To be honest I wouldn't know. I haven't really had any female friends in my life so I don't have much experience on the matter. I am interested in girls but not really interested in dating girls yet because I haven't met a girl I really like.
Are you comfortable around people of the opposite sex?
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Ha! I do not envy you your high school life(!) I was, in a way, rather lucky. My secondary school was the last all-boys school in the area, but the year I started was the year that they had girls join the school, so that by the time I graduated, it was fully mixed. And it was just as well... my two best friends from that time were girls (even though in my year, they only made up about a fifth), so *phew*(!)Hipsy_Gypsy said:
Anyway, I imagine there was a lot of 'airy kissing' taking place at your school. =P
I fine talking to anyone that I know or at the very least have a reason to talk to, only reason I find talking to some people uncomfortable is I can't randomly go up and talk to someone for no reason, always seems awkward. If there is a topic or something to break the ice I use my hilarity/stupidity to make conversation
The bigger the group, the better. If it's a one-on-one chat, I curl up in a ball and start to cry.
I am when it comes to those I like or have a crush on. Usually I'm not but am out of character in front of a crush.
I feel you so much, its easier to talk to girls when you're in a group of buddies, especially when your buddy is incredibly flirty all you have to do is not fuck up. I always find myself more confident when I'm with friends than normalNecrofudge said:
I think its because with 1-1 chats all the attention is on you which is awkward if you don't know them well already
Yeah because I can read 99% of everyone like an open book. I used to not be though, then I just sort of realized that was unnecessary and changed my behavior :| .
Anyway GL with getting over it, seeing as they make up roughly 50% of the population I know it can be tough.
Anyway GL with getting over it, seeing as they make up roughly 50% of the population I know it can be tough.
Why get nervous? They are just people - treat them like you treat anyone else. Be yourself....never try to act or say something cool because you will not be call and will look like a retard.
First, lemme answer your beat questions.krazykidd said:
(Beat) What about me?
(Beat) No, not really.
(Beat) Well, it can't just be you, but your level of doom is up to you.
Allow me to explain a few things. Your problem is that you're not able to go "Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!" in terms of attitude. Your confidence is shot because you're thinking too MUCH about it. Take your mind off the hook and start making small talk instead. Crack a smile and a few jokes. If you don't go over well, at least you were entertaining.
I'm fairly comfortable around most people now. Although I'm much less comfortable around most people who knew me before I re-wrote my personality, the few I am comfortable around are the ones that helped me through it. Incidentally those people are girls, I guess it comes back to something I once came up with while talking with a mixed group of friends in college.
"Say you do something stupid (but potentially awesome) and injure yourself. What you want from a female friend is attention and care for your well being (physical and emotional) What you want from a male friend is for him to pick you up dust you down and say "Tough break man, now get out there and try it again, faster"
This could just be me but it summs up a lot of how I feel about gender roles but not the genders themselves (Case in point, I have a good number of female friends that fit in the male friend role from the quote above and I can think of one male friend who acts more like the female friend)
Generally people are people, men and women are generally slightly different in how they approach things though (obviously a generalisation and therefore inaccurate by nature) so for me gender isn't really a factor. "Intelligence" or what I would term intelligence is however, the sort of person who thinks a tabloid is quality journalism or reads trashy magazines won't understand me at all and I don't really understand them (I like to think I do, but its in the same way I like to think I understand animal psychology) which makes it really difficult to make any kind of connection. I realise that sounds slightly snobbish but I do sometimes feel like I am a species apart from those people.
Yay for rambling sleep deprived trains-of-thought!
"Say you do something stupid (but potentially awesome) and injure yourself. What you want from a female friend is attention and care for your well being (physical and emotional) What you want from a male friend is for him to pick you up dust you down and say "Tough break man, now get out there and try it again, faster"
This could just be me but it summs up a lot of how I feel about gender roles but not the genders themselves (Case in point, I have a good number of female friends that fit in the male friend role from the quote above and I can think of one male friend who acts more like the female friend)
Generally people are people, men and women are generally slightly different in how they approach things though (obviously a generalisation and therefore inaccurate by nature) so for me gender isn't really a factor. "Intelligence" or what I would term intelligence is however, the sort of person who thinks a tabloid is quality journalism or reads trashy magazines won't understand me at all and I don't really understand them (I like to think I do, but its in the same way I like to think I understand animal psychology) which makes it really difficult to make any kind of connection. I realise that sounds slightly snobbish but I do sometimes feel like I am a species apart from those people.
Yay for rambling sleep deprived trains-of-thought!
I'm fine around men. Other girls I feel are always judging me. XD It doesn't help that I go to a school which is really focused on Greek Life so most of the people I see on a regular basis are sorority girls. It's a generalization I know, but I grew up being made fun of by the typical jocks and pretty girls in middle school (being a geek and flat chested at 13 is apparently justification for harassment) so I can't help but see my former tormentors in them.
Men tend to just be easier for me to talk to which is weird. I never had a lot of male friends growing up, but now that seems to be my entire social circle.
Men tend to just be easier for me to talk to which is weird. I never had a lot of male friends growing up, but now that seems to be my entire social circle.