to me even though only a couple months before he had been complaining about another girl doing the same thing to him. The other one was an ex-boyfriend that I still wanted to be friends with after he broke up with me who agreed and then proceeded to treat me horribly, have a mental breakdown, drop out of uni and tell me that he still loved me. That was fun. He also tried to kill himself, got sectioned, was released and still occasionally contacts me to insult me. It is all a great shame because he was actually a lot of fun when we were just friends and when we were dating.

 

[LordSphinx]

A friend of mine just said he would prefer that we don't ever talk again, because I thougt that devotion to God is being a sheep and avoiding to search for real answers. But then I realised that he was being drawn in a sect. Oh well, it proves that its not such a loss after all.

I also had a girlfriend who lied to one of my friend because she was a nice girl and it was enough to make her jealous. She became distant for a year, and I didn't know why. However, I got back in touch with her and we are still friend today, years later. I learned just recently that this was what happened, 'cause all of this happened behind my back.

 

[goatzilla8463]

-snip-

It used to be a Dragonball Z hairstyle but I was forced to get it cut by my parents.

I feel plain now

 

[Lexodus]

Hundreds, from moving around so much. Penultimate one was a guy I was in a group of three with- it was him, me and another friend, we were in the same class, saw each other at every opportunity and all made the vow to take the 11+ together to get into the same school. Our mutual friend didn't get in because he is dyslexic and missed his appeal (was in hospital at the time), so the two of us went to the same school, confident we were going to be best friends. Then, when I get picked on by the sporty assholes, he suddenly changes his tune and tells them how I wouldn't stop pissing him off in our last school. For two years he makes my life hell, convinces others to do so as well, until it is 122/125 in our year that hate me without even knowing me. Then, one day, he apologises, we start hanging out again, and then, without warning, he just ups and leaves for the other side of the country, and I haven't seen or heard from him since.

The last one was one of the 3/125 guys that stuck by me for the whole 3 years in that school, and was the best friend I ever had. I eventually made the move to my new school, and I had to leave him behind. That was totally heartbreaking, because he'd been there for me at every turn for three years, even though all of his friends had told him to just bully me like they were. He even beat up the guy that had attacked me after school, which was totally awesome of him.

It ain't wrong to miss a dude that mind-fuckingly nice.

 

[Lukeydoodly]

Yeah.

But we are opposites really. I mean he likes going out all the time and I thought he would have realised over the years that I really don't. So yeah he rarely talks to me anymore let alone meet up and eat a shitload of cheap food.

 

[Amethyst Wind]

Back in 6th form, I had a friend named Joe, great guy, fun to hang around with, always good for a laugh. But one day I just walked away from the fella, wasn't gonna stand for what he did.

Now I live in a small town in North West England, we don't have a great population of non-caucasians, there are some, but probably around 1-2% of the town at best. Our group was pretty much all white, and the topic of people of different races never really came up. One day me and Joe're walking along when we pass by a group of black people going the other way, and Joe comes out with a completely unexpected, seriously racist remark. I was like "the hell'd you say that for? It's not a funny joke." He wasn't joking, he 100% hates black people, and wouldn't give me an answer beyond "I just do." I tried for 20 minutes to convince him that he was wrong, he wouldn't budge even though his viewpoint made no sense.

I walked away after that, haven't spoken a word to him since. (It's been about 7 years now)

 

[GonzoGamer]

Anyone else have a similar story?

LOL you could replace WoW with heroin and magical elves with crackheads in that post and it would still make sense.

Yes but he went to rehab and stopped doing crack... literally.

Years and years later:
I was the best man at his wedding.
So don't completely write him off, it's a lot easier to stop playing wow than to stop doing crack.

 

[Miss_M]

I had an 'arragement' with a good friend, which overlapped him breaking up with his coke-head stripper girlfriend by a couple of days. She found naked pictures of me on his phone. Turns out he may have misinformed me when he said they'd broken up. Now she wants to kick my ass.

He's a bastard.

 

[Unstoppable Wall]

Lost a damn good friend due to the fact that he got caught up in drugs, we still hung out after that and still do occasionally, but it's just changed him so much that I've pretty much broken ties. I'm at a point where I have to look at what's going to matter in the long run and though he was like a brother, he fucked his life up pretty bad and changed to an entirely different person, kinda sad really.