Indeed. Some of us really do.Rarhnor said:Don't get rid of the "niceguy" persona. You stick with it. Ladies love the dorky nice guy.
Indeed. Some of us really do.Rarhnor said:Don't get rid of the "niceguy" persona. You stick with it. Ladies love the dorky nice guy.
Being honest with ourselves is a good step on the road to becoming a better person ^^J03bot said:I was. Now I'm an asshole. It's not much fun. Trying to find a middle ground somewhere. (Yes, it is possible to realise that you've become a worse person. It's a horrible revelation)
Wouldn't you agree you're in a tiny minority though? I've certainly never seen it happening in rl.draconiansundae said:Indeed. Some of us really do.Rarhnor said:Don't get rid of the "niceguy" persona. You stick with it. Ladies love the dorky nice guy.
I loved Felicia Day's character in "The Guild", does that count?faspxina said:You already answered that question when you referenced the "nice guy" as "Someone who lets other people walk all over them in an attempt to please everyone".Glass Joe the Champ said:And to the .01% of this site that are women, what exactly is bad or unattractive about "nice guys" anyway?.
Would you be genuinely interested in someone like that, or would you just feel pity?
Happened to me before, got the exact same thing "too nice a guy, just want to be friends" etc. But you know what, if that's not what they want then that's not what they want & later they might find out differently.Glass Joe the Champ said:Hey guys, just asked a lady friend out today, and I got the whole "You a really nice guy, but..." speech about "not wanting to ruin our friendship" and inevitably ended with "...but I still want to stay friends." [small](Except she's going to avoid me like the plague from now on, so it's not like we're really going to stay friends)[/small] Story of my life...
[/useless whining]
Anyway, is anyone else here a "nice guy" in other people's eyes? By "nice guy" I mean someone who tries to be courteous and polite to everyone, but comes off having no confidence or masculinity. Someone who has a lot of friends that are girls, but no girlfriend. Someone who when they like a girl, makes the mistake of becoming their close platonic friend because they're too timid to ask them out. Someone who lets other people walk all over them in an attempt to please everyone. Ect, ect...
[small](In some circles, this is also known as being a "huge, spineless pussy".)[/small]
I've been trying to get rid of the "nice guy" persona for some time now and be more confident and assertive, but I keep falling back into old habits. Does anyone else have this problem? And to the .01% of this site that are women, what exactly is bad or unattractive about "nice guys" anyway?
Oh, and sorry if this topic's been done to death. I couldn't find anything on the search bar, but I have a feeling it's been done before.
Pretty much me. Except I've finally got a girlfriend. (20 and about time)Glass Joe the Champ said:Hey guys, just asked a lady friend out today, and I got the whole "You a really nice guy, but..." speech about "not wanting to ruin our friendship" and inevitably ended with "...but I still want to stay friends." [small](Except she's going to avoid me like the plague from now on, so it's not like we're really going to stay friends)[/small] Story of my life...
[/useless whining]
Anyway, is anyone else here a "nice guy" in other people's eyes? By "nice guy" I mean someone who tries to be courteous and polite to everyone, but comes off having no confidence or masculinity. Someone who has a lot of friends that are girls, but no girlfriend. Someone who when they like a girl, makes the mistake of becoming their close platonic friend because they're too timid to ask them out. Someone who lets other people walk all over them in an attempt to please everyone. Ect, ect...
[small](In some circles, this is also known as being a "huge, spineless pussy".)[/small]
I've been trying to get rid of the "nice guy" persona for some time now and be more confident and assertive, but I keep falling back into old habits. Does anyone else have this problem? And to the .01% of this site that are women, what exactly is bad or unattractive about "nice guys" anyway?
Oh, and sorry if this topic's been done to death. I couldn't find anything on the search bar, but I have a feeling it's been done before.
That's cold!FrostyChick said:Nope, I'm not a "nice guy".
As for what women find attractive in men, well I don't find anything attractive in men.
Yay me for being super helpful!
Seconded.wootsman said:Every time I try to do nice things I always get abused.
It will never go away I'm afraid. I should probably make a thread about more than half of the guys I liked who went to slutty, more attractive girls rather than me but I have a lovely boyfriend now so I'm not butthurt. [sub]That sounded kinkier that it should e_e[/sub]If I can find love, anyone can.EverythingIncredible said:It's nice to know that the old stereotype of girls liking jerks is FINALLY going away.
I hope that 0.1% was um... what's the opposite of hyperbole? Whatever it is, I hope it was that.And to the .01% of this site that are women, what exactly is bad or unattractive about "nice guys" anyway?