Commanderfantasy said:
We live in a society now where I have to actually be careful how I joke with my friends when we are out to dinner, or out playing cards or whatever, because if some passerby takes offense they can then start a witch hunt to try an ruin my life.
Commanderfantasy said:
What I say with my friends should be our business and if you eavesdrop and hear something you don't like, then that is your fucking problem not ours.
This is dishonest and you know it.
So one here is talking about people making snarky "you jackass/cocksucker/etc" jabs at each other at dinner or cards while some overbearing SJW eavesdrops from 3 booths away and screams offense at something they wouldn't have heard unless directly listening in.
This thread is discussing bigger toxic stuff happening at WORK, not out on your own time, and not harmless mildly annoying snipes.
As in, you are basically "locked" in a building with these people, maybe even in a room with them and you can't leave when they start saying not just the occasional snipe of affection at each other. Where you HAVE to hear their shit every single day probably for hours on end.
It has nothing to do with treating others with respect because I am not talking about blatant shit talking here.
I assure you that 99% of us here are talking about the blatant shit talking here (the rape jokes, the n-word and so on) and not the little man-snipes.
It's you who keeps pretending this is about the smaller stuff that we're not talking about.
Look the sexual behavior and comments, if they are in fact happening at Riot and these articles aren't just fabrications for attention, are not something I would stand by either.
Ok, so then we get to the actual stuff that the people here are discussing and not the "dudes making friendly snipes at each other over dinner being censored in my imagination", and the first thing you do is add qualifiers like "IF they are in fact happening" and "IF these articles aren't just fabrication for attention".
Dude, there's stories of nasty sexist gross behaviour directed against women all over the place and they're especially prevalent in tech. There's been multiple studies, multiple exposes, and tons of these stories over
years.
Considering the mountain of evidence over the years, it's pretty likely this is in fact something that happens a lot and you should probably give them some benefit of the doubt when yet another one shows up confirming the same pattern at work.
I mean, either that or women are somehow secretly the illuminati and control all the media and are making up everything as part of a master plan to get attention. Which is ludicrous to think of.
But the other stuff, where the guys are just joking with each other using swears and insulting words by means of affection, is just what guys do.
Again, no one is talking about what you and your pals do on your own time. This thread is about the stuff going down at work, where professionalism is expected and you can't just walk out, and is about the more flagrant shit.
Also, sniping seems to mostly only be a guy thing among a certain segment of people. I've rarely seen it myself, outside of the sports-obsessed crowd, or the fratbro type crowd.