Are relationships overated?

[pulse2]

If it isn't a good experience, you're doing it wrong.

You're either with the wrong person or are not ready to be in such a relationship.

Relationships are great. Everyone should try it.

I don't think it's whether you are doing it right or wrong thats the question, its more about the fact that should it be at the top of one's priority list?

I personally love writing as much as my girlfriend, I love her to bits, but I was hardly lonely, unhappy or incomplete before I got into a relationship with her to be truthful with you, it may seem slightly harsh to some people, but it's true, before meeting her, writing novels and drawing is what made me happy, it still does, but now it takes up 50% of my happiness in order to fit my love for her into my heart as well.

So what I'm saying is was my relationship my be all and end all? No, not at all. I'm of the belief that you find someone when you are ready and if you want to, better to be alone and happy then in a relationship to appease others. Is it really that SAD to be single? No, it's not pathetic at all, no one should feel they HAVE to be in a relationship as long as they are happy in various other ways.

 

[PurplePlatypus]

I would say it?s more that being single is looked at in a bad light when it shouldn?t be rather than being in a relationship is overrated.

 

[Bezza27]

im in high school and people seem to depend on them. and when it ends people treat them as if their parents died. its not ovverrated if its love (ie taking it srsly like marriage) but otherwise yea they are

 

[RabbidKuriboh]

having never been in one i can't offer much, but i can say that my bilogical desire to seek a mate is quite strong and on a couple ocasions has overridden my usual distaste with most people


but for the reccord i would like to try it at least once, with a girl that i actually like and am not just physically attracted to

 

[FightThePower]

Probably, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to be in one.

 

[artanis_neravar]

[(except I'm generally interested in those who aren't interested in me)

Hehehe, yeah, i am pretty sure that that is waht is usually going on anyway.
Or you are interested in a girl who's friend is interested in you.
Or you miss the bleeding window.
And i can go on all day long... =P

Or the person interested in you is someone you particularly dislike

 

[similar.squirrel]

They are when you're getting dumped. But the nice moments rank among the highlights of human existence.

 

[Spartan X1]

For me I thought I had a good one then alil distance between us and it falls apart and now I'm freinds with a few girls at my college and I've been around long enough to see them go out with people we're their relationships rose and fell like civilazations so yeah relationships/dating is overrate. The system is screwed anyway "I'm going to be freinds with you for 3 months but go out with this person I met 2 days ago." WTF! I'm a straight male by the way.

 

[azurawolf]

About 4 years ago I got with a guy who I believed was the one I was going to be with for the rest of my life. Well, our relationship was turning out really bad and I wasn't happy and I knew that he wasn't happy either. I didn't want to be alone though so I didn't do anything about it. I wanted to know there was someone there and I was so scared of never finding the right one for me.

Well, he left me. And I can't tell you how much more free that made me feel. I realized that if you are in an unhappy relationship, your life is gonna be miserable.

As long as you are happy, there is no need to force yourself into a bad relationship or stay in a bad relationship if you are unhappy.

I am now with a wonderful boyfriend who treats me a million times better then my last and I couldn't be happier.

I see so many people who force themselves to stay with someone when they or their partner are not happy because they are scared of being alone or can't function without that person.

I may have rambled a bit...
oh well.

Pretty much... if you can find happiness in a relationship, that is awesome!
If you are single, there are other ways of finding happiness. A relationship does not mean happiness.

 

[RatRace123]

Yes they are. We've been conditioned to seek them out and peer pressure in school doesn't help, but in the end relationships aren't necessary for happiness.
Sure, they're a source of happiness, but it's entirely possible to live a rich, full life while forever remaining single.

 

[loc978]

I'd say it's not as simple as saying "they're overrated". Yes, society pushes us to be in relationships due to an outdated concern for keeping the birthrate up and continuing the species... and some people only enter into relationships because of that pressure.
On the flip side, some people seem to be born anxious and co-dependent. For those people, I'd say relationships aren't overrated.
Personally, I'm in a relationship that started more out of a mix of compassion and desire... and it's turning into a headache. I've never been the guy who wants to have a "significant other", I really miss the days when I just had a string of casual fuck-buddies.

 

[yndsu]

[(except I'm generally interested in those who aren't interested in me)

Hehehe, yeah, i am pretty sure that that is waht is usually going on anyway.
Or you are interested in a girl who's friend is interested in you.
Or you miss the bleeding window.
And i can go on all day long... =P

Or the person interested in you is someone you particularly dislike

Yep, that is how it is.
Never the one that you actually like, isnt it.

 

[Grabbin Keelz]

I have accepted the possibility that I could very well go through my entire life without being in a relationship. Since I'm 19 I'm sure that opinion will change in the future. I do love the idea of a relationship, especially the ones done right. I don't believe there is a the one out there for me, I just have to find a girl I like and date em. Scott Pilgrim showed me that your perfect other doesn't have to have your personality or beliefs, as long as you love each other you'll get through.

 

[Togs]

its human nature- we're built to want to have a significant other se we can breed and make more people.

But as always there's exceptions to the rule- some people dont feel that need as strongly as others, and some people feel the need but get frustrated that they cant fulfil it, so they try and bury it.

 

[ScoopMeister]

Totally overrated. Who needs other people anyway?

 

[Vern5]

The society and media makes romantic relationships out to be these wonderful, godly experiences that are the ultimate goal of any rational human being. You know those teenage dramas where a guy/girl keeps vying for the attention of another guy/girl and they become their most elated when they finally reach that point of "going steady" (or actually having sex, depending upon what show you're watching)? That is all crap.

Also, I feel like the idea of relationships and sex being synonymous is fallacious to begin with. We live in the age of a variety of birth control/STD prevention methods so sex is rapidly abundant for those who want it bad enough and are prepared to handle the risks.

As for love... well love is a tricky one. Many claim to be in love when they are in a relationship but true love is probably the kind of love that refuses to be broken. So, relationships that end probably end because true love was never really present, while relationships that last until both members shrivel up and die has to be a sign of something otherworldly, in my opinion.

Maybe I'm just jaded after being through two serious relationships built upon copious amounts of self-delusion, denial and guilt but relationships are not the wondrous things they are played up to be. Serious Relationships should be left to those who have agreed plans to get married (or some other kind of lifetime bond, perhaps a business merger) whilst anyone with doubts as to where there romantic feelings lie should stick to the casual relationships. Well, maybe thats not fair to try and push that kind of mentality on others but it works for me.

 

[artanis_neravar]

[(except I'm generally interested in those who aren't interested in me)

Hehehe, yeah, i am pretty sure that that is waht is usually going on anyway.
Or you are interested in a girl who's friend is interested in you.
Or you miss the bleeding window.
And i can go on all day long... =P

Or the person interested in you is someone you particularly dislike

Yep, that is how it is.
Never the one that you actually like, isnt it.

It's kind of like someone out there gets a kick out of watching this stuff

 

[yndsu]

[(except I'm generally interested in those who aren't interested in me)

Hehehe, yeah, i am pretty sure that that is waht is usually going on anyway.
Or you are interested in a girl who's friend is interested in you.
Or you miss the bleeding window.
And i can go on all day long... =P

Or the person interested in you is someone you particularly dislike

Yep, that is how it is.
Never the one that you actually like, isnt it.

It's kind of like someone out there gets a kick out of watching this stuff

Women do mate, women do =P
But yeah, relatinships, and specially the issues people have with relationships, are
so bloody ironic.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

They aren't obligatory for happiness. But neither overrated.
Both sides can be fullfilling and fun. Both have their downsides. Just don't stress yourself out "oh i have to have a gf/bf or my friends and family think i am weird" if thats true, give your friends and family a good powerfull kick in the nuts. Because they all arent worth your time.
If you just think like that. Don't worry, be happy man! Live your life, stroll along the weeks passing. And just look out what happens. This isnt a thing that can be planned. It just..happens.

 

[pixiejedi]

I think they are completely pushed on us, specifically to women. I mean we are trained since birth to want to be a good wife and mother to our future progeny. I think its a little gross really. I know the opposite would be just as bad. In college I was looked down at for wanting to get married and raise children rather than being a gung ho career lady. Social conditioning just is that way though, I guess someone has to be trained to take a sort of backseat or support system.

If your in a relationship with someone as invested in said relationship as you though, its definitely not overrated. Been with my now husband since sophomore year of high school, through long distance relationship in college and now away from home for me for the first time in my life. There is something to be said for compatibility but for us its been about adapting to each other when the other changes. We've gone through rough patches but we value each other and what we have enough to compromise.

So if ya got what I got, your incredibly lucky and its not overrated in the least.