Are looks really *that* important?

[FamoFunk]

Shallow?
Or is it the personality that shines through for you?

I know looks matter a bit, I guess it's what could grab your attention to someone.
But don't you ever get that thing where someone doesn't really attract you until they start talking, realise you have a lot in common, or just something about them makes you see them in a different light and you think "Woah"?

Are people these days really that bad they will judge someone by their looks before giving the person in question a chance?

 

[Jedamethis]

Well, it's the first impression which usually decides whether you want to walk up to them and start talking. I've never heard of anybody who didn't like the look of somebody but went and started talking to them anyway...
Good thing not everybody has the same image of what looks good.

I actually had a school project on identity which involved something like this. I said the same thing, but I think I could have phrased it better so my teacher wouldn't think I'm a shallow...can't think of a good word here. >.<

Oh, so I don't make the same mistake I did then, looks aren't everything. Your manner, how you move, what you sound like, and all manner of other things are important.

 

[rokkolpo]

They are good for getting laid easy.
And they help a lot.

Other people just need to be cool.
Which is easier when you've learned looks aren't everything.

 

[Palademon]

Looks do matter, but they shouldn't.
People often choose whether or not to talk to someone based on attractiveness, style, or expression.
That's why I like the internet, no looks until you decide, just personality.

 

[SimuLord]

Looks aren't everything, 'tis true, but there exists a critical distinction between someone who simply does not take care of themselves vs. someone who didn't exactly win the genetic lottery. How you carry yourself and present yourself is as important, if not more so, than what your DNA gave you.

 

[manaman]

Looks are not everything. I once had a brief relationship with a very, well, calling her dumb would be nice.

Still I wouldn't have even given her more then a few minutes of my time if she had not be a knockout.

Yes, looks are not everything, but they are defiantly not nothing either.

 

[Monshroud]

Looks matter depending on the social interaction you are having. Playing WoW for instance, how that person looks isn't an issue, it a matter of skill and communications.

In chat rooms, people who don't know what each other look like can really hit it off and get to know eachother. Then when they finally meet, the fact that they have a connection can allow for the dismissal of their looks, even though that person may have origianlly dismissed them based on their looks.

In a Bar, or a Club though.. Trust me, no one looks across the room and thinks "I bet that guy/girl has really high morals and/or has a great personality" They are looking across the room thinking "Check out that body!"

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

For some reason they do matter, and thinking about why they do makes my head hurt. Personally I've always thought it matters how you carry yourself and how you act, and not what you're wearing or whatever.

If your goal is to get laid then sure, other than that? Not so much.

 

[Simskiller]

Girls? Meh looks help but I like chicks personality and intelligence first.

Guys? FUCK YEAH THEY BETTER BE GOOD LOOKING.

 

[RatRace123]

I'd say they're kind of important.
They only carry a person so far.

Beautiful or not, if your an absolute dumbass, people will treat you as such.

 

[Instant K4rma]

Well, I think in the big picture, looks don't count for "everything". If you find someone you "click" with on a personal level, then looks don't matter as much. Though I agree with the fact that today's society is extremely judgmental of how people look, and I will openly admit that I stand accused of this. I think to some level we all judge people based on how they look, whether or not we want to admit it.

 

[BioHazardMan]

I don't know if its my bad eyes (lol) or my change in personality, but it seems that I no longer care about looks as much anymore, if I love someone's personality, I find them attractive, when many of my friends don't. So I guess I would date someone with a good personality. I won't date a gorilla or anything though

 

[Stammer]

Brains are what I look for first in a woman. But yeah, I'll admit it I'm a bit shallow too. I have very broad perceptions of what I think look good so it's not like I'm really selective, but if a woman doesn't fit in that wide spectrum then I'll be a lot less likely to want to go out with her.

Brains are worth the most points (I really don't want to go out with a ditz), followed by hobbies (I don't want to go out with a girl that I have nothing in common with), followed by personality (I don't want to go out with a girl that I don't like). If the girl is really awesome in all of those regards I wouldn't care about looks at all.

 

[manythings]

Ever heard the saying 99% of a persons opinion about you is formed in the first 10 seconds? Scientists have shown it to be pretty true.

Good looking people get better jobs, higher wages, more lenient treatment. A similar thing happens with tall versus short and single vs married.

 

[rubinigosa]

Shallow?
Or is it the personality that shines through for you?

I know looks matter a bit, I guess it's what could grab your attention to someone.
But don't you ever get that thing where someone doesn't really attract you until they start talking, realise you have a lot in common, or just something about them makes you see them in a different light and you think "Woah"?

Are people these days really that bad they will judge someone by their looks before giving the person in question a chance?

Well I want to think that I am not that shallow but as you said the looks do grab your attention to someone.But in the end it always the personality that is the most important.I might think someone is attractive but if they act like a idiot I will only think of that person as a idiot and stop thinking that person is attractive. And with a person I may not find attractive at start its the opposite,I may think that the person is unattractive but as a nice personality and after a while I might think that person is attractive.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Looks are massively important. If you are good looking, you're less likely to get convicted, and tend to get a lighter sentence.

Ok, not all of us are career criminals, but still.